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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by 2525, Dec 27, 2017.
116 days completed.
Thanks, brother! Going strong, thank goodness. 21 days down.
Day 9 PM
Day 49 O
36/365...almost 10% of the journey completed...
I had a 14days streak, but as of this morning, I'm back to Day 0. It wasn't easy, and I must commend myself. This battle seems never ending, and I must admit, I'm fed up. But tomorrow is another day, day 0, I'll pick things up again from there, gradually, day by day.
This is great!
Great to hear that
An addict who overcomes addiction is capable of accomplishing anything.
117 days completed.
This is great! I Just started a new streak, and I must admit, it can be tiring and disappointing to starting all over again. How have you been able to accomplish this feat, and been able to overcome temptations? What have you done differently,o up to this day to achieve this?
Day 1 here we go, again.
I can feel you. I have been on this challenge since the beginning of 2018 and had many relapses since and a few breaks from Nofap. Unfortunately, I have not come across an easy way to stay on track (if you find one let me know!), so I am not sure if the following is helpful to you:
The most important is obviously your reason why you want to stop PM in the first place. The strength of your reason will determine your endurcance quite a bit. I have good reasons why I want to stop that drives me.
However, even good reasons are mostly not enough for me. I have had quite a few really long streaks, but mostly shorter ones between 1 and 3 weeks. I can tell you exactly what is different when I have a long streak: I always have long streaks when some very important event happens in my life that I consider to be a new beginning. My current streak coincides roughly with the beginning of my marriage; the other long streaks I had were when I first accepted God into my life; when I had a new girl friend that dislikes PM. Unfortunately, you can't force these kind of motivators.
But the scale doesn't have to be so big: I went to a temple complex in my holidays a few times and spent a few weeks there, to really delibaretly take time for internal development and have a supporting atmosphere, being surrounded by likeminded people. Stopping PMO in this situation was always easy (also kind of because you really feel like you shouldnt indulge in PMO at a temple complex), and once you get a long streak going it gets a lot easier to keep it.
In addition, I find it really important not to blame myself when I do relapse. Blaming myself isn't helpful, and I am much more constructive when I am not on a guilt trip. When I am stuck in a relapse cycle it is really imporant that I dont blame myself, and remind myself that I can relapse, but I will keep getting back on track, even if it might take a while. That is part of the reason why I am still stuck on this forum after 2.5 years, I wont give up and get depressed. Perfection isn't reached in a week, and patience is key. In addition you can try meditate if you want, I meditate every day, and it does help me to remind myself of the things that are important to me.
I am a bit unhappy about my message myself, because I have to admit that I need a lot of support to conquer my addiction and I wished I could tell you that sheer willpower is enough for me, it is not. I have tried the sheer willpower approach many times, and I always fail. I need a big event, or an atmosphere that really supports me to reach the top.
But an important and motivating fact: Once you stay sober for maybe about a month it gets A LOT easier to stay sober, and you will not be dependent on any support any more. You just need the support to beginn with. I hope the above is useful to you. Good luck on your journey, you have chosen a difficult path, but it is surmountable and I can tell you that you will feel better with yourself when progress comes.
Last night lost the streak
Actually it was a over 50 day streak
The streak might be lost but grown a new habit reading books and it is staying with me and for the first time about to finish a book called "the monk who sold his Ferrari"
Anyway I will attempt again to conquer this pmo shiit
So let's go brothers
Day 22, checking in.
Thanks for that warm reply. Honestly I have been trying to quit pmo my whole life. My longest streak this year was 2 weeks not more than that. But you response motivated. Especially finding the reason why we want to quit. I agree that's the most important question. The stronger the reason. The easier it will be to fight. Imagine if someone were to say, stay away from PMo for a year and the reward is a 1 million dollars. Everyone in this forum would beat the challenge, motivated by the fact that they will be wealthier. Why because the reason to quit is strong.
I really appreciate takin'out time to write this, I'm grateful.
"The strength of your reason will determine your endurance..."; This right here, I believe is most important, your "why".
I've also noticed events in someone's life also goes a long way to helping attain and maintain a streak. And someone must find ways to engage themselves in productive activities, and even challenges.
Meditation, With it's calming power, is a sure bet to fighting urges. I'll make that more of a priority in my everyday as from now on, I know it will get me a long way, and farther than I've achieved.
I wish you the very best in your journey, and thanks once again for your the advice.
Day 10 PM
Day 50 O
Finishing Day 18
Great useful insights @The_Fisher on how to gain the upper hand on this challenge.
Fell off the wagon for a bit. Day zero starting now