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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by 2525, Oct 27, 2017.
Perhaps start an activity outside the home. Physical fitness is always a good option. Yes, it is work, but over time it will cause you to feel great and help you look your best... Weight training to strengthen your muscles and protect you from injury... Aerobics to lift your mood and leave you with a natural high. If a gym membership isn't an option, start jogging in the park, doing pushups, sit-ups, squats and planks in the grass, find a bar in a playground where you can do chin-ups.
I am in .this is my day 0 and i will try to complete this challenge . we can do it
Date started: Jan 25, 2019
Day 154/157 no PM (relapsed day 51, 70, 102)
Day 55/90 consecutive no PM
Day 157 no alcohol or caffeine
Day 38 of weight training
- feeling strong but fighting urges as I learn some new triggers being around family that i know i have self-medicated with in the past
- my relationships with my mother, my in-laws and my wife are all going well this holiday though, it's more about conquering ghosts of the past
- don't worry, nothing incestuous, just my poor coping mechanism for dealing with family drama and stress
Day 6. No longer feeling nervous about acting out. Came out of that bubble. Praise God. That gives me much hope. I can't put pressure on myself to stop. It causes me to act out every time. Made it almost a month once. I felt I was going to make it. Started putting pressure in myself and boom. Was hit with crazy temptations and fell. No more pressure. No more worrying about falling.
If I might give you some humble advice: ease down. You don't need to tell that inner chatter to fuck off, because there is nobody to fuck off. To personify the "I would like to PMO now pls" voice into some kind of evil or devil (as I see people doing a lot on here, not saying you are) isn't really helpful in my opinion. But more so, it's just not true: It's a system of conditioning that we have created ourselves. Next time when you hear that chatter, just think to yourself "Ah, there is that voice again!", just register it, that's all. Try to see the humour in that you are a witness to your own thought pattern. Because that's all that inner voice is, it's a thought and that thought is an expression of a pattern. It's nobody's fault, it's not evil, and you are not a sucker for falling for this: Who wouldn't?? Naked chicks with a click of a button, off course! But as we all have seen for ourselves, it's not helpful for the lives we want to live. What helps me right now is; don't use force. Well, not all the time anyway: I installed pornblockers on my laptop and phone. I guess that's using force. Now, I don't need to DO anything. It's abou not doing a thing. And do something else. Or not. Just be mindful. And don't fight any thoughts that come up. There is nothing to fight. Be gentle to yourself. All the best.
Day 20/90 check in.
Day 0 round 3
Thank you brother I will try to find sth better.
Thank you for advice bro actually I am running everyday for 30 minutes but the cycle i need to break that after I am coming home from work need a rest and then I wanna watch sth and relapse. After this moment I will try to use laptop outside my room maybe it may help.
Day 1/90 completed.
Day 6 and 7 check in....are anybody else's days off from work more busy that actually going to work? Or is it just me. At least being busy kept me distracted
Day 5. Urges come and go almost randomly. They are relatively easy to subdue at this point though.
Really need to stay on. Will check in every night. Want to accomplish something this summer and I don't have much time left. Nofap is one and I also wanna do some learning like programming or rendering and try is some e-commerce. Goals set.
Day 0/90 Checking in.