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60 days: If I can do it, anyone can

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by AtomicTango, Oct 2, 2017.

  1. AtomicTango

    AtomicTango Fapstronaut

    In less than 24 hours I will hit 60 days no PMO and I wont lie, I didn't think I would make it this far, this past month has been a lot harder than I expected it to be and I did have problems, but I think when all is said and done I am still incredibly glad I am seeing it through. My initial goal for this streak was 60 days (I later increased it to 90 and beyond) so it makes sense for me to do a write-up of my experiences with it. Anyway, here we go!

    60 days ago I was at a low point in my life, nowhere near as bad as some of the people I've spoken to on this site but nonetheless it was pretty shitty, I couldn't seem to break my bad habits and my motivation, drive, and discipline seemed to come and go so fast I couldn't get anything done. I had a nonexistent social life outside of talking to friends online and had no idea what I was doing or crucially, where I was going. I was addicted to all forms of extreme pornography, from gay porn, to transexual, to femdon, all kinds of stuff that at the time I genuinely believed I enjoyed. I was *this* close to officially accepting I was bisexual and probably a few weeks away from revealing it to people. But then I realized, in a rare moment of clarity, that this wasn't me. I wasn't a repressed homosexual/bisexual, imprisoned by his own vices, I was just a shy straight man with a problem, a problem I resolved to fix before it was too late.

    In the two months since I made that decision, the decision to TRULY commit to NoFap, my life has improved in almost every way. Like I said in my 30 day report I started a healthier lifestyle, exercising more and eating better. I started getting up early to go on walks with my family to spend time with them and enjoy nature. I stopped taking shit from people around me and found that people respect you more when you dont tolerate bullshit. I started reading books again after years away, broadening my mind and imagination. In the week since I've been back at uni I have started going on nights out with friends and having a great time, this is a far cry from my first year where I spent most nights alone with my laptop and a bucket of KFC to myself. I even got drunk with friends for the first time last Tuesday and as stupid as it sounds I had a lot of fun, its a memory I wont forget. Last year I was forced to work under an utter dimwit in my team projects, this year I made myself the lead. I still dont like my degree pathway for reasons I wont go into here but nonetheless its progress. I haven't had any real success with women yet but I am confident its only a matter of time. My porn induced fetishes are gone and my desire for real women increases with every passing day. My disturbing wet dreams have diminished in frequency and most of the time I wake up ready for the day, whatever it brings. I still stumble here and there but months ago I was a negative influence on myself and those around me, now I'm the happiest guy in the room. As I work towards my goals I hope to double down on my efforts and become even better. At first I was skeptical of NoFap but believe me, it works, you just have to be willing to make other changes alongside it. NoFap is the facilitator, not the be all and end all solution to every problem.

    In thirty-one days I will hit my next milestone, the big one, 90 days no PMO, on the second of November 2017. Two days before my twenty-first birthday. Its fitting that as I reach that milestone in age, I finally feel like I am also approaching another milestone; finally becoming the person I always knew I could be.
  2. Robbiebob

    Robbiebob Fapstronaut

    Wow 60 days.... That's amazing!!! I'm trying for my 90days (& beyond God willing)... It's a credit to you, really is! Proud of you... Keep going! As pmo is a road to nowhere....
  3. Congratulations man, I feel like if I can just make it to 30 days I will have achieved the impossible.
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    MLMVSS Fapstronaut

    Beautiful post. Thank you!

    I especially liked this part. This is what P does to your brain. It confuses you; makes you question your own life. I've been free of P for months now (although I haven't been active in P since 2011) and I have noticed this change in my life.

    Congrats on the progress!
  5. Congrats! That's amazing. Keep going and never look back.
    Robbiebob likes this.
  6. Congrats, you are on your way home too buddy

  7. NewManV

    NewManV Fapstronaut

    Inspirational! Thanks for sharing, I need more people like you to remind me that I can do it to if I stay strong. Making our lives better, that's the whole point.
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  8. AtomicTango

    AtomicTango Fapstronaut

    I do think a lot of the site is overly negative, people want to wallow in pity and focus too much on what they are losing out on, as opposed to what they do have already. In the past 60 days I haven't even attempted to pursue a relationship (I want to fully reboot first) but I dont feel bad about it because I keep reminding myself of the progress I have made.
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  9. AtomicTango

    AtomicTango Fapstronaut

    I've had this dilemma for years to be honest, the constant wondering over what the hell I actually am (not in an HOCD way, just in a genuinely unsure way) and it took me way, way too long to make the connection between my PMO habit and my lack of genuine sexual drive around women. It was when I started to realise that I had no romantic or sexual connection to men outside of the porn that I started to put it together, it was when I realised I felt the same about women too that I came to the conclusion I'm at now, that theres no real way to know what your sexuality is or even what your sexual appetite is when under the spell of porn. If after 60 days I had realised I was gay/bisexual I wouldnt have cared, it was labeling myself falsely that I was worried about.
  10. AtomicTango

    AtomicTango Fapstronaut

    My best advice is to focus relentlessly on what you stand to gain from NoFap and working for it as opposed to just hoping that NoFap by itself will help. I made the mistake of concentrating too much on the act of abstaining and it just led to relapse time and time again, but when I stopped thinking about it as much I suddenly started to succeed. Now I'm at a point where I dont even want to PMO most of the time, and when I do want to its pretty simple to just say no.
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  11. hapular

    hapular Fapstronaut

    That's the spirit!!! Keep it up brother.
  12. MrW

    MrW Fapstronaut

    My hearty congratulations !

    I too liked this - years of PMO in increasing frequency made me start to question my sexuality (in addition to the impact on my connection to my wife, ability to function at work, getting anything done at home, needing further stimulation to even gain an erection, difficulties relating to O etc). Reducing P to almost nothing over 9 months combined with NoFAP over the last month has given me perspective. Regaining my libido I found an almost teen-like response to women - it was pretty clear my P interests were just changes to get more dopamine response from my PMO addled brain.
  13. Fap.N0.More

    Fap.N0.More Fapstronaut

    That's an impressive and motivational read man well done ,I wish you luck but it sounds like you don't any.
  14. MonkeyPuzzle

    MonkeyPuzzle Fapstronaut

    Congrats on your 60 days, I'm hoping to make it that far too. I think what you said at the start about TRULY committing to nofap is the secret. This is the first time in quite a few years I've decided to put this behind me once and for all and so far I'm pleased with making it a whole month. The desire to change has to come deep from within and I can say it's been a real struggle but, as you have show, it CAN be done. Keep it up!
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  15. NewManV

    NewManV Fapstronaut


    Yeah, I see a little of both (maybe that's why they have sections separated on success and others). I think people need to vent and let their feelings out, but then move on and either get inspired or inspire others.
    MrW likes this.
  16. 5adn8m8

    5adn8m8 Fapstronaut

    I'm so happy for you mate. thanks for sharing.

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