[90-CHALLENGE] THE NINETY DAYS CHALLENGE !

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  1. Ibnmorales

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    im in fresh off a relapse
     
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  2. Minionforgood

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  3. Merry Terry

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    Good to see you're analysing why you relapsed and what you can do about it. Be careful not to blame it too much on the circumstances, though: no set of certain circumstances is ever the cause to relapse, it's always our choice to do so. Of course we all have our moments where we are weaker than others, I myself have a ton of them, and it's great to be aware of them. But the goal should be to become of such strong will that we can stay strong in any moment - not to change the circumstances.
     
  4. RestartGame_

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    Great advise. I'll take that into consideration. :)
    And I agree, in general I felt better when I changed my mindset into being able to be in any kind of environment and be in peace.
    In relation to my sleep difficulty, it is mostly a matter of me not being able to deal really well with the circumstances. It is a difficulty to fall asleep, which is most certainly a symptom of the current state of my addiction. So, it makes sense and I admit as well that the sounds I hear at night are relatively subtle and should not stardle me in normal cases.

    Considering night shifts, they would make it harder for my recovery, because of changes in sleep rhytm and inside the body and things like that.
    Best is to avoid that.

    I'll look for the best solution and to adapt as much as I can in the most efficient way possible, that's how I got to 30 days no PMO once and will do it again.

    I had a major setback since then, some significant hardship, I slipped big time, but that's what it is, that's what recovery looks like.

    Recovery is to keep striving forward and doing the right thing for ourselves and others in the face of misery (for lack of a better word :D).

    It is not the end! It is the beginning! And someone once told me that success doesn't look clean, it looks messy and it makes totally sense.
    Just look at this mess. But it's a good mess. :)

    Let's keep going.

    Cheers.
     
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  5. PowerfulSRE

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    Thank you mate, great to be back on track! :)
     
  6. 24/90. Hope everyone doing well! I'm still drifting in a flatline... But looks like this constant urge to get home faster and switch on my computer has softened it's grip... A little bit.
     
  7. that_homie

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    Just realized I haven't posted in a LONG time. Well, today's day 1. I had insane urges yesterday and while I had stuff planned, eventually it was just too much to handle on top of a conversation with a friend that came like a punch to the gut. But 9 days is longer than I've done previously, and I feel like I can do better next time. I need to start planning things for those down days when I don't have anything but homework.
     
  8. adipath

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  9. RiseToGreatness

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    60 days my brothers, 2/3 are done :). Let´s go!!!!!
     
  10. Galaxy Hitchhiker

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  11. Phoenix1

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  12. Log:
    Order and self discipline. Easy to say, hard to get.
    From now on I shall wake up everyday at 5.
    From now on I shall remind myself of my failures every time I have the slightest urge.
    An ordered life.
    Challenge ends May 1st.
    Discipline is the way.
     
  13. discovery

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  14. Day 20/90 No PM (ends April 8)
    Day 370 on this challenge
    Day 128 weight training (M, W, F)
    Day 29 No alcohol
    Day 22 No desserts
    Day 24 No caffeinated coffee
     
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  15. thefishman

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    Day 73. Super low libido lately, got me feeling tripped up this late in the game. But ignoring my worries and pressing on
     
  16. thefishman

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    I feel your pain man. There's no worse feeling than resetting to zero. Since I've been sexually active (about 10 years) I have always had ED. Severe ED. Because of this I've steered clear of sexual encounters and this made my confidence drop over the years. And this isn't typically something you can talk to people about. After seeing urologists for years I decided this addiction was causing my ED and it made me more stressed because it's a difficult and time consuming process to rewire. But it also gives you hope that things can change. After years without any sexual intimacy, last year I finally decided fuck it, I deserve some happiness and went on a hinge date and started (trying) to hook up with someone for a few months. I was never really able to fuck but was surprised that this girl said she didn't care, it was just nice to be together. That was a big moment because it showed me that even though my confidence is shit and I feel like less of a man because of my limp spaghetti dick, I can still find some happiness in some way and be appreciated.

    I've been at the 90 day challenge for a few years and I've seen improvements in myself because of it. I'm getting further each time, this time being my longest because I decided to only stop porn, but keep the MO in. I see a different girl now and then, and am lucky that she's ok with me not being able to get hard. Last month I actually got hard for the first time in years and was able to fuck. And I think it's partially because of the rewiring of this challenge but also the feeling of shame and doubt within me began to lessen when I stopped having expectations of what I'm supposed to be.

    I'm ranting about myself here because I have been in your shoes but have started experiencing hope. What I've learned from my experience is that it's going to be a long road to become the man we want to sexually. But as long as you stick to the route it won't matter because the small improvements over time will give you the motivation you need. Take some leaps of faith to find the happiness you deserve and you will grow and change even from the smallest steps. Keep pressing on and you'll find that there's meaning and happiness out there for you. If you ever need someone to message or vent to feel free to hit me up
     
  17. bromor

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    Yay! Congrats man!

    Day 33 for me! Nice number hahah numbers don't matter that much though, only staying comitted long term matters! My plan is after 90 days, just continuing without counting :)
     
  18. Monster@123

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