50 f***ing days behind and there are some advices

Rakakakaka

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Today I have established a new procedure for creating protected areas. Last time I broke down on the 50th day, today is the 51st day. It was, is, and will be a fucking hard road, but it's worth it. It's funny that today I had a very wet dream in which I felt everything. And when I woke up, I was afraid that I had lost my temper. But no, I still continue to follow this path.

Here are some tips on how to hold on, which helped me:
1) Do not set a global goal to hold out for more days at once. You will think about it a lot, and as a result you will only lose your temper.
2) It's better to start with small goals. I first set myself a goal to last 3 days, then 5 days, then a week. And gradually increased the time.
3) The first month will be VERY difficult. There will be strong mood swings, a desire to cry, a desire to give up, strong anger, etc. That's ALL right, it's part of rebuilding your nervous system. After a while, it will all wane.
4) I installed an antivirus that helped me not to get on different sites. I don't remember the password to disable the antivirus, and this made my task much easier.
5) Understand why you are pursuing the goal of getting rid of addiction. Everyone has their own way, and "just because" without a specific goal, it will not work here.

I've had a very difficult journey. I was depressed, thinking about suicide, and even at one point stood with a knife over my hand. At that moment, a switch clicked in my head, and I said to myself, "this path is not for me." And from that moment on, I began my journey through the wilds of my addiction. And here I am today, on the 51st birthday of the OUP.

You will succeed if you really want to. Good luck to you.

And as Albus Dumbledore used to say, "Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times, if you just remember to turn on the lights."

Happiness-can-be-found-even-in-the-darkest-of-times-if-one-only-remembers-to-turn-on-the-light.jpg
 
Today I have established a new procedure for creating protected areas. Last time I broke down on the 50th day, today is the 51st day. It was, is, and will be a fucking hard road, but it's worth it. It's funny that today I had a very wet dream in which I felt everything. And when I woke up, I was afraid that I had lost my temper. But no, I still continue to follow this path.

Here are some tips on how to hold on, which helped me:
1) Do not set a global goal to hold out for more days at once. You will think about it a lot, and as a result you will only lose your temper.
2) It's better to start with small goals. I first set myself a goal to last 3 days, then 5 days, then a week. And gradually increased the time.
3) The first month will be VERY difficult. There will be strong mood swings, a desire to cry, a desire to give up, strong anger, etc. That's ALL right, it's part of rebuilding your nervous system. After a while, it will all wane.
4) I installed an antivirus that helped me not to get on different sites. I don't remember the password to disable the antivirus, and this made my task much easier.
5) Understand why you are pursuing the goal of getting rid of addiction. Everyone has their own way, and "just because" without a specific goal, it will not work here.

I've had a very difficult journey. I was depressed, thinking about suicide, and even at one point stood with a knife over my hand. At that moment, a switch clicked in my head, and I said to myself, "this path is not for me." And from that moment on, I began my journey through the wilds of my addiction. And here I am today, on the 51st birthday of the OUP.

You will succeed if you really want to. Good luck to you.

And as Albus Dumbledore used to say, "Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times, if you just remember to turn on the lights."

Happiness-can-be-found-even-in-the-darkest-of-times-if-one-only-remembers-to-turn-on-the-light.jpg
I like the quote " Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times if one only remembers to turn on the light"
Feeling very down ro start it again and again after relapsing but in this darkest time I have to look for the light.
Now I will go start with small and face those everyday struggles to clear my nervous system.
 
I like the quote " Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times if one only remembers to turn on the light"
Feeling very down ro start it again and again after relapsing but in this darkest time I have to look for the light.
Now I will go start with small and face those everyday struggles to clear my nervous system.
Its really tough to start over after relapsing, but recognizing the light in these dark times is powerful. Starting small and facing everyday struggles is a great approach. You've got this, and we're here to support you.
 
Its really tough to start over after relapsing, but recognizing the light in these dark times is powerful. Starting small and facing everyday struggles is a great approach. You've got this, and we're here to support you.
Thankyou brother it's always good to hear from you.
 
Maybe you have reached flatline.


Hey brother,

thought I would take this outside the thread, I will explain my side to you. The thread has gotten out of hand. I tried to inbox you but was unable to.

first off, well done on acknowledging the mistake, you have taken all the right steps to rectify this and you shouldn’t keep feeling guilt. You apologised, and you are doing right by the situation.

my anger wasn’t towards you, it was directed at the people saying “lots of women like being touched” and “doing this isn’t sexual harassment”.

I will add, I don’t think you intended to sexually harass her, that’s not what I am saying. My anger was only direct to 2 accounts (I’m sure you know which ones) about how they can shrug this off as sexual harassment.

there are 2 women that have responded in the thread, read what they typed and it will give you an idea to why this is sexual harassment. Again, I am not saying you intended to sexually harass her, I’m just saying that’s what it is.

you did well brother, you took accountability, apologised, did right and admit to the mistake. I’m glad you have done all of this, you are good person, in no way has anything I said to the other 2 accounts a direct representation of what I or the 2 women on the thread think about you.

you have every right to move on, you have done all you can. I want to applaud you for how you handled this situation.


If you ever need to chat brother, I am always here to lend you my time.
 
Today I have established a new procedure for creating protected areas. Last time I broke down on the 50th day, today is the 51st day. It was, is, and will be a fucking hard road, but it's worth it. It's funny that today I had a very wet dream in which I felt everything. And when I woke up, I was afraid that I had lost my temper. But no, I still continue to follow this path.

Here are some tips on how to hold on, which helped me:
1) Do not set a global goal to hold out for more days at once. You will think about it a lot, and as a result you will only lose your temper.
2) It's better to start with small goals. I first set myself a goal to last 3 days, then 5 days, then a week. And gradually increased the time.
3) The first month will be VERY difficult. There will be strong mood swings, a desire to cry, a desire to give up, strong anger, etc. That's ALL right, it's part of rebuilding your nervous system. After a while, it will all wane.
4) I installed an antivirus that helped me not to get on different sites. I don't remember the password to disable the antivirus, and this made my task much easier.
5) Understand why you are pursuing the goal of getting rid of addiction. Everyone has their own way, and "just because" without a specific goal, it will not work here.

I've had a very difficult journey. I was depressed, thinking about suicide, and even at one point stood with a knife over my hand. At that moment, a switch clicked in my head, and I said to myself, "this path is not for me." And from that moment on, I began my journey through the wilds of my addiction. And here I am today, on the 51st birthday of the OUP.

You will succeed if you really want to. Good luck to you.

And as Albus Dumbledore used to say, "Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times, if you just remember to turn on the lights."

Happiness-can-be-found-even-in-the-darkest-of-times-if-one-only-remembers-to-turn-on-the-light.jpg

Dumbledore quotes are very insightful
 
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