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[90-CHALLENGE] THE NINETY DAYS CHALLENGE !

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by 2525, Oct 27, 2017.

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  1. Stop relapsing is the best way to more happiness and energy imo. You have to choose long term happiness over short term pleasure which is loaded with guilt and shame.
     
  2. Started Challenges Jan 25, 2019
    Relapsed 7/222 Days
    Longest streak ever 67 days (2015)
    Longest streak since joining 51 days (2019)
    Current Challenge 27/90 no PM
    Day 68 of weight training
    Day 2 No alcohol, caffeine and sugar
    - flat lining for about a week now and it's making me feeldepressed
    - my flat lining is causing my wife to flatline and not want sex
    - she said I'm not feeling it (sex) last night to me so I looked at internet girls instead (clothed, not a relapse) for 5 minutes until I realized that this is going nowhere good
    - realized now rejection is another trigger
    - tempted to look at girls again this morning but am holding strong and going for a workout instead
    - rough times but I am riding the wave
    - your brother in this struggle
     
  3. Dude, you already know, why people relapse and what they feel after that, yeah? I released because I have needed an energy. I knew, that it won’t made me happy, more energy, but I relapsed. May be you haven’t ever relapsed, idk … But I can’t stop do it … It’s a circle, so to break it down I have to become more energetic person, but idk how can I do it … Help me if you can.
     
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  4. You don’t understand me. I don’t need a motivational words, okay? I need a working plan: how to do more without increasing sleep?
     
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  5. Camelon

    Camelon Fapstronaut

    Sorry if i annoyed u
    I deleted the post anyway
     
  6. winterisc0ming

    winterisc0ming Fapstronaut

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  7. Don’t worry man! I just feel like shit. It’s very similar every relapse is similar to previous. It’s really painful. I can’t be happy with this fucking habit, cause I relapse again and again. I keep to try to learn from my mistakes, but I am still not happy. But I feel happiness from abstaining. Thanks NoFap team and community.
     
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  8. Titu

    Titu Fapstronaut

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  9. Alan mathers

    Alan mathers Fapstronaut

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    Same here. 4/90.
     
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  10. Jonny1992

    Jonny1992 Fapstronaut

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  11. Nadhir2565

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    Day 5 guyssssss !!!!!
     
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  12. Haddock

    Haddock Fapstronaut

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    Started Challenges August 21, 2019
    Longest streak 147 days
    Current Challenge 14/90 no PMO

    I'm now more busy so I know from experience that it is less likely that I relapse. Stay careful though.

    Habit made:

    -cold shower
    -pray my chaplet

    Habits to make:

    -wake up early
    -schedule the day
     
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  13. Anew2019

    Anew2019 Fapstronaut

    0 days no PMO. Had an 11 day streak.
    0 days no junk food
    0 days no alcohol. 1 14 day and one 12 day streak. 1 9 day streak.
    64 days no posts on Facebook.
    Prayed my chaplet of Divine Mercy.
    Prayed my litanies.
    Daily consecration
    Czestochowa prayer card.
    Talks with God and Mary.

    Had a fall last night. I PMO'd 3 times. I did not edge for hours in any session though. Which is good. I am still feeling some of the benefits of my 11 day streak. Hopefully that is the last of my falls.

    I am not feeling too let down. A little bit. I am feeling hopeful. Every time I get long streaks, I keep some of the benefits. One of these times will be the last.

    I am grateful for the 11 days. It was a wonderful gift.

    I got my computer back from my friend. I have an important document on it that I needed to send in for my new career. Big temptations came right away. Soon as I had the document sent off I was acting out. I am heading up north for work here next week and will be living in a camp. I will not bring my computer up. Hopefully that gives me enough time.

    I had great streaks earlier this summer when I was up north with no computer. Seams they come when I don't have it. My well being is more important than that thing. This gives me hope that I will have more great streaks and maybe even the full reboot soon here.

    It's funny. I thought of something. I went to a 10 day wilderness camp when I was 15. I had so much fun. I had no social anxiety there. I was being really outgoing and I was normally so anxious and shy. I always wondered what happened. I now know. I was away from PMO. My last streak the same thing happened. I was so natural around people. I was having so much fun. I was feeling amazing. I don't want what PMO does to me anymore. It kills me.
     
  14. testwarz

    testwarz Fapstronaut

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    I made it!! Thank you all for your kind words and support! Just do me one favour? Complete 90 days you won’t regret it... I’ll be on this thread to keep encouraging y’all... cmon team let’s get you to the 90 summit!. It’s awesome up here
     
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  15. Saitama999

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  16. How to stop relapsing is the million dollar question which everyone on this site would love to know. I am guessing the solution is slightly different for everyone. Below I gave a few ideas which have helped me:
    1) keep busy at whatever you enjoy doing (old expression, "an idle mind is the devil's playground) as being happy will snowball in you life to other areas like noPMO - have a positive mindset
    2) limit being home alone with internet access or go for a walk/jog/run if feeling tempted
    3) make healthy decisions about food and exercise because if you feel good about yourself, it will give you the strength and pride to make good choices like noPMO (conversely alcohol, caffeine and drugs often lead to relapse because they also boost the dopamine system which cuases the chaser effect (your brain wants more dopamine hits)
    4) get a girlfriend and have lots of great sex - you'll be too tired to want to masturbate
    5) get an accountability partner to keep you on track with your nofap goals and to keep you honest
    6) Willpower: Try to choose long term happiness (abstinence from PMO) over short term pleasure (faping)
    7) Be aware of your triggers to want to fap and avoid them as they are often only self-medicating emotions such as sad, frustrated, rejection, lonely, depressed, anxious, hangovers, etc
    8) get a porn filter on your computer (never done this one yet but am hoping someone will one day give some easy advice on how to do this for free)
    9) don't have too high a expectation of yourself or that just makes you feel depressed when you fall as the roller coaster of emotions that nofap lifestyle brings (urges, flat-lining) can make you feel like quitting - be kind to yourself without giving yourself permission to binge

    There's lots more but I don't want to write an essay here. Hope that helps. Good luck.
     
    Last edited: Sep 5, 2019
  17. Srisurya

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    Day 5/90 Checking in.
    Yesterday evening I felt like a loser for sometime. But now it's fine.
    Here is another motivational video to feel. Enjoy.
     
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