[90-CHALLENGE] THE NINETY DAYS CHALLENGE !

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  1. RiseToGreatness

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    welcome brother, stay with us, sharing not only motivates you but also motivate others. here´s some pointers:

    1 - know your enemy. read this book "wack: addicted to internet porn" from noah church, it´s free on his website.
    2 - recognize beyond any doubt that your an addicted. not someone who has a bad habit. on "wack" there´s a test to see how deep is the addiction and how much is damaging you.
    3 - once you accept the truth, recognize that you can´t control PMO usage, don´t waste precious time of your life trying to fit porn in your life, you can´t control this thing. “Oh maybe on these days, or only on that days” Forget it. See for yourself, if you could control this you wouldn´t be an addict in the first place. the only way to break free from the addiction is to abstain from all sexual indulgence till a point you have no desire to PMO. 90 days usually is the standard time, sometimes it may take long.
    4 - motivate yourself daily to do the reboot. motivate several times especially in the first weeks, cause the urges and porn thoughts will be very alive and kicking. motivation can come from a text, a video, a music, whatever, anything that reminds you do keep going in the reboot.

    5 – you can´t do this alone. Studies show that is very rare to someone to overcome an addiction alone, almost impossible. That´s because the very feeding ground of addictions is based on isolation. So the treatment goes in the exact opposite direction. You need partners, groups, therapy, internet forums, whatever, do as you prefer, but stay in touch.
    6 - create physical barriers against PMO cause willpower alone will not do. this means install porn blockers and usage of electronic devices with screens facing exposure. in extreme measures forbide yourself from being alone.
    7 - delete any sexual/erotic material that you have. if you keep something with you that means you´re keeping the flame alive.
    8 - withdrawal is hard, sometimes harder than the addiction. but after some days/weeks the withdrawal ends, the addiction never ends. Prepare yourself for fatigue, irritation, deep sadness, insomnia, brain fog, headaches, etc... but don´t worry, after a while energy will start to rise and you´ll feel amazing . it´s worth all the efforts. to minimize withdrawal stay well fed, hidratated, an build a good sleep hygiene. sleeping pills and antidepressives can also help.

    9 - Keep alcohol and sugar consumption to a minimum. These substances drain energy and promote lethargy and depression. Never get drunk. Excessive alcohol prevents your brain for rewiring, leads to (extra) fatigue, irritation and brain fog. it will also deplete your willpower making you more likely to relapse.

    10 – practice meditation or any kind of relaxation technique daily. This is very important to calm the body against urges and help cope with withdrawal symptoms.
    11 - in the reboot you´ll have flatline periods (total absence of sexual desire) and periods of strong sexual urges.
    12 - to deal with urges my recommendation is to let them be, just observe them, don´t engage in them. keep doing whatever you´re doing. the urge may be very strong, but it will pass, it will pass totally. in extreme cases, click the panic button on nofap, get out of the house or take a cold shower.
    13 - do physical exercise regularly. that will boost your mood and release sexual energy in a positive way.
    14 - write a goodbye letter to porn. be brutally honest. an addiction is also a relationship so cry your heart out, say all the things you want to say, and say goodbye.
    15 - keep busy. this is the step i found more important (side by side with the daily nofap motivation). why? because you´re not only abstaining from porn/masturbation, you have to replace those behaviours for others. or else porn will return, no matter how much time as gone by. so fill the free time, work on your passions, live your dreams. one day at a time, create an epic life.
    16 - the addictive mind will not break easily. it´s likely that you´re gonna relapse, relapse a lot. the key is too keep going, never give up. if you don´t give up you will make it, it´s garanteed. so in each relapse try to know something about yourself, how your mind works, what are the triggers. knowledge is power. If you relapse try not to binge (relapse multiple times), the more you binge the harder the withdrawal.
    17 - avoid any kind of sexual stimulation, whether by touch, sound or image. stimulation will create dopamine rushs in the already unbalanced brain, increase urges and after that is hard to stop. so don´t believe your mind if it tells you to peak or edge. it never wants just that. after that, the addiction will kick in strongly and start pounding and pounding until it breaks you and put you on your knees. so it´s better to not even start. if you have a partner and want to have normal sex try to abstain at least on the first weeks to give your brain a rest. If you do sex but thinking on porn, that means you´re using your partner as an object. That´s a relapse.
    18 - you can never go back to porn. this probably is the harshest truth you can hear (it was mine, and it is for many people) but it´s the truth nevertheless. why? 3 major reasons.

    - you´ll be an ex-addicted, that means you will always have a soft spot for porn. if you engage in PMO again, sooner or later you´ll become an addict, again.

    - PMO happens in isolation, there´s no social PMO, which means that not only your likely to associate exciting feelings to PMO behaviour, but also negative feelings, which means that you´ll associate PMO with pretty much everything that happens to you. that is the core mechanism for any addiction installation.

    - in high speed internet, there´s an infinite suply of sexual material, new sexual material. dopamine is released not only by viewing and fapping but also by searching novely. once you give your brain a taste of the "stuff" it will crave for more. always more.
    19 - destroying any hope of going back to PMO will make the reboot stronger and more determinated. also, all ex-addicts firmly agree that no one ever wants to go back to porn cause life now is too good to be true, too good to go back to hell.
    20 – the reboot implies 100% commitement. If you don´t take it serious neither will be the results. If you take it serious, like if your life depends on it, the change is at your hand. You´ll become a new person: happy, faster, stronger, smarter, confident, social, peaceful. You´ll become a high successful person and there will be pretty much nothing you can´t acomplished because after conquering your own demon you can conquer anything.


    i wish you the best luck, strengh and focus my friend. don´t think on the 90 days, don´t think on the castle. just take it one day at a time, one stone at a time. believe in yourself, you can do it.
     
    Last edited: Mar 25, 2019
  2. RiseToGreatness

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    i relapse so many times over peaking. that´s why i write a memo in my cell phone and i read that fucking shit everyday "don´t peak because you will not stop, now or later. your mind will only stop when you relapse"
     
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    another shitty day. hope tomorrow will be better.
     
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  4. Fredi-the

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    Shit! Relapsed ... time to try again ... I can do it this time!
     
  5. Day one! Just started on this website becuz im tired of relapsing. Hooefully this will help
     
  6. Disregard typos
     
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  8. benj

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    DAY 12/90
    Pmo got nothing on you, it's just a nervus itch!
     
  9. Craig365

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    Thank you. Feeling down and disappointed but its all mental.. have to push through this. 5 hrs 40 mins and counting.
     
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  11. Cody Dinh

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    Check-in day 36/90. Over one third my recent challenge. Have a awesome day everyone.
     
  12. day 12...temptation as usual high...my resistance to watching porn also high as usual...77 more to go...
     
  13. James0224

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  16. Srisurya

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    Day 4/90 started. Woke up early than everyday. Trying to study. Cheers.
     
  17. Fredi-the

    Fredi-the Fapstronaut

    Day 0/90 no PM
    Day 59/90 no alcohol or caffeine
    Starting over ... here we go again.
     
  18. Fredi-the

    Fredi-the Fapstronaut

    Can you participate in this 90 day challenge with a PM only badge? I am married and prefer to not remove sex with my wife from the equation. Thanks.
     
  19. Cap. Steve Rogers

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    :):)
     
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