45 days bruh / fetishes are curable

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  1. cresyhorse

    cresyhorse Fapstronaut

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    45 days masturbation free. this streak is 45 days but nofap has been an on and off battle for ~1 year.

    much improvements have refreshed and empowered me throught this year.

    a few years ago I was struggling with disgousting fetishes. they had control over me and I couldn't say no. I won't go into detail about them but they were very ugly and I wouldn't wish them upon any foe.

    fetishes are curable. they slowly disappear and as your mind gets cleaner you no longer get pleasure from them and after training your brain to avoid them (by abstaining) it becomes instinctive. at this point I have no urge to indulge in them.

    nofap superpowers:
    My opinion on this is, once you beat an addiction you feel unstoppable and on top of the world for a period. As I've quit PMO, weed and videogames I've been searching for new ways of getting dopamin hits. You start getting that warrior mentality and truly attract more women but not necesserily by abstaining but with the changes abstaining invokes.

    advice:
    -religion is a huge part of who I am so I must advise you to become orthodox christian, read The Scripture 1 chapter (minimum) every day, attend liturgies and take it slow. Great wealth comes little by little.
    -workout regularly. exercise (almost every morning after prayer I tend to do 10min HIIT abs workout. and i try to train at least 3 days per week. street workout, swimming, running, boxing. those are some things that are to me much better and healthier then going to the gym. if you bodybuild quitting nofap will be much harder as your body will be much stronger than your spirit, thus it will be hard for you to control impulses and urges. also tbh I find it ugly to be bulk and have huge muscles. why would one need such muscle mass? look at the bull, huge with much muscle and then look at the lean majestic eagle. what animal gets more praise in your eyes?
    -intellectual work. the brain is also a muscle, you should constantly improve it. learn a new language, learn programming, journal with your left hand every night, brush your teeth with your left hand, do sudoku, study for school, read, read, read!
    -socialize. humans are social creatures. hang out with your people. don't make hanging out the biggest part of your life but definitely go out. get a girlfriend. make consistant effort to make friends and get more and more connections overall. have contact with people much older then you and people much younger then you. thus you can keep a healthy perspective on life through the wisdom of the elder and the enthusiasm of the youth.

    Please feel free to ask me whatever sparks your interest as I'll gladly help you.

    This is a small milestone for much of you but a giant leap for me. Also quitting would not have been possible without Jesus and St Basil of Ostrog to whom I have prayed to heal me of this terrible plague.
     
  2. Amen. Anything is possible with God
     
  3. modern milarepa

    modern milarepa Fapstronaut

    Good one my friend
     
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  4. I agree with you. From maybe Day 2 till my best streak (Day 16), I rarely had urges and when I did, I ignored them. I had the strength to say No to them.
     
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  5. cresyhorse

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    keep on going bro, imagine the impact of a longer streak.
     
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    i also have a disgusting fetish. im attracted to unconscious women. ever since i realised that my life has become worse. this fetish drove me to edge of suicide. i wanted to die cuz i dont want to become a monster. i have checked internet for cures of fetish but there is very little research done about somnophilia. ive been on a 4 days streak now. this fetish has still power over me but im trying my best to fight it. hopefully one day i will conquer it and become a better person. and you stay strong bro. wish you best of luck in life.
     
  7. I have a strange fetish too, and I sort of cured it by just abstaining from the content - watching normal porn instead, but nofap alone should be enough to make you stop craving it. At the end of the day, a fetish is just a fetish and will only be a problem if you try to turn it into a reality.
     
  8. Redemptionisrequired

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    Well done man, you're going in the right direction.

    Absolutely, quite literally most of the fetish genres out there(if not all) is a creation from porn. When you "acclimate" to a certain genre, you need a harder hit (either different type of fetish, or more extreme content in the same genre) to get off.

    The interesting thing for me is, around month 3 completely free of MO and 5 months or so free of porn (I had unfortunately MOed 1 time on my first streak on day 72 but not to porn because of the insomnia I had been experiencing from withdrawal) when I would get "porn" flashbacks, they were longer detailed scenes, they were the faces of the "actors" in the scenes themselves. I couldn't help but notice the misery behind their eyes, the bitterness, the low self-esteem and just general hurt and emptiness. It was quite a turning point for me.
     
  9. cresyhorse

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    the fetishes are just a state of mind that takes a bit of time to get out of in my opinion.
    by abstaining and changing thought patterns you'll get out of it.

    don't accept every thought that comes to your head, thoughts are shit. if you're walking down the street and you see random poop shit, are you gonna stop and think about that poop?

    no lol, you'll just acknowledge that t's shit and that it smells bad and move on with your life..
     
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  10. cresyhorse

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    we've made ourselves accustomed to viewing that poop, thinking about it and giving it much more time and acknowledgement than it deserves.

    this goes out to all negative thoughts.
     
  11. If we made ourselves this way, we can reverse the process too. :)

    People reinforce negative thoughts and habits over years. So it's no surprise that effort and energy goes into reinforcing postive thoughts and healthier habits as well.

    -J29
     
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  12. cresyhorse

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    yup, the law of inertia applies to the human psyche as well as physics
     
  13. GodsDaughter

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    Awesome! Good stuff. Yep, I overcame a yucky fetish too by the power of Christ and facing myself. Wishing you well!
     
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  14. cresyhorse

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    thank you sis, wish the same for you,
    God bless
     
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    Heyy, so I am 238 days without fetish porn and I Genuinly believe they can be cured too! I did about 120 days no pmo and then had a few sexual encounters but am yet to have sex since nofap and I’m deffo excited to see where it goes. I’m now masturbating about once a week and want to stop to reach my full potential but I almost feel like the urges to madturbate after nofap are stronger than they were before
     
  16. cresyhorse

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    idk if it's smart to masturbate at all. tbh i think it's exactly the same as if an alcoholic drinks only beer.
     
  17. ndrew

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    About fetishes. I only have female feet fetish. Is it also sinful for christian?
    Should it be cured?
     
  18. cresyhorse

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    if it's curable, yes. it is. you just gotta kick those thoughts out of your head as soon as they come. after 90 days nofap (with avoiding those thoughts) it should be cured.

    you probably got that fetish from porn related stuff so imho it's not natural, all porn fetishes are curable. whether it's sinful or not, you should ask a priest that, i'm way too sinful to give an adequate anwser.
     
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  19. Iohannes

    Iohannes Fapstronaut

    you should struggle to get rid of this as much as you can. We all have our fetishes. All do. It's just for most it's something more "normal" and so they can satisfy their need. It can be the colour of a woman's hair, a sexual body part, whatever. But all Orthodox believers are requested to keep such things in a tight check. Even with your wife, yes.
     
  20. Really, a vagina is more sinful than feet in a Christian sense. Idk why people are so hung up about feet fetishes though, they're a little kinky but still quite vanilla - nothing even close to over the top. Just be glad you're not into straight up BDSM and shit.
     

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