587 days. Tantric sex and pleasure

Current streak: 587 days semen retention

The essence of tantra or non-ejaculatory sex is non-duality, this means trying to erase the concept of an individual ego, two people become one. To go beyond good or bad, white or black, pleasure or the lack of pleasure.

This is where most people get confused because they see tantra as a way to enhance pleasure. Which can be a way to practice it but pleasure is a dualist statement just like pain or the lack of pleasure. Higher tantra goes beyond simply enhancing pleasure.

When people ask me about tantra long enough I quote my father “I never enjoyed a woman” he said, so I can try to take them out of that frame of mind that pleasure is what tantric sex is.

But the complete lack of pleasure is not tantra because that is dualistic. You feel joy during sex no matter what you do. But tantra goes beyond the regular identification with the physical animalistic pleasure of sex or an artificial way to detached yourself from pleasure.

Think it as if you were a professional basketball player in the NBA final game all you are focused is in putting that ball inside that basketball ring. So whereas you are winning and making many points or you just suffered an injury your state of mind is the same in both scenarios, you are beyond pleasure or pain you don’t even feel the injury or not pay too many attention to it, you are in the “zone” all you are focused is in the game.

Tantric sex is something like a “sex zone” whereas you are having difficulties controlling ejaculation, having a great time, which usually sex always is, you are in the zone not in a lack of pleasure or being fully identified with pleasure. It’s a meditation state.

Conclusion: tantric sex is not about pleasure or the lack of pleasure it’s a mindset beyond any concept, you are doing meditation, you are being non dualistic almost like an enlightenment state.

 

if you want to know how to practice non ejaculatory sex: https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?t...culation-and-have-non-ejaculatory-sex.309869/

More about seeing sex as meditation and tantric sex

https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?t...men-retention-this-is-why-porn-is-bad.313145/

https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/431-days-no-pmo-semen-retention-while-having-sex.312721/


books about the subject: the tao of health, sex and longevity by Daniel Reid.
cultivating male sexual energy, the taoists secrets of love by Mantak Chia

All I did to have this streak:https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?t...secrets-and-methods-here.311825/#post-3043832

 

By the way I am not a guru or anything I am just sharing my experience

 

tantra makes you a great lover but identifyng with the sucess that is also a wrong path, pride, even worst if you identify with this pride while having sex. Pride is dualistic, even do in tantra you learn to become a great lover and give the girl many orgasms. unlike us men, in tantra female orgasm is encouraged it releases stress,emotional burdens to the woman.

 

It's interesting, I want to clarify that in tantra you feel joy it feels even better than regular pleasure it is just different like a deep meditation state.