40's and just now willing to surrender

Good for you bud we got this. I'm 23 and trying to kick this habit for good I'm on day 9.

 

You got it bud were all a close and tight community here helping eachother for the better. Thanks for the kind words.

 

" Better late than never "

Good luck on your journey !

 

Flatline ! Don't give up ! Never Surrender ! The light is at the end of the tunnel .

 

Keep going ) some day we feel great some other down that's the game of life, and the exit from his addiction its not possible easy at all.
Look for the positive, let go the negative. Smile a lot. Life is good

 

You forgot to believe in good

 

hang in there brother, keep strong. not sure if you are aware of some of the hacks to avoid masturbation. I'll tell you some that i know:

-Avoid facebook, instagram, tinder and other social networks as there's always some triggering content in there.

-While you are not masturbating you will feel your body filled with new energy if you don't do something new and productive with this new vitality it will turn into stress and you will end up relapsing as a way to release this energy. Therefore use it to learn a language, walk in the park, go on dates with your S.O, play an instrument, tired yourself playing with the kids or dog, plan vacations or plan how to grow your business or career, etc.

-Post regularly in this forum in your journal and in other's people post..it's a way to stay in touch with the community and feel that you are not alone.

-Stay away from closed/private places: your room for example (if you can only be in your room using the computer then try to leave the door open and the windows too, this might discourage your masturbation urges). Also don't take your laptop or cellphone to the bathroom, etc.

-Eat right and do some exercises: i can't stress this enough junk food increases the chances for people to get depressed and low energy, eat well and do exercises as it acts as a boost to recover energy and self-esteem. jog (or walk if you've been sedentary for a long period) for 45min 3 days a week that will be more than enough to make an impact.

I hope this few tips help you bounce stronger this time,

God bless you

 

Welcome to the community! We are here to help you on your journey to living a happy and porn free life. And on that note, is there anything, in particular, we can do to help? Those who live successfully and porn free lives are the ones who live out an intentional daily plan. A plan that is specific meets certain criteria, and that you implement habitually every day. The ones who continually relapse, are the ones who just try and "will through it." We cannot just "will through it." I know of no one who can overcome porn without a specific plan for success.
Lastly, I will encourage you to fully "own" your addiction. Once we take ownership over our willful participation of porn viewing, the addiction will lose its potency. One way we can do this is by how we speak about our actions pertaining to it. Using verbiage like: " I had a slip, fall, fell, tripped up, had an accident." Are phrases we use to try and minimize the issue, and not take responsibility for our actions. Own it! It's something we all need to do if we are ever going to move forward. ie; "I made a mindful decision to visit that website and look at porn, and now I am making a mindful decision to replace that type of behavior with actions that empower success."

 

That's good. And what does that look like for you?

 

Since you work lots of hours i'm guessing that porn and masturbation works as a painkiller to you, try the next tips (or something like that):

-Don't use your phone or computer past 22hrs (at least for a couple of weeks)
-Exercise in the morning: yeah wake up earlier and go jogging. weirdly enough this will boost your energy trough the day.
-Find a relax hobby in home: construct model boats or airplanes, start painting, learn an instrument at home.
-If you like videogames by a console so you stay away from the computer (i recommend a Nintendo since they have more chill games like Mario and such) and play something relaxing like minecraft, guitar hero, etc. (stay away from games that might stress you as some online games have pretty nasty and toxic communities).
-Read books: Great stories usually make us lose ourselves into the pages. Imagine reading Lord of the Rings, those are huge books and will keep you busy for many nights.
-Try to get bored: Human beings gets creative when boredom strikes and of course usually we resort to our old habits but since you aren't allowed to use the computer or masturbate you'll notice that you are going to think about something nice to do, and usually, is a healthy and productive thing because is part of our nature to be productive (but we are numb with all the trash the media and modern society offers to us).

I hope you can find something useful in this tips.
Stay strong.

 

That is a formidable predicament. A lot of people who are working on recovering from porn try to fill their free time with things. Hobbies, interests, social time, whatever. I am not a big fan of "filling time" per se. Because what happens when you do have down time? You cannot "fill your time" for the rest of your life. I certainly promote creating a lifestyle that is filled with intention, and therefore intentional activities. But living with intention also includes "veg time", which is absolutely healthy.
What I do recommend as a primary focus is creating a daily habitual routine that's composed of success promoting practices. And in particular I am very fond of The Miracle Morning: http://www.miraclemorning.com/