35 and Older Accountability Group

Yes that's what all these casual flings do to you - make you waste your time and yourself actually. You're wasting your seed (which is your energy) on women who won't commit to you - the same is for women who do that, they give themselves for men who do not deserve that. I've heard a very deep talk by pastor RC Blakes on youtube about the things queens do while they are waiting and it's a lot of things to handle before you even enter into a relationship. Whereas these days we mostly f.ck and not do the work neither on self-growth nor on growth of relationships.

 

Friends, my 124 day streak came to an end last night. I put it down to high volume of work at the moment. And the motivation to keep going to next milestone of 150 days just was not there. I'm feeling ok though. Just want to check in to start the process again and avoid chaser effect. This time I am going to start again with the 3 day challenge and work my way up to the longer challenges again. This time with the goal of no edging at all. If I edge I will not reset my day counter but I will restart the day challenge I am on. @AEC Josh2415 you are our new leader! Lead on!

 

@Freeman82, I'm humbled to have risen to the top of the list. Encouragement to you and all of us. Stay safe and aware.

 

Day 8! Could I please join this group?

 

I would suggest keeping it. It is a goal and a mark that you have the ability to get there!

 

Just checking in. Was just beginning to think about how long it takes to reboot and what it feels like when you have. I've read that the longer you've been using internet porn, the longer it will take to reboot. But I have been using through other media, probably since I was 16. It's been a long time.... Any thoughts from anyone?

 

checking in everyone, nothing much to say, things have been really busy...

 

I definitely do the least amount of work possible to have sex. I need to think about this more and twhat the effects are. Changed my goal to just P now. It is what I'm most concerned about and good first step. I'll have to review the rules for the P goal. What's counted as P generally?

 

Nearly didn’t make the 25 days... my brain tested me a lot last night while alone in a hotel room, probably overtired, and missing any physical connection with the OH for way too long.
But, made it through thanks to the sleep stories on the Calm app. Phew.
I want to experience the 30+ days, so I will stay strong to the task.
At the 25 days mark I can still be a little grumpy and short tempered with the kids, but do feel the brain fog has lifted considerably.
I still notice pretty girls in public, but it isn’t the trigger it used to be.
I’ve really got into cold showers, something I never thought I would. I find them invigorating in the morning, and I am relishing the challenge of turning the dial down in the shower and being hit by the blast of cold water. Can’t stand more than a minute or two of the really cold water though. But after 5 days of doing them, I want to continue.
So, all in, I’m making progress, and staying strong!

 

Congrats artifact! You're almost back to two weeks. Nice comeback. And love the Kentucky reference! I'm a UK graduate myself.

Freeman, my brother! That was a hell of a run. 124 days PMO free. Not an easy task. That was amazing. And I love your compromise to deal with edging. I don't think that edging should blow an entire streak, but yes, having a penalty of a number of hours is a solid compromise. Good luck with the next stage!

Love it! May the entire leaderboard be filled with trophies

 

Checking in. Day 16 of my new goals. All is going well. What I'm doing is something I know would be doomed to fail without a long reboot first. But so far so good. Basically, I want porn to be my friend, not my enemy. It is like fire. Or alcohol. Fire can burn down an entire city, or it can be used to cook your food, if you can control it. My experience with alcohol has always been positive. I have never had addictive tendencies with it, and have always been in control. Thus, it has always been a positive force in my life. I would like PMO to be the same way. I have more that I want to say, but for fear of possibly triggering others, I will not say it. But I will just say, that so far this experiment is working. I have not had temptations the other 6 days of the week to PMO. But again, I would not attempt this without a long reboot first.

 

Don't take my trophy away!!!

 

I'm in this for the long haul, and did not watch any porn... thank you god for one more day on the P wagon!