35 and Older Accountability Group

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by artifact, Nov 24, 2018.

  1. It's been a rough week and a half. I hurt my back and have been laying down resting for the most part, which is not a good recipe for staying PMO free. I have had back problems for awhile and have had a very hard time finding someone to help me but found a new doctor who seems to have some insight so maybe I'll have some luck. I love exercising and being active but I feel like I'm always in rehab mode (I guess the same for PMO). Anyway, I am better and closer to my baseline. Hopefully I'll be able to start getting my head at least a little bit right. Gotta keep trying
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  2. The same as yours, to quit fapping.
  3. discovery

    discovery Fapstronaut

    Hey man, I feel you (and literally) on those back issues. I have my own as well that have been bothering me more lately and have had an impact on my lack of success with nofap (though of course, this is only one factor). I'm actually concerned that once the world returns to normal and I can go back to work, I won't be able to do my job, which requires a lot of walking and standing for long periods at a time. I'm doing stretches, heating pad and exercise and they help, but I don't know if it will be enough. I have no medical insurance and am doing my best to avoid a doctor visit. Hang in there.
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  4. I relapsed last night as I stumbled on porn accidentally on Twitter and then binge watched for 30 minutes damm
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  5. Nash78

    Nash78 Fapstronaut

    Yes, I am interested.Thanks.
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  6. Jerky

    Jerky Fapstronaut

    Alot has come up lately. The thought occured to me that PMO is not a standalone addiction, it has many siblings.

    I have other issues i am dealing with that have resurfaced as i was attempting abstinence.

    I cannot meet myself half-way with my addiction. It has to be all or nothing and i must continue to fight.

    I will normalize over time. It feels as of i am fighting a dragon with 7 heads. Honesty is my most effective weapon.
  7. If you haven't yet, I would recommend looking into Stuart McGill. He's a scientist from Canada who has studied low back problems for an entire career. His method and philosophy is the only thing that has helped me overall. He has a book called "Back Mechanic." The other people I have seen have given me things to do that have made it worse. I found a doctor who treats patients with the McGill method and he helped me understand what is really going on and what to do about it. Of course, that was very recent so we'll see what happens over the next few weeks to months, but Stuart McGill has overall been very helpful to me.

    I remember thinking last year that my goals for 2020 were to get rid of PMO and get rid of back pain. I've still got one month haha. There will be a 2021 though too.
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  8. @Merry Terry - Congrats on your 60 days as of yesterday! Hope things are going well.
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  9. Things are going well for me this weekend. Luckily, I got my relapse out of the way during stay-at-home Thanksgiving. :emoji_drum::cool:
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  10. Rebooter13

    Rebooter13 Fapstronaut

    Hello gentlemen,i hope you are all doing fine.
    The last month and a half i wanted to take a break from nofap and everything related.I wrote it again here, i noticed that somehow relapsing was getting more attractive while knowing i don't have to do it and i have to reset my counter here.
    Did it went good?Well in the begining no but after the first 10 days and several relapses that fear went off and the attractiveness of relapsing related to counter reseting desapeared.I think i managed to clear my mind from all this, i wanted to get rid of something i was considering a trap and i think it worked.
    I am back now and i will start being more active again.I am just trying to find what is working better for me and i balance between several plans because i noticed when i am getting used into a strategy that works for me i need to switch to something different fast.

    For those who want to introduce the habbit of daily maditation but they are struggling, there's a game called PLAYNE.You can find it on steam sales until monday for 9,99 (strarting price 12,49).The game is really simple, you just logging in and choosing the time and the type of meditation you want to practise this day (for example guided etc.).Everytime you complete it you get some plant seeds and you can choose were to place them to create a better virtual enviroment to meditate and metaphorically creating a better you while trying to keep the fire of your "base" alive by daily meditation.The final purpsose is to make this habbit so strong in you (it will take months) until the game asks you to plant a real tree in a real enviroment.
    If anyone need more details or instructions i can provide them so feel free to ask.

    Here is the link for the game https://store.steampowered.com/app/865540/PLAYNE__The_Meditation_Game/
    Last edited: Nov 29, 2020
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  11. Hi all just checking in here...keep relapsing very week or so mostly due to stress and then the self loathing after I relapse is intense! But I will keep going with this group as it's the one thing that motivates me and keeps me away from daily porn use which I DON'T want!!
  12. Merry Terry

    Merry Terry Fapstronaut

    Thank you! I’m doing okay. I still can’t resist looking at P-subs, which occasionally veers of into peeking at things that are basically P. I really have to stop doing that. But I haven’t M’edcto any of it for 60 days and thst really makes a big difference. There’s still the occasional automatic reflex to run away from stress by looking at something, but then the looking has lost almost all of its appeal. So, well, a lot of progress made, a lot still to learn.

    How are you? I’m on my phone now and I can’t see your counter for some reason...
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  13. Circleinthesquare

    Circleinthesquare Fapstronaut

    M this morning so back on it now......
  14. Jerky

    Jerky Fapstronaut

    Full PMO relapse on Saturday. I had planned to do it eventually then changed my mind the took a recovery break and completely disconnected from NoFap for a few days. It didn't take long for me to give in.

    It was subconscious desire. I was attempting to 'meet my goals' and in a way i did. This is ok. I am back on my path. I abstain from PMO. I don't beat myself up today. I try again.

    My goal today is to remain completely clean with no cheating.
    This includes no PMO, of course, no edging, no rubbing, no shower massages, no hands-free M, no prostate massage (outer base of penile shaft) no seat grinding. The list goes on and on...

    I believe i can achieve 90 days totally clean. I will continue on the path.
    I gain benefits and have urges at 30 days and 60 days. The days after 60 are most productive for me.
    The urges become stronger and stronger by this time but the mental benefits are well worth the hassles of temptation.

    My goals today is use the recovery momentum to push me further than i have been before.

    Today i have something to look forward to. It helps to motivate myself. If i give in i mess up my energy
  15. tonyk1982

    tonyk1982 Fapstronaut

    Day 77 - made it through the U.S. holiday weekend here...the family stress turned out to be less than the early polls were suggesting. Had some "shared moments" with the wife for the first time in 6 or 7 weeks. Did not feel any chaser effect whatsoever which is new for me. I think part of that is I really don't care that much about sex right now (any more?). Don't know if that is flatline or a real change in my perspective. It's almost like managing the sexual part of my life is way to much work versus just avoiding it (IRL and PMO) altogether. I don't know wtf is up with this. For today, I will stay clean. When tomorrow presents I will stay strong. I hope the same for all of you too.
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  16. Pirate3819

    Pirate3819 Fapstronaut

    Relapsed today, but put a lock on my computer so I cannot binge.
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  17. discovery

    discovery Fapstronaut

    Thanks man, I will look into Stuart McGill. As for your 2nd paragraph, yes, you still have all of 2021. I can say firsthand that there is a link between back pain and PMO. There have been plenty of times where the O just wiped away the pain for a while. A quick blast of pain relief without pills or injection. But drugs, nonetheless. Thanks again.
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  18. Circleinthesquare

    Circleinthesquare Fapstronaut

    tuesday evening - looking good tonight
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    NICEDUDE Fapstronaut

    Immediate goal is to get into double digits once again!
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  20. GottaBFree

    GottaBFree Fapstronaut

    We need to get back to a strict "don't talk about your brand of poison"

    I've lost some young streaks and looked crap up from this thread lately too

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