36 y/o agnostic man. Seeking contact for mutual support (Please read)

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by Emacula86, Sep 25, 2022.

  1. Emacula86

    Emacula86 New Fapstronaut

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    Hi!,

    I'm not sure how to begin. I've always struggled with impulse control and excessive PMO. I seem to go through spells where it's more of a problem and then times where it's a bit less of a problem, but more often than not it has been at least somewhat of a problem. Or perhaps more accurately it's a thing I use to cope due to other problems.

    I may differ from the majority of people on here in that I am not 100% sure trying to completely quit porn forever is the best approach for me. I'm open to that but it is hard to do, and I'm of the mind that if you can improve your overall satisfaction in life in other areas, and increase healthy coping mechanisms, that someone could potentially use porn in a responsible way, without edging for hours on end and falling into a cycle that's hard to get out of (sound familiar?).

    What I'm getting at is that I don't see porn as universally morally wrong. I do agree that for some of us like myself, our wiring makes us much more susceptible to it. Even if the ultimate goal is a porn-free life, I think getting there can come in steps, of learning how to decrease porn use, and control impulses through things like mindfulness, meditation, an accountability partner, therapy, and addressing the root causes behind why porn is a problem for any particular person. These are things I'm working on.

    I'd like to find someone of a similar mind-set and within 5-10 years of age that isn't afraid to open up and be vulnerable and provide support and help with encouragement and accountability (mutual). I'm agnostic, ADHD, leftist/progressive values, and also struggle with depression and anxiety but those things don't completely define me and there's also a lot about my life I'm thankful for. I have no kids or family and am recently single but those things aren't that important for finding an AP. If this resonates with you, hit me up! (central time zone).
     
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  2. nofapkev

    nofapkev Fapstronaut

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  3. Jeremiah4friends

    Jeremiah4friends Fapstronaut

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    Hey man.

    Hit me up if you're still interested in having an AP. Same time zone, and your "list" is almost as if I wrote it to describe myself.

    PM if you're interested.

    Laters
     
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  4. blackmad

    blackmad New Fapstronaut

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    +1 would be interested in pairing with someone on this thread. I find myself wasting so much time on porn, and feel such a physical pavlovian response to want to seek it out after such minute triggers. I want to feel in control and use my time better. The mention of adhd really resonates with me - when I can't focus, i know i can turn to porn for something that will provide a kind of focus rather than a listless malaise, but I'd way rather be working on my self focus and self control than wasting yet another night on dirtypenpals.
     
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  5. nofapkev

    nofapkev Fapstronaut

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    Hey sure thing I will PM you.
     
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