4 weeks nofap and depressed

Spend far less time worried about what isn't happened and spend more time on what has happened. What has happened? You've became addicted to PMO. THAT should be your primary concern. Should you not deal with that first, rest assured that the other will be problematic (refer to so many journals on this site). Concern yourself about today's issues because tomorrow will take care ofitself. For, it is better to concern yourself with being the bestman you can for your future girl than to worry about not getting the attention of them now.

If you were a girl, would you want to date you now? 4 weeks is amazing progress but you still have a while to go. You're at a point where you just hadn't long left ICU and was just released from the proverbial hospital. You're still healing.

Allow 90 days to pass sober and a difference in you will be seen from many people in general.

 

Very interesting case, I experienced the actual opposite.

That when i would fap, i'd experience very high amounts of bad luck, between me and my partner or in life general.

Hang in there and concentrate on good things in life, god works miracles. I've just started my road to recovery

We are in this together. 4 weeks is a very astounding time. I'm hoping to acheieve this.

Good work!

 

Hello I am new to the site and I'm starting to read the forum, I decided to start with the topic of lonely because it's something that I feel identified. I'm new to NOFAP but it took more time trying to do something about this addiction to pornography and masturbation. I went to this site with the idea of meeting a girl that we can help us grow and become better people, I was thinking of writing I also like that this girl was willing to give everything but then I thought the pain would mean for both if ours not come to work because this the ideal partner not always depend on more than one endeavor. Well back to the subject, I've had periods where I've been one month or almost a month abstention (only I could be like that for a period of 6 months until I started working and stress I could not stay that way) but it cost me I thought a lot and even dangerous because there were times when I think people could tell he was abstinent time and it seemed impossible and keep trying to control it, even I have a very bad experience this time; now that I think about it I think I made the mistake of wanting to move quickly to one month being that could only be one week or two without pornography and masturbation keeping me, but the truth is I was very encouraged to keep that time. This happened roughly from June 2015 until the end of the year. I can recommend to keep busy in an activity, they are not alone in their homes !!!!!!!! and less if they have internet in your room, look for a job, an occupation, volunteer, study or seek a hobby that away from pornography. When one is just starting to have lustful and negative thoughts and negative thoughts can be very damaging, I tell you from experience because there was a time in which he was much in my room and was isolated reason that led me to feel depression and seek professional help and taking medication. It is true that costs a lot but it will come rewards: more social, more friends, more achievements.

Today I can not keep 1 month without pornography and masturbation, I can only be about 2 weeks because I'm working stress makes me feel tired, but not under the arms and I do not want to stay settled.

I think my experience can help Elric and if not at least we can be fellow travelers. There is no reason to feel bad because you do not see a lady, unlike maleness of a man is to know to stay away from pornography and masturbation and know how to treat a woman. Maybe you do not observe the ladies because you have not set a good hairstyle or clothes that no good reason not to be presentable, neat and of course cultivate the interior also that the shell will not only fall in love with a girl. Write me if you want to be my friend, tell me how old are you? Where are you ?, how long you trying to keep without pornography and masturbation? see you.

P.D: I think very good point about D.J. to prepare for the future when we could be parents of a child; and the comment of our friend ns123 is also very encouraging to know that there are other things we can see.

 

Getting success with the ladies is a skill in itself. In my personal experience nofap certainly helps me getting attention from the ladies. It sometimes seems like it is the only thing I need. But then again, I am a pretty social guy, I work out, I have read tons of books and I have good looks. If you feel like you lack in any area you should make it a priority to work on it. Work on crafting your body, get yourself some nice clothes to improve your appearance, read some books and upgrade your knowledge, meditate, learn some new skills, work on making your voice sound better, learn some body language basics, the list is endless. The point is that someone knows the answer to your problems. You can probably find a dozen books on the topic after a quick search on the internet. You can always improve. Just find your weak spots and work on them.

I can only guess what your problem is but if women do not pay you any attention then you probably have to work on your appearance. Then the first thing I would take a look at is your body language. Do you pay attention to the world around you or do you always look down at your feet? It is an important first step to have eye contact. Do you smile enough? A genuine smile is attractive. Do you have a open body language in general?

The second thing you probably should take a look at is your level of confidence and maybe mindset. Negative thought patterns forms the way you act and directly affects your confidence levels in a negative feedback loop. I cant give you all the answers you are seeking but I know for sure that you can find 1000++ books on the topic.

Then maybe you should pick up some books about how people think and act. "How to win friends and influence people" and "think and grow rich" is some good starters but I am sure you can dive deeper into topics like Neo linguistic programming and so on if you are interested.

 

Try meditating. It helps. I use the sedona method.

 

Praying also helps. Establishing a relationship with God allows you to know that someone cares about you and will always be there for you.

Just a suggestion.

 

DJ. It is right I think it's something that has helped me not only in the area of girls but also worry about feeding my spirit has also helped me in the area of my studies, my work, my goals, my friends ... I don't pray every day but I try to remember God periodically.

 

Talk to Him more often. It has helped me stay PMO sober.