40 and time to transform!

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Mother Earth, Oct 1, 2019.

  1. Mother Earth

    Mother Earth New Fapstronaut

    hi everyone,

    Am 40, have been watching porn since I was 12, when a friend introduced it to me. Many failed relationships. Low energy, coping with shame.

    Started meditating 6 years back, and made a commitment to not have sexual relationships without a long term commitment, have not had sex since. But the almost daily online porn has not stopped. The awareness from meditation makes the shame and feeling of hypocrisy worse. The only time I can go for 1-2 weeks without it is when I am on meditation retreat sharing a room with fellow practitioners. Really want to uproot this, seeking support from the community here.

    PMO Day 1 of 90. Can feel some anxiety already. Thank you for reading! Any advice will be much appreciated.
  2. 2GUNS

    2GUNS Fapstronaut

    Hey Mother, best of luck! My advice and what works for me for about 60-90 days is connection, here and on the phone, 12 step, therapy, group therapy, positive mucis, meditation (which you have covered), daly reminder of negative impacts, daily gratitude, find a healthy hobby (mine is nature / drawing trees), work out every day, my body needs to release the stress!!!, read recovery literature 3-4 nights a week, I am personally abstaining from alochol, I was starting to form dependency, and I have also started some anti-anxiety meds. Thats my working equation. Good luck. If you want to talk more let me know!!!!!
  3. Hi pal,welcome to the community. I dont have advices right now , as i struggle lately myself ,but i have been on long streaks and have been seen most of the benefits and i know for a fact that the fight tottaly worth it . Good luck in your journey!
  4. Hello and welcome! :)

    We are glad to have you as a part of our community. Here are some quick links to get you started.

    Getting Started Guide | How to Use the NoFap Forums | Panic Button | Day Counter | Rebooting Resources | Forum Rules | Glossary

    If you wish to keep a journal of your progress you can do so in the appropriate section found here

    You can also take part in one of the many challenges available. It can be a tremendous help. Challenges

    Also, there are groups you can also join if you wish to do so. You can browse through them here. Groups

    There are plenty of wonderful, friendly and knowledgeable people here to help you along on your journey to a life free of PMO. I wish you nothing but the best!
    rafael33 and control your life like this.
  5. Jefe Rojo

    Jefe Rojo Fapstronaut

    It can seem like a daunting task. I know what you’re feeling. Take it a step at a time and focus on the immediate path in front of you. I think 90 days is a good longterm goal but I would also challenge you to make some short term goals as well. Like getting to 21 days (since you haven’t been able to go more than 1-2 weeks). One thing that helps me is to focus on the individual days. If you can just get through today, you will have accomplished something great. If you keep this mindset, the days will start adding up quickly.

    Best of luck to you here! You’ll do great :).
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  6. rafael33

    rafael33 Fapstronaut

    Welcome to the Nofap community.
    The NO PMO journey is not easy but worth the effort.
    The community will support you.

    I recommend to install a personal journal.
    We all have our very individual learning process. Sometimes we are strong, sometimes we are weak. If there is a relapse, start again. All is well. You will make it.
  7. Heyyy welcome to the NoFap forum : ) It's nice to see you here fighting the good fight alongside us!

    Here is just some advice:

    First and foremost please take a look at each section in the forum, there might be something(s) you may find of big help to you. Feel free to post there :+)

    Then secondly I just strongly advise you to be active on your profile(as there quite a few active people in the profile section). Please start by choosing an avatar and then make daily status posts to show you're active and needing support/encouragement. They've also got a neat little feature that shows freshly posted statuses for all users to see. People will find your profile and give you encouragement/support.

    People (are beginning to) love communicating in the profilesection..(it should be and is )mostly spportive talk but it doesn't hurt to deviate from supportive talk. It would be great to have you join in and support others in the threads, profiles, and journal. Make sure and be grateful for the help you received and help after receiving some. Invest in some people's journeys. We could always use your help and in return you shall receive some as well!

    Thirdly, You should also highly consider creating a public journal and write about your days in more depth for us members to follow along your journey and offer support to you by way of posting in your journal.

    Last but not least: Good luck on your journey here, make sure to really give it a try with all your heart!

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