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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by 2525, Oct 27, 2017.
I know the day is not over yet. But just wanted to share something. I came across a few hot pics when browsing the net and immediately wanted to watch porn and jerk off.
But the thing is, I noticed a few changes in my almost a week of no PMO, I feel more confident around girls and sometimes I catch one or two looking at me. Either these looks were always there and my brain was too foggy to notice until now (there is no way of this happening, I am too ugly) or people can actually sense a change in your confidence level, I don't know. These may be coincidental too. Nevertheless, the most important thing is, it made me happy.
Now, when I wanted to watch porn today, I immediately thought of these incidents and I was like, I am in no way going to trade my real happiness with fake pleasure. After this realisation, all it took was a few deep breath to regain control.
On any other, I would have given up control but now I understand where the true happiness and power is. I am putting this out because in the heat of the battle with porn, if you want to realise one thing that will keep you from relapsing, I think, this is it. This is the key to complete the challenge.
Hope this helps some of you out there.
Stay strong guys, we can.
day 2/90 hard mode completed I reduced my youtube watch time and increased productivity.
past streak 110 days and relapsed so learnt huge lessons from relapse and also from Risetogreatness
Went on quite a binge Monday...porn, escorts etc. And it was not even enjoyable. Yesterday was day 1 no porn, no escorts, no caffeine, no sleep aids. It was fucking brutal, especially the caffeine withdrawal, but I made it. Here's to a good day 2.
Ok, the most ofyou could be disappointed to me or suprised, but in the last days I posted that I masturbated to get rid of the blue balls. Well yes it helped but there was an Endboss who I didn`t expected or I didn`t cared: the chaser effect!
If I come back from the guitar lesson I will make more resarches about it. Or some of you already know what that is, feel free to explain it to me
Right now I feel well tired and HAPPY! (maybe of the dopamine rush) But what for the most could be strange is that even I relapsed with porn I feel great. It`s just like I needed the relapse! I don`t regret it. It showed me that there is even MORE in this addiction/porn. I thought ok I did Hardmode 118 days now I can go to level 2. And yes, level 2 is now the chaser effect. I don`t know if I can "train" it to get rid of it Or it will just disappear (what I can`t imagine).
Date: Jan 25, 2019
Day 136/139 no PM (relapsed day 51, 70, 102)
Day 37/90 consecutive no PM
Day 139 no alcohol or caffeine
Day 106 weight training
- feeling pain in my abdomen and right nut the past 3 days for some reason and wondering if it has anything to do with semen retention since I don't cum as much as when I did PMO regularly
- also wondering if looking at porn but not touch myself or orgasm is it considered a relapse or edging or just plain stupid?
- I have done it in the past when my porn addicted brain told me to go ahead because you aren't cuming or masterbating so it doesn't count
- what an insidious addiction
2 days. Not much for temptations. Doing good. A bit stressful. Dealing with my dad lots. He gets too excited and stressed.
Day 2/90 completed. Good luck for all the brothers!
precisely bro, why don´t you work on your dreams? what do you really wanna do with your free time? go for your dreams bro, work on them, because you have to fill the void that PMO will leave behind. that´s crucial.
awesome insight bro, keep going, you´re doing great!!
yep, the chaser effect is a bitch but still you could jack off with just physical contact, no need for porn . the fact is: if there´s still a desire to PMO the addiction is still there. so carry on my friend, you´re doing great. one day at a time, no pmo.
thank you bro i always feel your support
i´m perplexe your questioning stuff like that , we both know you know better than that. that´s probably your brain trying to drill an excuse to put you on pmo. so in a nutshell:
- when we engage in viewing sexual material we get more and more aroused, it won´t stop, so we become very close to a relapse
- edging is masturbation and it´s very bad for the prostrate. plus it puts us extremely close to a relapse.
- when we engage in porn/erotic material we´re not rewiring the brain, instead we´re filling our head with the same dopamine rushes that keeps the addiction dominant in our lifes.
instead of asking "how much i can take in sexual material without screwing my streak?", why don´t you ask, "what´s happening right now in my life that makes me wanna engage in lust again?" that´s the real question.
Exactly bro if we want to beat this mess we need to do sth productive in our lives. Otherwise we will back to our starting point and fapping again. Do sth It does not matter what is it.
Don't do it mate they're all mind tricks of our addiction. Do not stay alone with the computer and go outside do sth with your wife. I think you are luckier than us because you have smn lean on at hard times beside you.
Day 19 completed with small urges. I am affected by the girls saw outside but I try to not look at them. When I saw a girl, turning my head and looking somewhere else. It is really difficult but I know I can handle it. I need your advice about a problem. I cannot do eye contact with the people mostly women during speaking with them. Have you ever experienced this problem and how to handle it?
Day 1- about to hit day 2!