39 yr old Christian man, married, looking for accountability partner

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by jd112, Jun 10, 2017.

  1. Brisance2113

    Brisance2113 Fapstronaut

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    Keep your head up Mitch, you may have lost the battle. But, take a step back, analyze/find what started your relapse.

    Use the negative experience to drive the next better one!
     
  2. Mitchell46

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    I think this group is good, but if anyone wants to email me to help each other more, feel free to email me at [email protected]
     
  3. Mitchell46

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    Thanks man. Keep strong.
     
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  4. jd112

    jd112 Fapstronaut

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    We're here for you, Mitchell. Sin is stupid and it doesn't make any sense. This whole process will be a heavy slog for all of us, with many failures on the way. Thankfully, God's grace is infinite.
     
  5. clearview

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    Just trying to put together a list of who's interested in AP here. Did I miss anyone?

    JD
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  6. Mitchell46

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    Thanks man. I had a good day today. It was busy, but good. Thanks again.
     
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  7. Brisance2113

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    Keeping busy is my biggest key personally. I've started running again, kind of a meditation aspect for me. I'd totally recommend trying to get SOME new physical activity into your life. What's great about the timelines we're looking at, is that 90 days after doing some pushups/situps, or some running, or starting to do pull-ups; you're going to see some real results in your body. As we know, the same is said for nofap; so it just gives you/us exponetially more change to see some positive change in your life from both of these items.

    I know one thing I think about a lot, and have far to embarrassed to talk to a doctor about, is that if I was heavily MO'in as a kid, and that lasted for 17 years. What the overall impact on my testosterone (Test from now on) levels? Have I had an average Test level of a 4 year old for 10+ years?

    On top of PIED, and that garbage, we've been either forcing our bodies to over produce Test (maybe resulting in anger issues and such, at least I can definitely relate there). Or have we trained it so religiously that it doesn't produce as much? I know I've read that even in males w/o PMO habits, that abstaining from MO can yeild a massive % increase in Test levels in their bodies. I wonder if that can be related to some of the common relapse issues with PMO...

    Anyways, gtfo of your house/apartment/place, get into a healthy activity!
     
  8. Mitchell46

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    Messed up last night, so I'm back to square one. But, Father's Day was good, church was good, and I just went for a great run. So, God is good and faithful, even when I am not
     
  9. jd112

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    I think it's essential to remember that God's forgiveness is always there, even for the things we do over and over again and even for the things we know we shouldn't be doing. So you messed up and have to start again, and that sucks, but the fact is, you CAN start again and God is there with you and we are here with you.
     
  10. Robert D

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    Gentlemen, wondering if you've "officially" started an accountability group and if you're open to another (participant = me). I suppose you can find your way to my Intro post for my background. Summary: 43 yr-old Christian, happily married (but adversely affected by PMO) with 5 kids. Looking for accountability group of Christian men in similar age range (30 to 50s). Have been on NoFap for a few weeks and still a little disoriented on the format. One of you guys (sorry, don't want to click back in the middle of this post to recall who) asked about how to do this accountability group thing with/on NoFap. Personally, I would not want to do it on a thread like this as it is too public. Any consensus on how to go about it?
     
  11. Cfitzer7

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    hey guys! I'm a 21 yo married Christian man. Just recently married and been struggling with porn since I was 12 yo. This is the first time I've realized how much damage this porn is doing to my life. My sex life is seriously lacking mostly because of me. My libido is way down for someone my age and I can't finish when I have real life sex. Our sex is amazing but the fact that I can't finish has really had a destrimental effect on my wife. She has been more than understanding of my addiction and has done her best to help me through it. However every time we have sex she gets depressed because she feels as though she is doing something wrong. I know this isn't the case. So I need help. I can't do this without an accountability partner. I need to stop masturbating all together. Anyone willing to be my accountability partner? Preferably a Christian :)
     
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  12. jd112

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    I think most of us here are committing to trying to help each other with our shared problem. I haven't heard back from support about how to start a conversation with more than two people and haven't seen anything in the FAQs about it. A thread like this isn't my first choice either. If anyone knows of another way to go about it, I'm more than willing to give it a shot.
     
  13. eikon

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    Hey guys, I'm 35 christian and married and also looking for accountability. I have been doing nofap for about 4 years but my highest streak is 50 days. I want to take this to the next level and be able to reach out to others when I'm tempted. I think that's the main thing I'm lacking.
     
  14. Robert D

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    Regarding the NoFap support and FAQs, I recall in the Accountability page they mentioned one option people could use was Skype. My point is not to suggest Skype... I don't want to use Skype. My point is, it sounds like there really is no good way to do small group accountability INSIDE the NoFap platform (weird, you would think they could easily create that .. and should). Assuming that (no tool inside NoFap) here's my starting recommendation only because it is one of the few things I'm aware of that might work: Slack.com. I used it for a project with a few guys that lasted several months. It worked real well for that.

    I could set up an account (it's free) and invite the interested parties here using email addresses. Speaking of which, in the interest of privacy for a group of guys who don't know each other, I recommend an email address that doesn't reveal your full name (for starters anyway). As the Admins (NoFap) mentioned somewhere, don't put your email address in this public thread. You can private message me your email address and then I could invite all those interested to a Slack.com site that could be used just by the guys here.

    Let me know what you think (you can Google slack.com to see it functionality).
     
  15. eikon

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    Slack is a good option, but what about the app Band or groupme? I know personally I sometimes use slack for work too.
     
  16. jd112

    jd112 Fapstronaut

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    I don't really want to go with an app if I can help it.
     
  17. Robert D

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    jd112, do you have another suggestion?
     
  18. clearview

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    I think we're in agreement that this thread is not going to work for our needs. I'd suggest finding someone that matches your profile and reaching out directly. You can have multiple private converstations with different APs. Keep strong all!
     
  19. jd112

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    I do not really have another suggestion. My attempt to contact support here went unanswered. Is slack an app or just a browser-based platform? If the latter, then I'd be game. Having one-on-one support from a partner is great and I certainly don't want to begrudge anyone that wants to go that route. But there are several folks here that seem to think a private group would be even better for them. If we can make that happen, let's do it.
     
  20. Robert D

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    Ah, that's one route. May have to explore that. My personal preference was for a single, small group for efficiency sake (if for nothing else)and relationship continuity. I don't have a lot of time as it is and managing multiple (and divergent) communications is not the most appealing (but again, I'm open). Thanks for the suggestion.
     

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