this is really really good advice..i will likely do that..i am pretty sure that is why i am awake right now..that and i have a stressful day at work today.Regarding your girl, I can appreciate how you feel and imagine trying to let it go could be hard as the possibility of it being something (even if it's just her entertaining/enjoying the attention) can lie in the back of your mind so I'm wondering if instead of letting go completely you can set a date to revisit it (like say a few weeks) and see how you feel then and it will give a you chance to reflect later and see how you're getting on
Thank you for reaching out and being there for me.