40 + days in!

A few things I noticed:

- I feel less judged. I feel I have more of a collaborative than competitive mindset which really eases your interactions with strangers and strengthens relationships in general.

- I'm more process driven than outcome driven. Less attached to outcome and more in flow state of your environment and the situations you encounter.

- Its so much more easier to approach girls especially the ones you are really attracted to. It's a thrill to go out, see a beautiful woman and approach them naturally with really good eye contact. The energy between you too won't be so awkward as you just become more present in nofap and genuinely enjoy feminine energy around you.

- I feel more aligned with my spiritual side. I feel like I have more of a connection with God that was always there when I truly think about it.

 

Congrats on 38 days! I sucked at approaching at first but you just have to do it in order to get good and when I mean good I mean you don’t give a shit anymore of the outcome. You’ll get rejected most likely but hey life is short and the pain of regret always outweighs the pain of failure so get out there my guy!

 

- When you get triggered and horniness is trying to consume you, let it! This sounds counterintuitive but hear me out. Just breathe it out. 4 seconds breathe in and 4 seconds breathe out. Know that you are a man and you're suppose to feel horny sometimes. Its actually a gift! Its your objective to "tame the beast" and use that God given energy constructively. If you try to suppress the emotion then it will be harder to control.

- Work on your inner dialogue... talk to yourself in the f**king mirror if you have to saying you are strong enough to get through this lust/porn bs. You do this consistently you will be able to control your urges easier. Its pretty much whats called the "winner's effect." The more small wins you accumulate, the more momentum you build and confidence you gain. You'll respect yourself more if you consistently practice self-discipline and you will exude that good energy to others.

- Tell someone you trust about your situation with fapping/porn and tell them you need their help whether its just someone you can reach out to if you get triggered, someone who can keep you accountable, etc. Dont be embarrassed by it. You being on this forum is already a monumental step into getting out of this trance that runs so many of us.

- If you slip up and relapse, forgive yourself as soon as possible. Don't wallow in that shame shit for too long or else your brain gets into a negative feedback loop with shame and porn.

Good luck out there and stay strong!