[7-CHALLENGE] THE SEVEN DAYS CHALLENGE !

day 6 going on.

 

Day 6
Day 7 After 5 Hours

 

Day 4, starting Day 5. I kind of like the idea of taking mini streaks towards the overall streak.

 

Day 0

 

day 7 going on .Wish me farewell everyone!

 

@you_can_UK thx for the tip!

Unfortunately today I edged->relapsed again.
Since I didnt reach 3days I am going down to 3day challenge.
See you guys in 3days then!

 

Completed day 5/7, working on day 6

 

Day 4/7 (7 total)

Yewwww! Great to have you here bro.

Yeah it's a tricky one - we can't walk away from our thoughts like we can our phones and computers. Thankfully there are still things we can do. I'm starting to look at my underlying motivations, why I turn to PMO etc, and it equally applies whether P is involved or not. Of course it's a mix of reasons, but worth exploring.

Here's the latest vid I watched, which could be indirectly relevant. Maybe you'll find it helpful.


And this one:


Whatever you do, don't beat yourself up mate.

However, I do believe it's helpful to sit with our emotions sometimes. See what the rational and irrational reasons are for why we feel like crap after O.

Eg Irrational:
- I'm worthless, I'm useless, I can't do what I say I'm going to do.

Rational:
- I broke my commitment to myself.
- I've paused my progress

And then to review why we want to stop PMO/MO.

For me the reasons to stop include:
- I'm a Christian and so I see it as sin
- I want to see women for what they are: real people, created by God, not just sex objects for my gratification
- I don't want inappropriate images popping in my head at random times (or ever)
- I want to use my time for things which move me forward, not backward, which porn jeopardises
- I want to have a vibrant sex life with my future wife, if that happens

This last part, reviewing reasons for giving up porn, is what I'm doing mentally every day now. And I've got to keep doing it.

I'm keen to hear your thoughts, suggestions, encouragements, failures, successes. Keep on posting.

Thinking of you @ToMMy.H and keeping you in my prayers

 

Day 4/7.

 

Hey Guys Starting this challenge Day 0!

Good luck to everyone facing this challenge too!

 

Day 0

 

Day 3
Oh man!!! This morning, I sent an hour edging and browsing escort ads....it took a lot but in the end I was able to snap out of it by taking a shower. I won't be lucky next time, for sure.

 

Day 5/7 >> Day 0/7. I relapsed but I'm back into track very quickly, staying thinking too much on the sin/problem will not solve it, acting will, let's go!

 

Day 1/7
Alright one day down six to go! Feeling like I got a little spike of energy and clarity today.

 

Day 6/7. (9 total)

It was a close call last night. Started browsing clothed pics last night, which quickly went further, but thankfully snapped out of it quickly. Switching to reading real articles on interesting topics helped (also, just going to sleep - I could barely keep my eyes open!). As usual, of course I should not have started. I considered resetting my counter - it was borderline, but for me in this case decided not to.

Learnings:
- if you're tempted, put the phone away!
- stay off devices when super tired (remember HALTS)
- don't start. If you give an inch, it'll take a mile.

 

Day 1/7

 

Day 2/7
Had a very stressful day at work and almost ended my streak to relieve myself but I stopped myself just in time and thankfully didn't relapse. Gonna stay strong and reboot my life with this NoFap challenge!

 

Day 2/7
Been a little inconsistent with my workouts but tomorrow I'm going to get back in to it.

 

I must report a reset. I PMO'd. Then again the next day.

As it turns out, I had actually completed the challenge. It's a small consolation, as I had of course intended to keep going to infinitum. Anyway, I'm glad I got to 11 days total.

Now I start again, with the three day challenge.

All the best, Fapstronauts.

 

@EndPornLiveLife Thank you for your input. I really appreaciate it and great to see you are going strong! Kep on pushing!

100% agree with treating or trying to manage the thoughts. I learned that when overwhelmed with thoughts its essential to start focusing on breathing, get present with your body. I know that, but when I have intense sexual thoughts, its extremely hard for me to control that.
I must be more precise with the strategy - really try to step by step find out what works for me the best.

This vid provides pretty good strategy:


Usually I throw my strategy out of the window and just start edging.
I also red your later post about peeking. For me this is always the start.
I dont actually watch porn, I create it in my head, so I need some fresh stuff to fantasize about. When I dont get the new pictures I can observe my fantasies are getting less precise and intense ->this could be first way for me->dont seek out any sexual related things which I can use for my fantasies.

For me the main trigger is boredom combined with tiredness and procrastionation.
Typically morning - I am crushed, without any energy and I just want to lay around a bit and then it happens either:
1) pick up phone and start browsing, usually you bump into some trigerring stuff with higher or lower intensity and its so much easier to start fantasizing which eventually gets me sooner or later
2) i already have something in my mind to fantasize about and just start edging right away

The second relapse pattern is right after gym -> I am tired + in the gym you can see girls wearing quite provocative gym clothing which again gives me material to work with in my fantasies.
I get home and naturally after gym you feel a little bit more horny and now I am tired as well, I dont want to start working -> want to rest a bit -> lay into the bed -> fantasizing + edging -> usually get up, but then the fantasies get stronger and I end up busting.

My reasons to quit - I like your point about reminding yourself daily and I must do it too, if I want to succeed. I will also watch the vids you shared and just NoFap on daily bases.
So the reasons are:
1) prone masturbation is not healthy -> my penis is less sensitive, I cant finish just by blow job and happned to me already that I couldnt finish, because the stimulation is just different and not enough for addicted proner
2) yes, I want to stop seeing girls as sexual objects
3) I want to exercise my discipline muscles
4) I want to safe some time
5) I want to get the stnd sensitivity back -> yes I would love to once in my fucking life be able to cum just by blow job
6) Energy and being more hungry/motivated -> I can see clear difference between myself fapping every day and holding it together. I become more motivated, doing ahrd things become easier.
7) Better self-esteem ->I mean my fantasies, its really fucked up and I feel I am fucked up. And obviously, everytime you set a goal, you are on the path to achieve it, your self-esteem sky rockets. I want to feel that again.
8) I want to turn into a beast who is disciplined enough to handle the sexual urges. I mean thats the end boss level. Just look around how many guys just fool around, fight in bars, divorce, because they just want to get some sexy senoritas ass. I dont want to be like that.

DAY 0 and lets fucking fight. Its going to be painful, messy, but its really time to dig deep and make sure I give it my all in every shot and eventually I/WE will build strong enough discipline muscles to handle it.

I mean its the same with gym. Now my nofap journey is like going to gym 1week and skipping 2weeks. Thats going nowhere. I dont like going nowhere.