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Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by artifact, Nov 24, 2018.
28 Days Check In
Checking in. Happy Monday everyone, looking forward to a good, motivated week.
Checking in today.
Here and sober by the grace of God.
I crashed pretty hard today and still in it.
Well that just spiralled out of control.
Today was a relapse and I went back quite hard on my bottom-lines. There was some M but the catfishing and related behaviors just got more and more preoccupied.
The four days I had were solid but the urges were really strong in the brief unstructured moments during those days. All it took today was hanging around on my computer a little longer than I should have, and not stepping way back when the urges kicked in as I would have in the sober days before.
I've deleted all routes to profiles and images I created today, and I need to keep it that way for the rest of the evening.
Tomorrow I can expect a chaser effect from today's acting-out binge. Probably a little stronger than when I came back to nofap last week. So, no computer tomorrow.
I have found the Freedom program/app to be very useful in getting through moments of temptation. It is used by many people as a "productivity" tool to avoid distractions, but you can also use it to block porn. It can block social media sites or all websites, or you can make your own block list. What makes it different from traditional filtering programs is that it blocks in "sessions" instead of permanently. So if you start having tempted thoughts, you can set it to block all websites for the next four hours, for example. Then it allows access again. This way there is no need to find a way around the program, you can just change your settings before your session starts. Anyway, you might want to look into it. No program can cure porn addiction, of course, but this is another good tool for the toolbox.
@ctr - congratulations on reaching 90 days as of yesterday! You are now a member of the 90 Day Hall of Achievement! We wish you continued success in your efforts.
I just joined this platform. I am 35 yo soon to be 36. Today it is my 4th day without fapping. I need a mentor or guidance to stay away from pornography. I am really serious about no fapping this time after trying couple of times. Can I join your group?
@karshup In terms of mentoring I advise you start by looking up "Universal Man" on Youtube and watch his series on Sexual Self Mastery. This should give you a pretty good starting point.
I used to be addicted to drugs. I could go a while without, but whenever I had a reset and was taking again, I would go in even heavier than last time. This just reminded me of it and shows again how related porn and drug addictions really are.
How to join this group?
Do urges lessen overtime? I used to smoke cigarettes but then quit 18 months ago. I still have urges but it is very easy now to ignore them and I do not miss smoking at all. I have to mention that I am not going out or socializing these days so once I will start meeting people for drinks then I will see how much control I have....but reading some posts right now and saw people who are off PMO, still have strong urges after 4 months...what do you think about it?
It's a tricky addiction because a desire to have sex is healthy and normal. Porn and sex aren't a closely related as we think they are but it creates more urges than other addictions I think.
Search the forum for PAWS (post addiction withdrawal syndrome) and you will find better and more specific info.
Checking in... got infected with the virus and Lord decided to save me when everything was falling apart...
glad that you are okay and you have recovered
Checking in. Be well everyone
Checking in. Here and sober by God's grace.
Thanks so much! I really appreciate the shout-out and will continue to do my absolute best. I couldn't have done it without the all the support from you guys and for that I'm forever grateful.
All the best to everyone. We can defeat this!
Sure I was tired and work felt hard, but I could have done a light workout, some house work, small bursts of actual work with breaks in between. But no, brain chose relapse again. Just a quick peek of course, that's not a relapse! Just a few unrelated searches of course, just 5 minutes of course, just oh these 15 minutes aren't a relapse yet i can still walk back from the ledge, just....oh crap. And now I have nothing.
Back to just focusing on each day. I don't care what day it is. Day by day. 1 day, the one ahead of me. I just have one goal, and that is use my time well and not fall in the PMO trap. That's it, that's all I need to remind myself of. You have 1 goal. And there are many ways to reach that goal but there are no shortcuts. No perfect system. Put in the work and be mindful when those inevitable difficult moments arise. There are never any excuses to PMO. Not being tired, not being stressed, not having anxiety, not being unhappy.
With that being said I am signing off and will go back to practicing what I preach.
Hello. Would like to join.
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