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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by 2525, Oct 27, 2017.
Good job but Isn't NoFap social media?
i was very tired because of insomnia and poor sleep structure. started thinking about porn and went to a website. but before i even watched 1 video i decided to look at the escort ads. this has been my cycle for over 5 years. it always starts with porn or cravings for porn, but i usually end up wanting something more powerful.
bother you need to be careful if your goal is to stop porn or remove porn out of your life you have to eliminate the words prostitute because sleeping with a prostitute doesn't change anything you remain exactly at the point where you started your counter I mean zero I know it is difficult to stop porn but here are the best points you can remember
Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will. so in your fight with porn, you should need the strength of will.
Do everything you have to do, but not with greed, not with ego, not with lust, not with envy but with love, compassion, humility, and devotion.
Change is the law of the world. In a moment you become the owner of millions,
In the other you become penniless. same with the porn
Calmness, gentleness, silence, self-restraint, and purity: these are the disciplines of the mind
There are three gates to the self-destructive hell: Lust, Anger, and Greed. so try to avoid those three by meditation and by other means.
A man is but the product of his thoughts; what he thinks, he becomes and so The future depends on what we do in the present.
when an alcoholic seeks help to stop alcoholism, they find a sponsor, a life coach select a life coach if you don't have one then your soul is the coach for you and believe in it.
You have to grow from the inside out. None can teach you, none can make you spiritual or a perfectly loving and kind man. There is no other teacher but your own soul. because of its addiction inside you, no one can take your brain clean it and replace it only you can do it
All the powers in the universe are already ours. It is we who have put our hands before our eyes i.e porn and cry that it is dark.
Many say where can we go to find God if we cannot see Him in our own hearts and in every living being? so think carefully if you believe in god or not or you believe in nature both men and women are created equally so don't forget the fact.
If you stay, stay forever. If you need to win, do it today. If you change, change for the better. don't be engulfed by porn a beautiful journey awaits you.
in the end, we don't remember the most beautiful face and the body but we remember the most beautiful heart and the soul
don't stop until the goal is reached.
day 10 - in just few days i have noticed that it improves mental will and concentration. But i need to really focus not to relapse!!
Have a good day everyone.
day 3/90 completed
Yeah, I'm good now, took a walk and got over it. A little tired but I'm still clean
I just know I was doing some risky/dirty stuff the night before and that is probably what set me off so I really have to watch myself and take this seriously because I made a commitment to finish this challenge
It's those moments that are important to me because they test me, as much as I really wanted to release I reminded myself that I had a commitment to keep and got up and did something else
Edging/risky behavior is a slippery slope and it will eventually catch up to you, I was just tired of failing at this point so I denied myself O
Hope this helps, stay clean and have a good day
Hell yeah brother that helps me, it helps you, and it helps EVERY single person that reads what you just wrote.
Because if you were able to stand up and go for a walk, you just proved to everyone else on this thread that it is possible to break the cycle of urge and release, no matter how bad the urge is.
Makes sense. People lose willpower when they are tired. Is there something else you can do that doesnt take much effort that you can do when you're tired instead of watch porn?
Had a relapse today.
Just gonna reset the counter and start again. Maybe start from smaller challenges and go higher as i get stronger.
I'll start with the three day challenge.
I'll be back.
Day 12. Hard times in school but fortunately almost no urges. Wish you great end of week
yeah, sometimes i noticed that after orgasm (from sex), there´s a dizziness in the head and fatigue in the body in the next days. it´s very similar to the effects of PMO. therefore maybe the best way to reboot is going all no p-m-o, cause maybe pumping orgasms during the reboot may not be that adequate , i don´t know.
sorry to hear that bro . yeah the autopilot sucks ass, it´s like a damn pull. anyways this comes to show and prove the danger of the first peak. write down in your motivation "on the day x in the morning, major relapse happened after i allow myself to watch sexy pictures, midbrain took over and bam". by constantly remembering this relapse you prevent yourself from further ones. now be aware for the binging since your brain will start telling "well, if i relapse, i might as well relapse all the way".
when we binge we make the withdrawal much worst and the effects of the rewiring badly damaged. so my recommendation is physical barriers because in these moments willpower is very flawed. just stay outdoors or in the house with somebody, screens always facing exposure.
i´m doing the free course of JK, 20 ways to quit porn, it´s more simple that Reboot Intensive but has good tools also. check it out bro.
let´s go again my friend, one day at a time. to climb a mountain sometimes we must do a base camp
A fucking boring annoying geography trip today for fucking 9 hours. I am very tired, but Im very proud that I play in last time a lot guitar! And I started with cold showers again. Ok fuck it Here begins the part were it`s really REALLY unpleasant and heavy to talk about it for me
Before I was in the trip I met my classmate. Before eastern vacations we talked a lot and still have the same homeway. Well, I dont know, it´s really...strange. I..I dont know how to explain it but, I mean it´s, I want to do more things with her. I dont know why because she repeats herself again and again and again and doesn`t have a good reputation. She is a nerd. (Well for the most but for me she is only a smart girl). And earlier I didn`t liked her but now it`s, it`s really weird. I get a bit excited when we talk. I want to do more with her. Bruuuh did I really said that?? I CAN`T EXPLAIN IT! And I can`t ask her out because... well I think she isn`t interested at me and we only have this classmate relationship. Also she had never a boyfriend and doesnt seen interested right now to it... even thinking about to go out with her is on the one hand a excited happy feeling, but on the other hand it`s HORRIBLE! Because she and I? We`re like day and night! Uff maybe you noticed that I contradict myself (or that I just love to dramatic everything) but I got those thoughts about months! Maybe we`re toooo different, or I am too dramatic? Or I am just an idiot... how embarrassing
you´re experiencing the hardest part of the reboot which is the first weeks, where the compulsion to PMO is very strong.
here´s some pointers:
- have a fixed wake up hour and fixed go to bed hour. that will adjust your brain to the sleep and vigilant states.
- drink tea, or barley or even sleeping pills to help you sleep better. sleep is very important cause is one of the many sources of gaining energy.
- if you can´t go to sleep in 15/20 minutes, don´t stay wandering in the bed. get up and do something, something light, read a book or something.
- when you go to sleep put your mobile in other division of the house. don´t let the smarthphone be in your room. i relapsed many times just because at midnight i was horny and my mobile was 1 meter away....
don´t test yourself bro, as an addicted, the willpower is a weak opponent against your disturbed porn brain. just create all the barriers that you need. antecipate. when the urges appear they will have no mercy so you got to be ready. be smarter than the addiction.
It sounds like you're possessed by the spirit of the anima.
Look it up.
If you want to spend more time with her, follow this simple formula.
Find common ground before moving to higher ground. Aka, connect through something you have in common.
You can get a conversation going by asking her a question (about anything as long as its not weird). Make it a specific question, not something broad like "hows it going?" Once you get the conversation going DO NOT LET YOUR INTEREST IN HER GUIDE THE CONVERSATION. ONLY LET YOUR VALUES AND CHARACTER DRIVE THE CONVERSATION.
if you do this, you will find something symbolic and unique to the both of you. Once you have that, you can use that to drive the relationship further.
For example, I found out that my teacher and I have a passion for human trafficking, so I donated $50 in her name. That really strengthened our bond.
you already know the answer bro, focus on your lifestyle. have you been busy? have you been living passionately? then what are you waiting for? do it!!! anytime someone dwells in "i must not pmo" you know what that means: lack of passion, lack of life = on the train to relapse.
so instead of waiting for the midbrain to take over and present you with the "dopamine solution", it´s time to snap out of that lethargy and go live your life. go bro!!!!!!!! forget nofap and go live to the fullest. hobbys, passions, dreams... go all the way bro, not because of nofap but because this is your life!!! it´s your life and time is passing by.
well, i think that´s part of the growth . just let things flow bro.
murphy´s law: what can happen, will happen . don´t force it, just let it flow. we´re all humans, contradictions are part of us
ok first at all thanks for your post. I googled what the spirit of the anima is and I didn`t understood it only a bit. Could you please explain it for me with your own words? xD
Hmm... and about the values, I will try it. Let`s see what happens.