35 and Older Accountability Group

I think our substance is not real women but the fantasies. We have watched so much P that we automatically start fantasizing when we seen female body. Clearly brain is not healed, neither are we. Let's get up and be clean again!

 

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Yeah I agree. I'm back to my normal routine as of today, so that should help quite a lot. Just got to suffer through that chaser effect a few more times, and should be good.

So much lack of motivation the last couple of days, in that unhappy place where you forget why you're rebooting, you're miserable, and keeping the streak alive doesn't seem to matter all that much anymore. Buy definitely forcing myself to be accountable in this group is kicking me back into a streak again.

 

Keep it up, it helps with mental health as well as Testosterone, libido/ stronger erections etc.

I'm 6 days into my semen retention and with every passing day I keep saying to myself "My semen belongs to me, I shall not waste a single drop on anyone or anything."

Let's get this !

 

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Thanks @artifact . I appreciate being here and I am sure this will be helpful on my journey. Things are going well for me and I am making inroads in my recovery. I just want this out of my life for good, I am done. I just can't live like that anymore.

Have a good week everyone!

 

Hi all,
Still going steady. It’s been a nice change to reach a better state of stability. I can say it has been a combination of more than one thing, and when I put them together, it has become a series of sources of strength for me
My top sources of strength have been
A – bouncing the eyes. If I deliberately look away from any known temptation, this includes girls walking on the street or females on the screen, it doesn’t enter my mind.
B – expelling every lustful, thought, from my mind as quickly as possible . This has been somewhat easier, as the bouncing of my eyes starved my mind of lustful images. I’m quite surprised how affectively this is working for me so far.
C – working on a project that is fulfilling and enjoyable. I am really enjoying my current project. That’s a personal one and not spending a spare minute wasting time on YouTube or television or anything like that.
Three points alone have been really significant for me and I hope that helps

 

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Personally my reason for stopping PM, is it was interfering with my life. I would spend endless hours just wasting time. PMO was a big part of it but also it caused me to be very unmotivated, unfocused, I got very little work done, and I would feel terrible about myself all the time. And it was destroying my relationship with my wife.

Since stopping, I still have times when I feel bad about myself, but they don't last so long. I get much more work done but now I get stressed about it! But these issues are not caused by lack of PMO, they were always there I was just hiding them from myself. I still have things to work on about myself, I will need to get back into counselling sometime soon.

 

Thanks for sharing Low Tide.
As time goes by, I’m personally convinced that the desire to PMO is not so often a desire to see Naked bodies but one of medicating forms of pain. Porn is so cleverly designed to trigger the reward part of the brain, even more potent when combined with PMO. it a good thing you look to receive some counselling.
Forms of pain are many. Even shame is a form of pain, an emotion that’s uncomfortable that PMO temporarily dissolves. I was deeply feeling shame, resentment and lack of connection with my partner as one of my top forms of pain I tried to medicate away. It really is like a drug.

 

I can relate to that.

 

When I'm on a good streak, I feel like more of a kid, in the best ways. Less shameful, more proud, calmer, more interested in basic things in life. The difference is not night and day, it's more like a small improvement on most interactions and feelings throughout the day that make it worth it. Of course, I forget this sometimes and have to remind myself.

 

please add me to the wait list

 

Relapsed 2 days a go, i found a new app called remojo has some helpful materials on recovery.

Im getting urges to quit my job, so i can focus more on my recovery beacuse it's stressful job and i believe it's the reason why i can't make a progress on my recovery and start working on my career which is photography and social media, any advise im really confused.

 

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Checking in . 182 days. Interesting thing is that I don't feel any urges when I accidently come across porn on internet, however when I see an image of a woman dressed in a way I find attractive my mind just goes crazy.

 

good to hear that bro! congrats on 180 days.

 

Hi livinginhell, I think you are right that when you watch so much P, it changes your brain chemically that it becomes the first hurdle to overcome when trying to find your way out.
So many times people enter into P out of curiosity and thrill, but when the behaviour turns into a habit and a compulsion, it changes the neural pathways in your brain so the first thing you must do is to get to 30+ days just to give your chemistry a chance to stabilise before you can address the underlying issues why one goes to P. Those first 30 days are some of the toughest, indeed.