Last night, after we had sex, my husband said to me, "I can't believe I ever thought that jacking off and watching porn was better than having sex. I wish I could go back and just kick myself. I knew there was a problem back then, but I didn't know what it was or what to do about it." Last night was 39 days of nofap for him and for us. Today is 40 days. It was 42 days ago that I came to this forum, frustrated, lonely and desperate for help, basically at the end of my rope with the state of our marriage and sex life. Thanks to my husband's commitment to nofap and to the support and help offered by the amazing people in this forum, 40 days has made all the difference in the world. If you are here because you have PIED, or are wondering if giving up PMO really makes a difference, my answer is an emphatic "YES!" Here are the changes he and I have noticed: 1. PIED is GONE! 2. Increased penile sensitivity. 3. MUCH stronger/larger erections (his penis also seems bigger when flaccid). 4. Return of morning wood 5. Easier to get out of bed in morning 6. Increased motivation 7. Started diet/exercise has lost 20 pounds in 30 days 8. More engaged with me, our daughter, family and friends 9. Increased communication 10. Much increased frequency of intercourae 11. Much increased quality of intercourse 12. I don't resent him anymore 13. More affectionate physical contact 14. He watches me more during sex 15. I'm more inclined to do things he wants me to do 16. Increased honesty 17. Larger volume of ejaculate 18. Pursuing hobbies more/ writing more 19. Decreased signs and symptoms of depression/anxiety for both of us 20. More eye contact 21. More time spent together 22. More focused 23. I find him much more attractive The list goes on... Like I said, nofap definitely works! If you are new to it, are struggling, or are just wondering if there's really something to it, my advice to you is to give it a try and to power through your struggles. There's a very good chance that it will change your life and possibly save your relationship! I really wish more people knew about the damage PMO can cause and how much better life can become when it's given up. It really is a life changer.
Thanks for your post, it was great to read that, happy for both of you, I hope I will be able to achieve all those things as well!
4. Return of morning wood 5. Easier to get out of bed in morning 6. Increased motivation 7. Started diet/exercise 9. Increased communication 17. Larger volume of ejaculate 18. Pursuing hobbies more 19. Decreased signs and symptoms of depression/anxiety for both of us 20. More eye contact 22. More focused These are the points I can definitely vouch for in just 10+ days of nofap.
I think these are the most important. I personally never had PIED and all that it entails, so maybe I discount the sexual performance benefits. In any case, the thing I want to emphasize is that of the 23 reasons you listed, 18 are not directly related to sexual performance but are directly related to improving the rest of your life. Thanks, @silvaticus, for sharing your (plural) success. I wish you more in the future.
Exactly! My husband is like a different person, in a good way. I don't know if it's a direct result of no PMO, because the process has helped us improve other areas of our marriage, because he's taking control of his life, or (most likely), all three, but if someone had told me that something so seemingly simple could make such a huge difference before we discovered and he started nofap, I would have told them they were nuts.
i cant wait to bust some nuts again with a significant other. Our dicks shall not be touched unless in the hands of a women.
Alright, I can't help myself. A day after I approached my husband about nofap, we did a YouTube video session with the YBOP video and this one. I actually think the Hodge Twins played as much of a role in him quitting porn as YBOP did.
reading about success stories from woman perspective is like watching the end of romance films. I am really getting stronger and stronger i am freaking out myself
This post is inspirational. Gives me a lot of strength to keep pursing my goals on here. Congrats to both of you!
I really enjoy hearing stories from wives/women of men that are suffering from porn addiction. I think that it helps to have someone who experiencing the symptoms other than the person themselves. We can often downplay or not portray them accurately but someone looking on definitely can. Thank you so much for sharing
