488 Days Free of Porn

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by pancabalani, May 22, 2020.

  1. pancabalani

    pancabalani Fapstronaut

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    Hey everyone! In January 2019 I joined the NoFapAcademy (no longer available), determined to quit porn for good. I wasn't addicted to PMO by any means, but I felt it wasn't aligned with my spiritual goals (I'm a Buddhist). Also, I thought that using porn could be making it harder for me to connect with girls. My intention was to do a hard mode reboot, but after 2/3 weeks of starting I got into MO (without porn). 1 year and 5 months after that, and I'm still free from porn. I haven't watched anything since January 2019, and I don't think I'll ever get back to it. It's a thing from the past now.

    Last year I had a few intimate experiences with girls, which was something totally new for me. I think quitting porn was crucial to start exploring that area of my life :)

    As for now, I would like to remain completely celibate, at least for a while (90 days). After that, I would re-evaluate. I joined the forum looking for acountability from like-minded spiritual seekers who also want to be celibate (temporarily or for life).

    Looking forward to learning with you!
     
  2. Well done @pancabalani on your success by being free of P for an excess of 400 days and almost about to hit 500. It is clear that being off P gives the benefits not long after we stay away from it.

    As for having a plan to be celibate for at least 90 days, I am happy to discuss about this with you from time to time. In my NoFap journey, I did not MO for more than 250 days as of now. I did cue-exposure therapy which did require me to expose myself to P so I can say that I was free of P for 250 odd days (even though cue-exposure therapy made me very resistent to P more than in any other streak).

    I am trying to work towards full celibacy where that can be maintained effortlessly. I have some resources on the topic, with a spiritual twist (Brahmacharya) which I can share with you. Since you have already defeated P by a mile, I am convinced that you can eventually overcome the desire for MO even on your own without having to rely on any type of accountability. But I also think in a space where people from different parts of the world are working towards the same goal it helps to be in touch and reinforce each other in positive ways. I am more than happy to build a partnership with respect to crackng celibacy, as maintaining celibacy at the level of body, mind and speech is a tough nut. I hope to be in touch with you through NoFap inbox from time to time with respect to spiritually-oriented celibacy (Brahmacharya).

    Tapo ca brahmacariyanca, ariyasaccaana dassanam
    nibbaana-sacchikiriyaa ca, etam mangalamuttamam

    Self-restraint, a holy and celibate life, the perception of the Noble Truths,
    and the realisation of Nibbana, this is the greatest blessing
    - Khp 5 Mangala Sutta
     
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  3. @pancabalani congrats on your journey. What are the things you did to keep you going for so long?
     
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  4. Daxos

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    Since some months I've decided that I want to be celibate as well and die single and 'alone'. I want to discover Buddhism as well and live a life of true peace. I always felt uncomfortable with girls, in the way of feeling that I don't want them. At first I thought it was just because I had little experience and that I needed to open up. But after I did experience some brief relationships and many wonderful girls, and still being unhappy about it, I realized that it just is not for me.
    Don't get me wrong, it is a fun experience to connect with girls, but I really can't think of any way or time I would want to get into a relationship with a girl. I don't want to meet her family. I don't want to remember all our stupid anniversaries. I don't want to have this feeling that I need to be or do things just because we have the relationship status.

    And apart from that it truly is a great risk of losing a substantial amount of wealth. time, effort, peace and sanity when you end up wrong. That is drama I really don't need.
    The single road is the road to glory for me. I have all the time and means to focus on my personal power and development. I would rather keep all I have now than risk losing it by engaging in a relationship simply because it is the social norm.

    Going celibate and denouncing relationships has been my second best choice after NoFap
     
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  5. Do you ever miss the intimacy part of the relationship?
     
  6. Daxos

    Daxos Fapstronaut

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    No. It has never hold value to me. It was just numb pleasure and I was quickly bored of the intimacy and wanted to be alone again. It annoyed me for example that whenever a girl was over, she usually stayed for at least a whole day. And that started to bother me since I also have things to do and don't want to be disturbed and distracted.
    Whenever I am with friends, we meet for a limited time and do fun and silly stuff. I don't do this with girls. The girls I've met were pretty much all boring and only want to party and do social things. I don't want to do that. I want adventure, I want to learn and explore. With my friends, I do just that and have fun.

    Being with girls just made me regret wasting my time on them. That is why i do not miss the intimacy, as it was a small positive on a list full of negatives
     
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  7. pancabalani

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    I think one of the most important things was making a strong commitment to myself to leave P behind, and knowing exactly why I was doing. In my case I had many reasons to quit P. It wasn't aligned with my personal and ethical values, it wasn't aligned with my spiritual practice (I'm a Buddhist), I thought it was holding me back from meeting women in real life (this happened to be true, as 6 months after quitting P I felt confident enough to approach women), and it was a waste of time.
     
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  8. CalixtoRocks

    CalixtoRocks New Fapstronaut

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    I resonate with much of what you've shared! I also was part of NofapAcademy and have been trying to build up the amount of resolve to commit to a temporary (or probably even permanent celibacy). I've been working on this for years, always trying to find the "missing piece" to this puzzle. I'm thinking I really need some guidance or accountability partner or something--I just can't find what next step to take...
     
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  9. pancabalani

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    Let's talk! I'll send you a PM

    This is great! There's a Buddhist Group here in NoFap. Join us! Also, let me know if there's anything I can help you with to discover Buddhism :)
     
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    I am 25 years male from India .I have a great interest in budhhist philosophy and way of meditation.Athough I am Hindu by birth but still I admire sakyamuni budhha for his thirst for truth.

    I spend my time studying philosophy of vedanta and budhhism.My motto of this life is to experience the spiritual truth mentioned in our scriptures.

    I will be happy to have you as my companion in this journey

    Thanks
     
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  11. NVG94

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    I love this idea of being single forever, I also believe that girls are a waste of time. (although I have no experience so far - I havent dated anyone in my entire life - i dont have the courage still to approach ( I am 26yrs old ), i think its also because of my circumstances) but however i miss someone being with me . I wanna overcome that feeling but its too ingrained in me that the main reason i relapse is because of these feelings of loneliness. Also I easily crush on girls that I am not supposed to crush on. But I feel you , when you say -die single and alone.. also the drama that comes with it ...etc. So I am with you on that. But I can see you are still 23 and you have a lot of time to do what you like and may be you will meet someone exceptional that changes your mind. Thanks heaps for sharing !
     
  12. NVG94

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    I miss the intimacy part of a relationship so much , that reading this question makes me wanna cry :(
     
  13. Smormad

    Smormad Fapstronaut

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    Trust me girls are not a waste of time. You will be able to find that girl that will make you happy and that is real.
     
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