30 days ago I posted about succesfully breaking my pre-nofap record of 30 days. I was not experiencing anything remarkable, other than just being happy about breaking the record. But something changes when you are approaching 60 days. I think it's safe to say I now feel it has become easier to not PMO. It's less on my mind. And when it is, I feel less pressured to act upon the urge, I can let it go easier. And that feels really good, makes me feel proud and confident. It yields me some more faith and energy to go tackle other life challenges, exactly what I need. I have generally become more centered and focused. When I see attractive ladies pass by, I notice them, think "wow", and then get on with what I was doing. I'm not completely distracted by it. That is ofcourse not to say that I've reached the "comfort" zone now. If I would do that, I would set myself up for failure starting from now. I don't believe you can recover from an addiction that lasted for >10 years in only 2 months. Nevertheless, I think it's safe to say that I notice that two months of abstinance have started changing my brain's neurological connections for the better. I was not planning on posting something about advice or lessons learnt in this post just yet (I think I'll do that if and when I reach 90-days). But last night allowed me to write a little eye-opening anecdote... By chance and for the first time ever, I talked about porn, masturbation, addiction and even nofap with someone else. I was having dinner in a noisy resto with a couple of my best friends and, because the context was convenient, I dropped the fact that I was abstaining from everything. Two of them were like "haha, good one, and continued a conversation between themselves that I couldn't hear". I turned to my best friend next to me and said I was about to be 60 days without PMO. He just started laughing, hard, like I had just made a good joke. I sat there though, told him I was serious and awaited his reply. His face then turned serious, asking "Are you really serious?! I can't believe that". Honestly guys, this friend of mine is not someone you easily surprise, so it surprised me a lot when I saw him in such awe and disbelief. We ended up talking about this stuff for the whole evening, and he was really impressed with 60 days without any MO. I want to share a lesson I learnt from that conversation. I asked my friend about his PMO habits. He is in a very fine relationship. He told me he used to watch porn, just like other friends with whom he had talked about this before. Since he got into a relationship two years ago, he does not watch porn anymore. However, he never felt bad after watching porn. This made me wonder why I do feel bad about it. Thing is, I used it many times to escape, to numb myself from bad feelings and problems in other parts of my life. He didn't. I have a good reason to quit porn now, he didn't. But what about MO? Interestingly, he says he still does it whenever he feels like it, often after waking up. But at night, when he's with his girl, the sex is just as smooth as on any other MO-free day. So it does not trouble him, nor his partner. He considers MO a normal part of life. He doesn't look at it as a problem, but more importantly, it is no problem for him. The lesson I got from this is: Decide if and why PO or PMO is a problem to you and determine at least one real good reason why you want to quit. Then find a way to remind yourself of it as often as you can. It's crucial for your chances to succeed. Cheers and good luck!