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Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Mickey_94, May 12, 2017.
Tips that can help you stop watching porn
Most people get it wrong
When it comes to breaking habits most people think about will power or persistence then try to use those two forces to get over the habit only to find themselves failing. Yes both will power and persistence are great but they should only be a small part in your bigger strategy.
I said earlier that will power fluctuats wildly and that you will hardly have the same level of self control everyday or even throughout the day.
In addition to that fact there is also another one that makes porn addiction harder to break. In the ultimate guide to breaking porn and masturbation addiction i said that getting exposed to certain triggers can be the main reason you keep doing a bad habit. If for example you are on diet then you smelled a Pizza in the room next to you then there is a big chance you will give in especially if your will power wasn't at its best in that specific moment.
This is why in my book The ultimate guide to breaking bad habits i said that avoiding the triggers is an extremely important step to breaking any habit. In other words if you don't want to eat wrong food then simply don't allow it in your home.
Now when it comes to Porn addiction the problem that most people face is that they are connected 24/7 to the internet and so it's easy for them to relapse as soon as they encounter a trigger. So what's the soloution to that problem?
It's all about the environment and your availability
Does your envrioment promote watching porn?
Do you stay alone a lot?
Do you rarely hangout with friends?
Do you have problems with your social life?
One of the best ways to end porn addiction is to make changes to your environment so that it becomes harder to watch porn. If for example you prevented internet access inside your room and only made it possible to access the internet in a more exposed place you will be reducing the chance of watching porn.
Of course this is a minor action but when you add more of those minor actions , so that it becomes harder for you to watch porn, you will increase your chance of quitting. The biggest problem with porn is the ease of access and so if you made some changes that made access to porn harder your chance of quitting will become much higher.
Next you need to keep yourself busy. In my previous articles i said that keeping yourself busy never works with breakups or emotional problems but when it comes to addiction it works very well. By simply having a busy and interesting social life there will be less time for porn and so quitting this habit will become much easier.
More leads to more
So many people mistakenly think that when they watch porn they release their sexual desire but what really happens is that those people actually increase their sexual frustration by doing so. When you watch porn you become sexually frustrated, even if you masturbate.
The visual images you have seen will lie at the back of your mind then sooner or later those visual images might become triggers on their own and force you to crave pron. In other words each time you watch porn you make the matter worse as you reinforce the habit.
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21. May 2017. - Day 13 Without PM Day 4 Without O
I feel like shit these days, i have a bad time with my girlfriend, she has trust issues with me, i don't know what it is about. I feel heavy burden because of it, i don't know if it has to do something with NoFap, whether i feel emotional more, i even cried in front of her because of the problems we have between us, but i know everything will be fine in some time again. I don't have any urges, no libido, i have erections but nothing special really. Hope everything gets better soon, i know it will
22. May 2017. - Day 14 Without PM Day 5 Without O
I wanted so much to fap, like my mind and body was being pulled toward porn, i even entered porn site and played two videos. My body was shaky and excited, but i resisted, i closed the tabs and turned off my PC. Few days ago i never tought it would be so hard to resist. On the other side, my erection is getting stronger day by day, not big improvement but it still is. Another day, another victory
It's really good strike bro. Dont waste it. Best of luck
23. May 2017. - Day 15 Without PM Day 5 Without O
I wanted to orgasm so much, i also went to porn sites today, but i closed it again. It is really hard for me because i work from computer and urges are bigger than ever since i started this. I need to take day off from screen, and try to put porn thoughts aside. Good thing is that my relationship with my girl is getting back to normal again, we are cuddling and laughing together, she trusts me again. My erection is even stronger now, and lasts longer, but i want it even stronger than this. I am currently at 70% hardness. This is getting better and better.
24. May 2017. - Day 16 Without PM Day 6 Without O
Random toughts about this PMO comes to my mind during this day, i am asking myself whether this works, i had urges to fap, but i did not enter any porn site, which is good. I also have low energy and i don't have willpower to do anything, not any strenght exercises, nor kegel exercises. I only took cold shower. I think my libido is so low, i was with my girlfriend and i looked at her, she is really beautiful and hot, i wanted to try something, but its not like i was crazy about it, i didn't even had erection. The next morning she attacked me, jumped on me and started grinding, but my penis was half soft... Maybe i have perfomance anxiety? Maybe its just flatline for the second time i started this... Guys, i need your opinion now, ANYONE
There is nothing to explain - it's just flatline. I heard about 60days lasting flatline but It surely depends on person. Don't worry, it will pass, just don't do anything related to porn. I'm on flatline too btw. I like it actually but I don't have gf so...
Im curious why I have never flatlined, even when I made it to 60 days or so clean about a year ago, my libido was still crazy high. I want a flatline at this point, would definitely make this easier. consider yourself lucky bro haha.
25. May 2017. - Day 17 Without PM Day 7 Without O
It looks like i was more horny in the evening compared to previous day, and i had stronger erection, but still not big change. I hope somebody reads this journal, its my personal motivation to keep up with this challenge, and i am getting grip on it. Each day i see new digit on counter i feel much better, and i couldn't believe that i am on day 17 already, something that seemed impossible to me before. My next goal is day 21 > day 30 > day 60, after that, my first goal will be reached and i will give big review of my situation then.
How long are you on your flatline? I don't know how long my flatline lasts, but i have mood swings and one day i have erections that are not so hard, and other day my dick is almost dead...
Maybe you haven't reached flatline yet, maybe you will manage to do this without flatline (if that is possible).
Ive had quite a few decent streaks, yet Ive always had a high libido, got no idea why. Maybe not everyone goes through the flatline phase?
I've been on flatline for 2 weeks now. I have the same symptoms as you - erections are different but mostly very weak (semi at the most) and mood swings are awful .