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70 days In things get heated

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Danielson28, Nov 12, 2017.

  1. Danielson28

    Danielson28 Fapstronaut

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    So I will make the past as simple as to understand, I am 30 years old, I have been watching porn since I was about 16 probably been masturbating since 13/14 years old. Never occurred to me in many failed sexual encounters that there was any substance in my ed, I was a heavy drinker I just put it down to that obviously never wanted to face the real truth. Fast forward age 28, December 27th 2015, been married now for 18 months, this girl she is the love of my life she is all I ever wanted in a partner I wanted the family I wanted the settlement the enjoyment with the one, she tells me ‘it’s over’ there is nothing in our marriage that I am non existence I am distance, our sex life was well nothing and I will agree on that one because I was suffering chronic ed with her and what woman wants that from her husband. , we split up my marriage was gone I was heartbroken. Fast forward one failed reboot and to where I am now, I’m 70 days In porn free but still frequently masturbating every weekend, I’ve met a beautiful new young lady, she stayed with me last night unexpectedly may I add but never the less I thought my ed was gone, everything would be ok.... how wrong could one be, my erection let me down when having intercourse and to be honest I was totally devestated by this, we tried twice but with the same outcome. I have read so many posts over and over but I still cannot convince myself that masturbating is causing me problems, is it that or have I not been clear of porn long enough, I’m at a total cross roads and am in need of some words of encouragement or anything anyone can offer. When will I be able to have sex again without having to worry about ed Help.
     
  2. Ace Freaks

    Ace Freaks New Fapstronaut

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    Brother I feel your pain. Same thing has happened to me. Porn is not your problem I'm assuming in this case. You need to do 2 things:
    1 You are probably nervous because you think your past pornographic obsessions will cause you to fail in bed and then it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy--and it's because you are nervous, not because the porn is still messing with your dick
    2 You jack off on a regular basis. Prior to what the internet says, if you want to have good sex, try to actually stay away from masturbation. It will enhance your sex drive and you will find your dick rising naturally on its own because you will be so horny

    And that's really all there is to it. Congrats on the 70 days. Sorry about the marriage bro. Keep on fighting the good fight because you are almost through
     
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  3. Danielson28

    Danielson28 Fapstronaut

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    Thank you for the kind words mate, I really appreciate you taking the time to reply to my post.
     
  4. Are you dreaming about pornstars while masturbating every weekend? I think it's time for you to go full NOFAP! No porn and fapping for 3 months. Afterwards you'll be stiffer than a oaktree!
     
  5. Danielson28

    Danielson28 Fapstronaut

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    Absolutely, great advice thank you I have you right, that is the only way to overcome this, no I don’t think of pornstars when masturbating not thoughts of that ever cross my mind.
     
  6. DIYAS1

    DIYAS1 Fapstronaut

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    It might just be first time nerves. Give yourself some time to get to know her more and some more sexy time with her might just get your hardness back.
     
  7. stop masturbating every weekend. For me what helped with ED was the combination of quitting jacking off and watching porn and my ED got better. I used to require the pill to get hard now I can have sex without it. Is it still at 100%? hell no but I'm only day 77 and I take it one day at a time.
     
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