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36yo virgin need help

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by wallaby83, Oct 17, 2019.

  1. wallaby83

    wallaby83 Fapstronaut

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    I'm new on the forum. I'm 36 yo still virgin (I'm Italian so sorry for my not so good English).

    I have problems to my legs (even I can walk without any assistance) so is not simple to find a girlfriend. Some years ago I tried to have sex with an escort and I was really excited but after few minutes i misfired because I felt it was an "impersonal" sex intercourse and probably even because I used to masturbate at least once a day (but most of the times 2/3 times per day) since I was 13 yo.

    Generally I masturbating with porn, since today we have internet everywhere, but if I cannot watch porn I masturbating even without.

    I tried Nofap for 7 days last week but I felt a little pain after an erection on Sunday morning so i gave in.

    I'm in Nofap mode since Monday but I'm having erections every days and I'm worried I start masturbating again.

    How I can get rid of porn and masturbation if I cannot have a girlfriend and I cannot even have an escort since I think I can misfire again?
     
  2. Tud

    Tud Fapstronaut

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    Stay strong! Why you wonna filth yourself by using escorts? This is neither a solution nor a option to sustain your life.

    I quit porn because for me it’s a similar issue. We are using PMO and don’t realize that we put all our focus and energy on nothing than crap.

    We need to learn what it’s all about life. We need real people and honestly relationships.
    You don’t need PMO or MO, you need people!

    Ok, maybe you have an extra sophisticated challenge in life, but you should never give up to achieve your goals.

    Meet girls! Focus on relationships and not on PMO. Once you’ve found a girl which loves you, you won’t think about these things you’re struggling currently with.

    -> don’t resign, continue!
     
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  3. Demodectic

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    In my city the escorts are too expensive. At least $175 and also they wont kiss you on the mouth. If the government in USA would simply decriminalize prostitution it would be best for everybody. The laws are absurd.
     
  4. Tud

    Tud Fapstronaut

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    Why do you think escorts could give you any useful?
     
  5. ¿Cuál es la diferencia de una scort y porno?
     
  6. 12&6

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    The Government isnt the issue. An Government isnt the Government anymore. Its a conglomerate of special interests from energy to healthcare to tech. All roads lead to Rome my friend. Simply put its not in their interest.
    Its a tax/health issue. The G here wont based on health and tax issues period. I agree its absurd and very outdated . Id go even further and say its holding some aspects back. The revenue alone. Yet.... If they introduced it like most industrialized nations-youd have to control it health wise. We have essentially no heath care in the US. Even after the last attempt to improve our conditions which was really an attempt at cost reduction in the market...even then it quickly became like 4 business men trying to get another drunk at lunch so he could stick the other w/ the tab. This is bc no one wants to control cost in reality. They want to shift the cost indirectly back to the consumer and make it SEEM like they did something. Keep in mind most pharma is controlled here but produced overseas by agreements made by those who directly benefit from those contracts. This is not party biased,its the culture. In doing so its a shell game. The tax payer is realizing more and more they are not getting their tax worth outta the state and federal G services in return as is. Since the overall federal/state policy has been cut revenue (i.e cut taxes on a select few) and increase spending for the past 40 yrs ANY domestic reform wont happen bc itll involve massive tax overhaul to tax and healthcare in that order. Instantly . Before that happens you must redo any wealth shifting and banking laws,so they cant shift wealth overseas and avoid the tax. Asking for that is like asking a banker not to f*ck people outta money-its what they define a business and they cant not do it..... If you or I were to spend more than we made wed be held to task and they define us a a POS in public terms. Here-they hand the criminal the cash so he can rob more effcient.From the land comes the wealth. Simply put you should invest in your garden,tend to it. Yet special intrest wont allow that to happen. Interestingly enough if they did-the third beast of privatization would attack. Then youd see your hourly costs go sky high-black markets pop up like never before and itd get outta control faster than a sailor on leave. Youd hear "side gig" used more frequent and see waiting rooms pop up like a cottage industry...hell maybe youd have an app for that. Plus - most important.....last I checked the "V" doesnt print a receipt when shes done w/ you. No record of transaction equals no ability to TAX. The power to tax is above everything.While youd like to swipe a credit card its not that user friendly(even then theres your record of transaction)......yet lol.....If you legalized it youd essentially be legalizing millions of women to operate their bodies as independent businessness. Thats not acceptable for some sadly. Empowering women themselves if they so choose-yes,but more importantly allowing them to make MASSIVE amounts of UNTRACED CASH and FAST. Think about it in terms of hourly rates...and as we are all here know- the power of the "P" is real and addicting and can take you into Pandoras box...forget opening it . Youd have a serious problem quick F*ck internet porn...youd hear at first companies say "production was down,or the rubber industry is not keeping up w/ demand" blah blah blah....Its economics brother. The West loves to make a business out of a business when they cant make a business out of things- then when all else fails give you the moral debate. Anytime somone beats you over the head w/ a moral debate its key to let you know that they have no other reason why to refute your debate.
    Not everything should be a business I feel but if this were to be-it would need to be G controlled and regulated.They know this and thats why they stall as they do w/ every..other..f*cking thing...I think the WORLD could take a note from The Netherlands. They require state check ups etc by their workers. This is the only way. Yet that involves state healthcare. Yet that requires higher taxes(despite a better quality of life) yet that means a breakdown of a useful yolk theyve used to enslave you(no accsess to family planning, healthcare costs...HOME LOANS-no livable wage to pay for anything, privatized prisons)...it would be nice if they did it brother but we dont build ANYTHING right or w/ a purpose sadly anymore. No one cares about anyones well being sickly and its all been deemed acceptable behaviour. Its all about the dollar now more than ever and meant to go right back to them. I agree and think if done PROPERLY itd actually do some good even to some extent. Germany did so recently. In an attemot to find more tax revenue they legalized it. Yet they are a fully functioning nation. We only function for those over 250k really. Yet why would they do anything that would be a win win or good for anyone other then themselves? Plus- if they want that they are jet setters themselves,they go overseas for a weekend.
     
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  7. 12&6

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    Keep focused on the NoFap brother. Do not worry about your condition yet focus that extra energy on "the lifestyle and mindset changes" get a creative outlet. Mine is cooking or excercising or my motorcycle. While some of these may not be options theres beauty in finding a solution. Options for excess energy are vital. At least for me they were. Meditation helped me A LOT. Breathing techniques.
    I would first focus on nofap. Calendar so you can SEE your progress. Then slowly worry about any misfire issues. I think those would fix themselves if its a time/sensual craving issue. Lastly- dont ever be to hard on yourself or question your path. Everyones is different. You are surviving in life and it can be crazy at times. We are human. We have needs. Yet should practice personal accountability as well. Keep focused on your journey, dont lose sight of the forest for the trees. You can do this. I believe in you and know you can despite any physical issues. While you may not know me you came here and discussed this,which to me makes you part of the struggle we all have at times. I belive in you,and belive you can. Fight tge urges first....then conquer the release method later. Your body will revert to its normal hardwire. Give your ship a chance to right itself first. Youve got this brother!
     
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  8. Escort es una mujer que legalmente es una compañera pero que en realidad es una prostituta.
     
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  9. Demodectic

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    I agree any arguments against legalized prostitution are always morality based ones. But in spite of that women are trading sex for money ANYWAYS. Everytime you see a young girl with an older man we all snicker because its so obvious.....the situation.......Sugar Daddy floating all the girls bills in exchange for sex.
     
  10. 12&6

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    Very true- our current system at least her in the West seems to only enforce some negative notions of marriage i.e- sex for wealth or a good life. At least some cultures or people are at least open about it and admit it. Whats interesting about that is that plays off gendor roles the machine created . While it created the contract for property and tax issues its also instigating gendor arguments amoung women (divide and conquer).....and some are in a sense saying theyre fine playing the part just by being quiet and taking part. That would essentially be between two adults aside-why the need for a tax contract.....Also interesting is porns sub cons commentary on it. The adult industry is A VERY GOOD social commentary tool nowadays thats not as liberal or progressive as most think,its actually very conservative by most means and not like a perceived notion. These themes and niches are sub con thoughts used by the machine to enforce a sub con train of thought or notion. Racial bias(interacial),gendor issues( insert an dominated position,niche here even girl on girl) etc. Prime example is every parallel niche for every social debate and and even ones for reactions to those feelings. Ironically enough theres the wedding niche.... For all the sh*t people imply on it they are VERY organized VERY funded and VERY fast acting. Which brings me back to why were all here.....all of this......because the power of the O. Lol... They are the first on new tech and the first to monetize. Normally those who call them out are amoung( Im not calling them out btw just commenting lol)... the first to profit from them and or take part. Sex and war are still king now more than ever and its more profitable now than ever.Which is why your seeing heightend levels of "contractual services" being questioned. Raw times....and times business is at such a high price for these two issues means youll see more of it. Aside....that sugar daddy issue is hilarious lol...people debate that back and forth. I guess thats the ultimate business sucsessful business prop lol.
     
  11. wallaby83

    wallaby83 Fapstronaut

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    Thanks a lot. Fortunately I'm full of friends. I'm just worried just because quit from PMO and stay in hard mode, not voluntary since I would like to have a girlfriend, is very hard. I hope to get rid even of MO!!!
     
  12. 12&6

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    Focus. Utilize your extra energy on another level. Gym? Something entirley different for that moment only.
     
  13. Angus McGyver

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    Buona sera! The only thing that continued PMO use is going to do for you is to feed your ego, maintain the compulsion to masturbate, poison your brain, mind, soul and body.
    The way I approached it (and overcame 15-16 years of regular masturbation and porn-use) was first to stop all self-loathing, pitying and victimization and realize that my destiny and future is entirely in my own hands and my own responsibility. I had to ransack myself and telling me: "I messed up and self-sabotaged in the past (no one else) which was the result of my destructive thinking but fortunately, I am in control and can change this and turn this ship around which feels reat".
    After that, I started to fill in the void (that PMO had previously occupied) with productive activities such as reading, learning, and pursuing new hobbies and interest that started to reappear after a few weeks of abstinence. By slowly exchanging your bad habits with good ones (one by one) you will start to sense an increased self-control and decreased urge to masturbate and watch porn. By keeping yourself busy, you won't have time to think about PMO.
    So, start focusing on self-improvement rather than sex and other simple (and short-lived) pleasures that are just going to make you miserable in the long run. By setting up worthwhile goals and purposes in life combines with a burning desire to achieve them followed by some action, many people will automatically be drawn to you as you radiate good energy and power (men and women alike).
     

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