[90-CHALLENGE] THE NINETY DAYS CHALLENGE !

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by 2525, Oct 27, 2017.

Do you want to participate?

  1. Yes

  2. No, probably later

Results are only viewable after voting.
  1. Pone

    Pone Fapstronaut

    266
    1,716
    123
    Hey I get that feeling. What happened has happened. Your gona feel regret for some days. Start by seting another resolve and find other ways you can add to the already existing strategies to prevent you from relapsing
    Hey your brave for adimiting that you have relapsed. We are a family, we support and help each. Today is you tomorrow might be me. But we have each other's backs.
    Keep pushing and finding better ways to keep yourself alert of the urges
     
  2. Thanks buddy. The setbacks suck, but are just part of the journey towards recovery. I appreciate your understanding and support. I feel a little beaten up (by myself), but ready to take on the next challenge and proceed forward. Let's do this!
     
  3. You're keeping the big picture in mind, which is essential, my friend. Ultimately this process is not about day counters, but about fundamental changes we want to make in our lives. Very good to hear you acknowledge your achievement and progress. Take measure of where you can improve, and continue on to the next step. :)
     
  4. Abc833

    Abc833 Fapstronaut
    NoFap Defender

    61
    323
    53
    Hello fam. How is everyone doin? I’m just moving forward. I hope all is well. ✌.
     
  5. bromor

    bromor Fapstronaut

    182
    1,355
    123
    Day 50! Anniversary! :D Had one more dream of relapsing last night ... these are getting annoying ... I was staying in bed 10 mins trying to remember the whole previous day if I had actually done it in real life ... ofc I have not but the dream was stuck in my head :) At least I know my brain is working on the rewiring :p Happy Monday!
     
  6. Abc833

    Abc833 Fapstronaut
    NoFap Defender

    61
    323
    53
    Day 0 folks. Damn no words no excuses just time to focus.
     
  7. Mansfelder

    Mansfelder Fapstronaut

    150
    526
    93
    16 days. Monday starts with lots of work. Still on PMO since my love-life has also slowed down (it was not suppose to...), but well, If I only focus on myself it makes it easier in this context. Interesting thing again is to cope with all the time there is and how to fill it with work, sport and family if you always used that time to "recreate" from all that. Actually, the same challenge as with alcohol.
     
  8. Homo Deus

    Homo Deus Distinguished Fapstronaut

    1,316
    6,158
    143
  9. Merry Terry

    Merry Terry Fapstronaut

    507
    2,943
    123
    Day 1 again. Last night in the middle of the night I couldn’t resist an urge to reread an erotic story I used to spend a lot of time with. Managed to snap out of it after 15 mins, but now it keeps popping up in my memory. Which is a good reminder of the way these things mess with your mind.

    I’ve been having mysteriously low iron levels and minor anemia for a month and a half now and feeling weak and tired, this week even more than before. And with all my recent small failures on top of that, I feel my resolve and discipline is wearing off. Which is not the direction I wanna keep going in. I’m going to see a specialist on the anemia thing, but I need to stay away from the internet as much as possible in the meantime.
     
  10. that_homie

    that_homie Fapstronaut

    44
    211
    33
    I play a lot of music, and I have a fair amount of work. The biggest problem I think is that I have days where I'm at school all day and then days where the only thing I have to do is homework and I spend long stretches at home by myself. So I'm gonna start going to a cafe a few hours every morning I'm not at school; that should distract me enough.

    Day 1. I was extremely depressed over this past weekend, what with eating poorly because valentine's, and the last really difficult conversation I needed to have with my friend. I should be good now but I was so depressed I couldn't convince myself to fight and threw in the towel last night.
     
    bromor, Pone, Vendidad and 1 other person like this.
  11. RestartGame_

    RestartGame_ Fapstronaut

    94
    572
    83
    Day 8.

    It's going great so far. Not many cravings. I think the initial shock with my health condition gave me kind of a jumpstart. My tinnitus is pretty loud at night and it is really like buzzing and vibrating, like I had high blood pressure or something. Made it more difficult for me to fall asleep. I slept though and it will probably disappear when I am around 30 days and have implemented a better lifestyle ;)
    I am going to definitely do some medical tests just to be sure and I am going to check my blood pressure as well.
    Also, I see forward to start doing some exercise.

    About my work.

    I already scheduled an interview this week for another job in a very convenient location for me, which pays me well, however I'll only know for sure after they send me the offer ;) \m/

    Some advise I'd like to share:
    Don't do anything crazy ambitious on your first days of recovery, that's when you are the most vulnerable.
    Fulfill your core responsibilities first. Move your body. Go to the gym, do stuff that is more enjoyable. And maybe do some small creative stuff.
    Do small steps and slowly start adding stuff.

    One big mistake I did, was like after countless relapses on like day 1 or 2, I was like OK I'm going to get myself a FULL-TIME job and go study in university at the same time while doing ALL the modules at once. This way I am always motivated and won't have time for PMO. Ohhh, believe me after 1 month of that insanity, I was completely broke, could not financially support my family and I thought I was literally going to become homeless and die. And I was not motivated. Thankfully it didn't come to that.

    I learned that for the big steps, I need to have mastered the small steps and thus be prepared and more secure for the next steps. You know those quotes where they say "you're never going to be ready, just do it". --> https://www.google.com/search?q=you're+never+going+to+be+ready+,+just+do+it&client=firefox-b-d&tbm=isch&source=iu&ictx=1&fir=H43ror-gfMo2RM%3A%2CmcswLS-3chH1QM%2C_&vet=1&usg=AI4_-kRHWTlhPpBxr_SzTFW7iZUqzRkjEw&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwj6_7KV8tjnAhVJ4OAKHZE8Cf8Q9QEwBXoECAoQCQ

    Trust me social media is full with those and they can be, in some cases, misleading, because they are always subjetive to the context, situation and circumstances.

    See it like this. Imagine a desk with 4 table legs. The table legs represent your aptitude and your health condition (Body, Mind, Spirit).
    Everything that gets on the desk are your goals. Now when the table legs are weak, they are most likely to break when the weight is too heavy. Well and then you're back to square one. Trust me, those analogies are usually very accurate.

    Be honest with yourself and listen to your body. What CAN you do? And what will likely not work well yet?.

    I also learned that motivation is not a constant and it is not a requirement to achieve my goals. I have to be able to do the things even without motivation, but based on discipline and principles. And I think, in my experience at least, when you're in abstinence based on that for a few days or weeks you're going to feel good about it and it is kinda like motivating. So, I think that motivation will come anyways at some point and it is always welcome, but we should not depend on it.

    Sorry for the long text.

    I'm going to keep charging forward and keep you updated.

    I hope everyone is doing great.

    Cheers!
     
    Last edited: Feb 17, 2020
    bromor, Pone, Vendidad and 3 others like this.
  12. vedbharadva0704

    vedbharadva0704 New Fapstronaut

    1
    4
    3
    I am at day 5 but while watching a movie I got really aroused and was about to ejaculate but I controlled myself I wasn't fapping does it count? Please respond.
     
    Last edited: Feb 17, 2020
  13. adipath

    adipath Fapstronaut

    32
    103
    18
  14. hindiguy29

    hindiguy29 Fapstronaut

  15. Day 7/90 No PM (ends May 10)
    Day 388 on this challenge
    Day 136 weight training (M, W, F)
    Lifestyle: significantly reduced caffeine, desserts and alcohol
     
    Vendidad and Homo Deus like this.
  16. Monster@123

    [email protected] Fapstronaut

    294
    1,077
    123
    Day 90/90....
    90 days challenge completed......
    After so much struggle finally I am here...
    I want to really thanks to this platform and you all people ...that motivated me along my whole journey .... Because by seeing your comments I realized that from what mistakes I should be away from ....
    So I am sharing some tips with you that helped me a lot and I am sure it you help you also so here it is ...
    1). First of all fix your goal that you have to do after 1 or in next 2 - 3 years , and the goal must be something high...
    2). NoFap journey alone does not fulfill all your dreams because this only gives you more time and abundant energy that you can utilize in other form to develop your personality every day so for that you have to work on your goal.
    3) Treat every day a special day that what you can learn...start writing journal, do meditation about 15 min day , cold shower , you can listen to some intelligent or spiritual conversation in you tube.
    4) Always remember you are master of your own life and nothing can stop you to becoming something that you want .
    5) Use this platform not only for daily counter but also read other comments that what mistakes they are doing and how bad they are feeling after relapse so you can motivate yourself that I don't want to regret and learn from others.
    6) Involve daily exercise , running or some yoga.
    7) Do not fill so much anxious and depressed if something goes wrong...
    Because it happens with everyone since we are humans.....so live every moment and enjoy.
     
  17. Vendidad

    Vendidad Fapstronaut

    1,372
    3,844
    143
    Check in day 16
     
    Homo Deus likes this.
  18. dannyboy91

    dannyboy91 Fapstronaut

    117
    374
    63
    Day 10! Felt a bit down over the weekend, better today now that I've been to the gym! Still a bit lethargic though, I think I felt like this last time I rebooted so I guess it's normal. My interpretation is that because I am not numbing my emotions through PMO, I actually have to face them! This can be scary but it's something I need to learn how to do because we can't just run away from ourselves.
     
  19. Mansfelder

    Mansfelder Fapstronaut

    150
    526
    93
    17 days, still proud to have started again!
     

Share This Page