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500+ days of PMO abstinence and its life-changing effects (4 parts in this thread).

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Angus McGyver, Jul 19, 2019.

Does this success story continue to help you in your struggle?

Poll closed Aug 18, 2019.
  1. Yes, it definitely does

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  2. No, it doesn't help much

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  1. Steven_TheOneAndOnly

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    Really interesting. I envy your position and I am very proud of your journey. The world needs more man like you, it would be better.
     
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  2. Angus McGyver

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    I am sure it would too!
    Not only because a new generation of men need to enter, not only for the sake of cleansing the polluted air and take the place of the failed and pathetic generation preceding them, it would also set the stage for more positive dynamics between the genders where feminism and female-entitlement will become something of the past.
    Especially in most Western nations where most women (not all though) have become so spoilt, entitled, narcissistic, masculine and demanding that most men just get monkey-branched, trampled on and dumped just because there is some better man providing for her.
    The more men who will cease being ***, stop caring about all of their woman's demands (while she isn't bringing anything to the table herself) and start kicking them out after their repeated misconduct, and irresponsible- and selfish behaviors, the more women will start acting like real ladies again and actually contribute something to a relationship.
     
  3. Black ∆ Fang

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    You are truly a matured person. This forum helped me into thinking alot from different perspectives and about new things. And we still have to learn a lot from people like you
     
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  4. Angus McGyver

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    Thanks mate! I am very happy being able to contribute to people having their perspectives widened when giving examples from own my personal experiences and spiritual awakening so far. I am only 31 at the moment and I am sure I have a lot more to give when it comes to advising/coaching men who are still stuck in their old paradigms and beliefs.
    I was known as a quite precocious kid back in the day and had probably developed a sense of attention and feeling for human behavior at age 10-11 as I could quickly assess what people were genuine, good, bad and who I could rely on and not.
     
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  5. PeterBE

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    Hey man, another great series of posts:)

    I was following your other threads as well and I have to say right now I'm day 11 and I'm also thinking about quitting my job after 2 years...

    Just like you I have narrow minded colleagues who always talk about sex, video games, eating crap but when you tell them to quit porn and jerking off they think you are crazy.

    Also I'm working on starting a network marketing business so I'll work hard on that. Also I found a cute girl who is into me but she lets me go monkmode this whole month so I guess I have a good a 1 there.
     
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  6. Angus McGyver

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    Many people who have become successful usually give the advice of not working in the corporate world for more than 4-5 years since it won't be good for your body, mind and soul to do so. I started to get sick at it after 3 1/2 years and and shortly thereafter, I concluded that doing this type of work (with these tasks and colleagues) is going to kill me slowly in a few years time.
    I decided to be without that regular income and (false sense) of security for a year or two rather than slaving for some big company for a meager pay (plus minimal pension), working with people I don't like and in a town I dislike anyway. After making that decision, I decided to never ever be an employee for the remainder of my life again.

    And as you said, almost all colleagues lacked spirituality and interest to discuss the difficult questions in life that they indeed should be thinking about in order to challenge their current paradigms, beliefs and feel a sense of purpose and meaning in their lives. Instead, they only seem to live in their entirely secular, material world, not wanting to think any longer than next month and maybe summer when they have vacation again. It also annoyed me whenever I brought up a new (and many times controversial) perspective of a current issue they discussed, I was always interrupted and the discussion shifted since no one wanted to even admit the fact that someone had the guts to think differently than them. Probably because that would make them look very stupid, inferior and shallow in comparison.

    Hence, the discussions only went on about superficial and meaningless things such as what shoes to buy, how to paint the house, what their cat did yesterday, what that celebrity said or did, etc. Such meaningless discussions always wanted me to leave that lunchroom immediately.
    I also found out that the enterprise was purchased by some private-equity company so their jobs might not be so secure after all, leaving it in the hands of a few people who can turn the switch off any second.
     
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  7. PeterBE

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    I feel you about getting sick. The more I stay here the more demotivated I become also with a lot of new rules and a 'security fence' in case of anything gets stolen.

    But the last 5 months I really have the urge to quit this slave mentality but first I want to focus on my network marketing business so that I can grow and make passive income
     
  8. Angus McGyver

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    I am planning on starting up an online service with an associated blog-site regarding personal development (for a male audience). But, it's going to take a few months since the process of moving over to the new apartment and selling the old one has been taking some time and effort away from those plans which has been a bit frustrating.
    Meanwhile, I am reading a lot regarding these topics so maybe the starting product will become better than expected when I get started for real.
     
  9. The Prince of Persia

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    Thanks a lot
    That is really amazing and inspiring for me
     
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  10. BruceD

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    Working in a corporate job is soul killing. Or I should say the wrong one, which is probably a majority. I have finally found one that fits my needs and I hopefully can make it work for a few years while I plan my escape. But Angus, you are right on. Deep nuanced conversation is not welcome. Likely as you stated, there is all this material superficial stress on folks to keep up the payments, living for a vacation instead of your life, etc. Took me a while to realize this. Great posts.
     
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  11. Angus McGyver

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    Thank you mate! I am glad that you (and most others) have gained something valuable from it. Remember that PMO, lust and sex-addiction is a battle that will rage for years, whether you want it or not. There are no quick-fix solutions to overcome it but rather a matter of a complete lifestyle changes and reprioritizing of values that will cause this permanent change.
    Although the battle gets less intense with time, you have to be on your guard when the something triggers you so the old feedback-loop doesn't get automatically repeat itself.
     
  12. Angus McGyver

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    True statement! Most people working in these corporate jobs live in an illusion and think they sit so safe at their positions (which are not guaranteed, despite a union membership) and think there is nothing more to life since everyone else (96+%) are doing. Due to an intense fear of change (which will ultimately lead to something better and grander in the long run) they never want to change their current paradigms, views, values, occupations or lifestyles since they don't want to feel that discomfort and uncertainty for some time. Thus, they live unhappy, miserable and repetitive lives like they would live forever.
    What they don't know is that it is by feeling uneasy, uncomfortable, and a bit distressed for a prolonged period that will cause them to be happy and fulfilled in the long run. They want something better, exciting, more varied and fulfilling in their lives but never want to put in any sacrifice that leads to these things.
     
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  13. BruceD

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    I think some of it has to do with having a family before you have figured things out. And that's fine but when you have other mouths to feed (which I do not for now, used to) supporting the family becomes a priority and any goals/dreams get put on hold or evaporate. Then it is really easy to get sucked into the vortex of everyday superficial things for relief. I.e. where to eat out at, go to look at a new car, home, etc. None of these are inherently bad of course but it then becomes their life.

    Hope I am articulating this well! So any talk of self reflection, deconstructing problems, even avoiding bad food, is met with frozen glazed over looks. This obviously is not everyone, and I feel having a family is important, if that is what you want. I feel I am good solo for now. This should change for me but I enjoy the freedom. It is also great to have solitude and space to think. Great reading sir.
     
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  14. Eaglevision_2019

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    Awesome read as always. Do you have some motivational books for self-improvement that you can share?
     
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  15. Eaglevision_2019

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    Angus, thanks a lot. You have directly spoke to me and given me a reason to continue in this journey. A while back I felt like I was slipping back to old habits. During the month of Feb-March, I PMOed about 6 times. Although I haven't fel those extremely depressive thoughts of hopelessness, I definitely felt that I lost a significant amount of benefits. The last quarter of last year was the most successful; I had streaks of 100, 70, 40, 20, 30. I just want to recollect myself and beat this poison once and for all. I can relate with the problem-oriented mentality and self-pity, and not find anything good despite others approval that you are really good at something. Thanks again, lets do this.
     
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  16. tedy26

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    Thanks brother. This is a great read. You are truly an inspiration. Keep up the good work.
     
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  17. k123

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    Well done in turning your life around brother. I wish you better days ahead.
     
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  18. Kligor

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    Congrats buddy,you are doing great!
     
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  19. iwillwinthese

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    Anyone here who could guide me on my thread. Please help.
     
  20. Robin90

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    Awesome thread! Huge thanks
     
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