70 day mark - Finally noticeable improvement and control

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  1. Jcont12

    Jcont12 Fapstronaut

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    I am more than happy to share that today I have hit 70 days of my PMO-free journey, and thought I would quickly share some of my findings with anyone who would like to learn more or get some inspiration to start their own journey.

    The reason I started this journey was because I considered myself a slave/addict of Porn and masturbation. It was not an unhealthy or extreme habit in my personal opinion, I would probably do about 2 to 4 Porn and masturbation cycles over a week. The real problem was that I would be really self-conscious of how much time, energy and happiness this habit was draining from me, and every cycle would greatly affect my mood, would make me feel an extreme sense of guilt and therefore would affect my relationships with others and my overall perspective on day to day life. Every time I would feel these negative feelings I would promise myself never to do it again, only to find myself relapsing at most a week later. To sum up, I would have no control over PMO whatsoever, I could not voluntarily stop it, and that alone made me feel awful.

    Nofap and setting personal goals for myself that required of me a lot of time and effort were what started me on my PMO-free journey. One of the most important lessons I learned is that it is NOT AN EASY JOURNEY. That doesnt mean it is impossible. The first time I tried I went PMO free for 27 days before I relapsed. I felt absolutely terrible, but DID NOT GIVE UP and started again.

    I would say the toughest days for me where from day 1 to day 45. During these days I would cycle from extremely calm and collected to completely horny and desiring PMO greatly... I would say about 7 days of calmness followed by 3 days of the opposite. Although I never felt superpowerful or amazing as some of the videos out there claim, I would notice how calm and how unintersted I would be about PMO during these days and that alone made me feel really good. In moments were I would without a doubt be watching porn or masturbating I would find myself doing much more productive things.

    After those 45 to 50 days, an amazing thing happened, which is more than anything the greatest benefit I have found from my Nofap journey. At some point, there was a turning point in which I can now consciously feel that I have control over PMO, and not the other way around. Whereas before I would relapse to PMO for any stupid reason (boredom, anger, porn inducing images) I now realize that PMO would be a conscious decision for me to make, not an instinct that I can't get rid of.

    This truly feels amazing and has made this journey worth it. Before day 50 I was always afraid of when or what would cause me to relapse. Now I am more than sure that I will get to day 90 because I have almost complete control over myself. Not to say that I don't get aroused from time to time or feel really horny, but what used to be an instinct that I could not control has now become a decision that I can control. Sexual fantasies and porn-inducing images, which used to be commonplace on my day to day life and would come into my head without me wanting to have now literally become something that I have to focus on or make an effort to think of for them to get in my mind. This, after countless years of not being able to control myself, makes me feel absolutely amazing.

    Not to say I will never fall for PMO again, but now feeling and understanding how much more awesome it is to have control over this decision, and living a guilt free life and spending my time and energy in things that are productive and in improving my personal relationships, make my CONSCIOUS decision of whether to PMO a really easy one. Making the decision to gain this control over myself is easily one of the best decisions I have made in my life, and I will try to keep living a PMO life for as long as I can, and not only 90 days as my original goal was.

    Best of luck to anyone starting this journey, do not give up, it is well worth it!!!
     
  2. SkyFallBack

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    Very good revelation! I am at 100D and have experienced some part of your feeling and achievements. I am still battling loneliness and no friends so you are at a better position than I am.

    Awesome result. Just keep pushing in. Find a place to go outside. You will be fine!

    Cheers bro!
     
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  3. TodayBeforeTomorrow

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    OP said "Not to say I will never fall for PMO again." Why not say that? Just take it day to day. Every day not doing PMO is like NEVER doing it again. Don't let your mind plant bad seeds that can sprout in the future. Go ahead and say "never." If that feels daunting, or you don't believe it, that's just the addict brain still up to its tricks. I'm tackling this PMO problem like I did cigarette smoking. Cold turkey and never going back. I last smoked 13+ years ago. I just discovered noFap 25 days ago. Now that I have, I have convinced myself that I will never PMO again. Time will tell, of course, which is why I chose the name TodayBeforeTomorrow. Good luck on your journey. I'm following behind you. Set the example.
     
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  4. Good for you man, thats one of the greatest gifts which we abuse horribly, to be able to make our own decisions rather than letting things get out of hand!
     
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  5. Iamworthit

    Iamworthit Fapstronaut

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    So happy for you! The conscious-ness of the act is what we're all striving for in some sense. The prison in which you cannot see the bars is worse than the one in which you can. To suddenly see the bars is to begin to converse with them, acknowledge them as bars, keeping you penned in. That's the conscious-ness, to me.
     
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  6. Robbiebob

    Robbiebob Fapstronaut

    Hay... Love your story with your experiences & journy & also being a better person for it, real inspiration... Good on you!!
     
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  7. LifeWorthLiving!!!

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    GREAT POST! Thanks for the reminder that PMO can become a choice once your brain adjusts.
     
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  8. Jcont12

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    I absolutely agree with you, especially loved it when you said 'dont plant bad seeds that will grow in the future'. You hit the mark and as the OP I can share that I made the comment because it feels daunting, and in a way I am subconsciously preparing myself to fail, so eventually I will if I keep thinking that way. Thanks for the awesome advice, will take it day by day and continue on!
     
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  9. Jcont12

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    Thanks for the support!!! Props on your 100 mark too! As to the loneliness, don't be too hard on yourself. Social skills are definitely something you can build with practice, and you've already proven you have willpower with your nofap journey, so it's all about getting out there and facing your fears. I recommend the book 'how to make friends and influence people' by dale Carnegie, and especially joining groups of people who practice a hobby of yours. It's hard getting the courage to join a club filled with unfamiliar faces but the shared interest will make it easy for you to start conversations with people!
     
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  10. Really inspiring story, thanks for sharing. I also have the feeling you say, get aroused sometimes and get the urges, but it's like its no problem contring it. I just don't want to deep inside. Nice feeling :)
     
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  11. proud of ya bud! I'm at day 69 and I feel the same way I needed to get CONTROL back. I would masturbate multiple times daily and I would feel like shit about it. On top of that when it came down to performing with my girlfriend my dick would go super soft. I always I knew I had a problem but I never did anything to fix it but once i started noFap again after I reached day 30 I knew in my mind I could keep going.
     
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