Nice journey
@Angus McGyver.
May i ask you some questions:
1- how you deal with P and SUBP on internet/TV/magazines/Music and specially social media...? Just will power or do you use blockers?
2- You made 2 years in hardmode, how you had deal with your desires to act sexually towards real woman? And if your perspective towards them changed, if so, how? Do you still objectify them when you see in real life?
3- Do you still have urges? how much? strong or week
Anyway, congrats and keep going!
Hey mate and thanks for your questions, feedback and encouragement!
I will try to ask your questions as good and thoroughly as possible.
1. These days, I am not actively and forcibly avoiding SUBP, although I don't expose myself to it voluntarily if I have the choice. I do usually avoid pop-culture as much as possible overall since I consider it filled with junk and several demonic destructive subconscious messages. It is like sublime psychological warfare on a subconscious level. If I watch a movie and any form of nudity or triggering scenes come up, I just try to look away if I see what's happening and then continue on with life as normal. Usually, I do read and do something else (that requires focus and concentration) right afterwards so most of the scene(s) don't get attached to my memory.
Besides that, I don't need any blockers (or similar) at all and I only use Social Media for networking and keeping in touch with family and friends which is what they were intended for in the every beginning.
Social media is very toxic and will break havoc on your mental health if used incorrectly and too much.
2. Although I don't go out and actively look for sex or sexual activities (that should never be a goal in itself with NoFap), I am acting way more confidently and relaxed around women than I used to back in my PMO-days. So much so that I have completely detached myself from any kind of outcome during conversations and in that way, they flow better and I radiate better energy for sure.
Also, my former sense of neediness is completely (and long) gone and I never feel any acute urge or need to get laid at all so that's why I never give any approval to women (unless deserved) and dare calling out any poor behavior or attitudes they might display. You will notice right away that they respect and admire you much more for doing so rather than if comply and approve any bad behavior.
So, today, I approach them with much more confidence than previously and always let them qualify themselves first (not the other way around) since my time, friends, family, hobbies and interests are all too valuable to be wasted on mediocre women. So, I can also say that I have become pickier and more selective since my NoFap-journey started and as the objectification goes, it is not very big at all these days. Although I might admire and like seeing a nice pair of legs or buttocks as I walk by on the street, it is not like I feel hooked on it and a sudden urge to get laid. I might for example just watch, admire, think and wonder if that woman is as nice and sweet in person as her legs, and nothing more than that.
3. As explained above, I don't have much or many urges these days and whenever they do arise, they aren't super-strong and overwhelming and do usually arise after seeing some physically attractive women in real life (not as much from movies, TV, images, commercials, etc). They feel very natural and sane overall, nothing super-strong, overwhelming and out-of-control like they used to back in my PMO-days.
Nowadays, they rarely take control or focus over my mind which is a sign that everything is healthy and fine.
