35 and Older Accountability Group

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by artifact, Nov 24, 2018.

  1. magvor

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    Morning all, checking in. One day at a time!
     
  2. sjindjin

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    Made it to 9 days or so, but looked at psubs on Tuesday and that is a relapse for me. Not great to still fall into that trap, but on the other hand glad to now count that as relapse to drive more accountability. Must not allow myself to look for it. Still not there.
     
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  3. Rebooter13

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    Watched porn and edged for 20 minutes or so...
    I am reseting the counter anyway. I know if i don't do it i will have an extra excuse next time.
     
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  4. jaberwaki

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    Sorry to hear, @Wanttosucceed But don't just say you've relapsed. First, congratulate yourself on 62 days free from porn. That's huge! That's two full months where you brain got a chance to heal and breathe. This is not a moment to be ashamed of falling down, it's a moment to be proud of how long you stood tall.
    Next, tell us what led to the relapse, and how you can update your plan to prevent a similar situation in the future. It's only a failure if you don't learn from it.
    Finally, you're now in the binge danger zone. What are you going to do over the next week to make sure this was a one time slip and not a full blown relapse? Get outside, schedule time with friends, shell out for an online course you're interested in, make a fitness goal, pick up a beach read fantasy or sci-fi series to get lost in (The Expanse is a good one, if you haven't read them yet)--anything you can think of to fill the time with positive activities. You got this!
     
  5. Day 14 check-in!
    Feeling normal today. Not good, not bad, just normal.
    Something notable!
    Yesterday, there was a very stressful situation in which usually I would overreact with anger, common practice for addicted behavior, but I just stayed balanced and calm which is rare.
     
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  6. JJ_Kino

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    reset again :/
     
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  7. Thanks Jaberwaki what a lovely post to read!

    Yes I was just in despair yesterday...I'd been having a really tough few days as I'm tapering antidepressants that I've been taking for nearly 2 decades and I was having some grim days and it all got too much and I got drawn back to porn to lose myself in it....

    Yes You're absolutely right 62 days is a great effort and only 10 days away from my record for abstaining from P

    I haven't looked again today at P but I understand the binging thing as I've done this before so will keep busy as possible to help....back at work tomorrow so that will help me

    Thanks for your support and time to reset the counter
     
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  8. jaberwaki

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    Checking in. Getting hit hard on the emotional front, but standing strong and staying solid. Be well everyone
     
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  9. Hey y'all. Sorry about the delay in updating the ranking. I got clobbered by PM last weekend but I'm ready to get back to it and make a serious effort.
     
  10. magvor

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    Checking in.

    I can relate!
     
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  11. emanuel_free

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    Checking in...

    Still throgh a rough time with my relative. But still focused that PMO is not an answer but more problems so I'll stay clean!
     
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  12. With PMO you receive a short time pleasure for the price of long time suffering.
     
  13. GottaBFree

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    When we see it for what it is, it's easy to avoid. I struggle to maintain the perspective.
     
  14. JJ_Kino

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    Feeling depressed I can't get out of this rut I am in at moment.
     
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  15. magvor

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    This really chimed with me.

    The relationship difficulties that this causes are difficult to accept and deal with and it's incredibly disheartening to see that things may never improve.
    But then again, this is a long-running problem (decades). In that context, it's optimistic to expect much effect after a few months "clean".

    So easy to give up.

    It may be rough, but I'm going to keep taking things one day at a time!
     
  16. ctr

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    Checking in. Urges under control but the very intense, random p fantasies are not. My current streak doesn't mean much to me if they don't eventually dissipate. It always seems like I'm a step away from a relapse. Trying my best to stay extremely busy and distracted, but it's still really tough with the current situation.

    If any of you guys are dealing with issues related to ts p, it would be great to hear from you. Thanks.
     
  17. Right there with you. I'm not happy at all about my recent efforts. The PM addiction seems to have a mind of it's own, but I will never stop trying.
     
  18. Just to get you right - what exactly do you mean by ts? If it's a P genre I can relate.
     
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