Hey guys, some might still know me, I used to be quite active on the forums here. Greets to all you guys, who have been in touch with me and accompanied me on this journey. I'm very grateful for all the support I recieved here, the knowledge and wisdom I found here. (Drop me a message or leave a comment if you're still out there, would love to hear from you.) Yesterday I reached 410 days on my counter. 410 days no porn. In 2016 this would have been a miracle to me. Even a year ago after I had some success with 100+ streaks it was a number that seemed to require huge amounts of discipline, self-control and willpower. What I learned in the last months more than ever before, is that real change never comes from willpower alone. Our whole journey is more about becoming a new self, starting a new auto-pilot, then the one your parents, school, or friends gave you and unchaining ourselfes from our conditioning. Willpower is such a limited resource, that it will not bring you far, if you have to fight against a huge amount of old beliefs and patterns every time, you want to start something new. I went in two years from light psychosis and social anxiety to speaking to women and expressing sexual interest and getting laid. But thats not the point of this post. You can do this too. It is just a matter of how you want to live your life and how eager your are to design it every day. How eager you are to reprogram your unconsciousness. There are meditations out there, that are designed just for that reason. And they work. ... also there are some things I wished I knew about this whole NoFap thing earlier. First is... don't get lost in your counter. It is important at the beginning. Really. It is. And you can be proud of yourself if you reached 7, 14, or 90 days. The thing is it requires about 18 months to get all the toxic porn put inside you, totally out of your system. That's a long time, but that doesn't mean you can't live til you reached it. At a certain point let a pornfree life just be your foundation of a healthy life. And start to work on your themes! Commit yourself to let all that bullshit society, your friends, your parents told you about who you are, behind you. It is not true... that you have to work hard for success, be a good teamplayer of society, please people, meet your parents expectations to finally be loved and accepted. Fuck this! I was unemployed and girls still went out with me. Second is... It is not your counter that makes you attractive to girls. They will not sense if you just didn't fap for 100 or 200 days or 5 years. They will sense if you're full of energy, if you love yourself, if you do something you love, if have some kind of goals in your life. I tell you nothing has given me more self-confidence that doing something I'm passionate about every day. It has such an positive impact on all my relationsships, the decisions I make, how I speak, how I treat people. So find out what you want to do with your life. And don't stress about it. Just ask yourself this question... and the answer will find the way to yourself, if you give it enough space. "Great things are not accomplished by those who yield to trends and fads and popular opinion." - Jack Kerouac That porn is nice and easy is a popular opinion among men (and women). So crush it. And dig for your fuckin life. Its in there. You just have to find it. ... one last thing: On this journey, whatever problem your working on... You're not that important! Your self image is not that important. Try to forget your pride for a minute. It's not that important that you're super cool or smooth like 007, while you try to do whatever you want to do, if it's kissing a girl or telling your boss, that you're out of this shit. The important thing is, that you do it! Remind yourself that courage is not the abscence of fear. Courage is acting even if you feel fear. I'm out. Peace & Love VM ADD: If you want to have more insights about how to reach 90 days, you can check out my guide here: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...-this-going-90-days-and-beyond-part-i.143569/ Have fun with it.