35 and Older Accountability Group

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by artifact, Nov 24, 2018.

  1. OK, don't worry. I'm glad you guys like it.
     
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  2. Hey @Ninja23 , we have a spot for you in the group. Reply to this comment if you're still interested in joining.
     
  3. Just a little friendly reminder to the members that in order to stay listed in the ranking, your goal must be no PM or no PMO.
     
  4. LancPaul

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    Re set, re adjust, re focus, re start, as many times as you need to, just don’t quit.
     
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  5. I don't agree. You have to stay on course and be focused and not tell to yourself "ok, I can slip here and there bc I can reset anytime I want", it's like masturbating or PMO'ing in moderation or smth like that? Or letting yourself slip when life sucks because oh well you can readjust any time. You have to put some real effort to achieve your goals and not try to find another comfort zone.
     
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  6. discovery

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    Not sure if this was directed at me or not, since I posted that I was checking in. I am well aware that I'm not eligible for the ranking, but will still be checking in from time to time.
     
  7. LancPaul

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    I agree. This would be for those who trip up and may feel discouraged. Few and far between are those that get it right on the first try.
     
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  8. FreebirdFH

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    7 days with out porn. the longest streak with out seeing a porn website. I can't say I miss it a lot, BUT, I've watched a lot of yoga videos (I am into yoga), I've looked at tons of pictures on Bumble and talked with lots of women hoping for easy sex (or a serious girlfriend), had sex with one girl I'm seeing casually, M'd once or twice a day last few days. Smoking pot every day for past week. (glad I smoked last of it today and won't have access to more). Have interviews with three major banks over the the next week and I've been avoiding prepping like I should be. Just feel so incredibly lost and anxious. The procrastination, looking at female images, putzing around, etc. has made me much more nervous. Even though haven't looked at hardcore porn for 7 days, I feel like crap. I wish I could pull it together already.

    Not sure what to do. Guessing it would help to change goal back to P. & M. from just P.
     
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  9. Rebooter13

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    I am not sure if it's a good idea to just P , at least not until you have a few good streaks.But everyone is different and you know yourself better than anyone.
     
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    man, idk why, but checking in is getting harder and harder, plus i started M again, trying to get back on the wagon with that, but P is the main demon in my life. This is still new territory for me, being porn free this long, and its starting to not feel worth it.... man oh man, how long do i have to feel like this?
     
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    sounds like your flatlining, my friend, stay strong, and resist the demon. It wants you back, don't give in.
     
  12. Yeah. I think this porn industry is destroying men in general - especially young men. They lose their focus and don't have any goals in life except the desire to fap more and to more exciting material. A man has to have goals and be driven by his life vision, he has to slay dragons in all senses of this word and not just sit with his cock in his hand. It is so very sad. Hopefully, men are awakening and so are women :)
     
  13. EcoMunchies

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    @fleurette, I agree with completely! There’s more to life than self pleasure!
     
  14. EcoMunchies

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    @FreebirdFH leaving P out is one thing, and a challenge in it’s own right. But what I’ve found over the years of trying to break free, is that I need to leave the M behind as well. The guilt lessens with time with leaving out the P, but the clearing of the brain fog and general lifting of confidence, mood, and attitude I’ve noticed comes with abstaining from M.
    You can still O, but it can’t be from M!
    This reboot I’m on now is the best I’ve been for years, and I’m even wondering how I managed to do my job for the last few years considering how much clearer I’m thinking since cutting M out back in February (with only one slip up 26 days ago!!)
    What works for me is being positive. I’m not trying to reboot, I’m doing this reboot.
    We are all different, so do what you think is best for you. I can only tell you what works for me.
     
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  15. thejesus_07

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    I would like to be involved with this group!
     
  16. discovery

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    I've had some realizations lately about procrastination. When I came back from Cuba, I had a ton of stuff to do related to my job and other things. But.. I wanted to wrap up my Cuba trip first. Meaning, sending pics and videos to travel friends I made, emailing certain people things related to the trip, adding others on Facebook, etc. At the end of the day, things that would not hurt me if I didn't do them. But, I procrastinated. Just didn't want to do it. And, I felt totally stressed and nervous. About what? About not sending pics and videos to people I'll most likely never meet again? The real reason was, I was stressed about not being in control of myself. I told myself I would do something, and then I didn't. The procrastination is a sign to my subconscious, and conscious mind, that I'm not in control. This is what was causing the stress. I came across a quote once, that the best way to the other side is through. Just do it. The number one benefit is getting the uncomfortable task out of the way. And then next there is the practical benefit of whatever it is. It will help. And make everything easier. Put it down on paper. Get it out of your head, and into the real world. And then do it, cross it off, and move on to the next thing.
     
  17. Yes - have you been born into this world for merely indulging in self pleasure and die fapping to porn? Just think about this for a second. Is it the only thing your marvellous body and brain is capable of? I am on day 60/90 of social media detox including media news also and I feel like awakening from a long long dream!! Let's stop living in the illusion that we are addicts and we can't control this. We have everything we need to be a better version of ourselves.
     
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    Congrats on your 100 days!!!
     
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