[90-CHALLENGE] THE NINETY DAYS CHALLENGE !

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  1. RestartGame_

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    Day 7. Had some sexual scenarious appearing in my mind in the morning. Well, still no effect on me. It is completely normal. That's my brain processing the whole PMO crap.

    Yeah. Starting from tomorrow I got 7 days down, while undergoing of what I consider for myself to be significant hardship. Maybe a little less of a hardship because I was able to sleep for the past 2 days. And I am going to sleep now right after this post, because I love posting here and I love you guys. ;)
    My tinnitus is slightly better, but I still have the cold. So I might only be able to tell if it is getting better after I am over my cold. I also don't have hyperacusis or anything (I said I had it because I had only a vague understanding of it. After going to the ENT doctor he explained it to me and I don't have it).
    So hopefully this was the lesson and I learned it by now. That even on my worst days, I should not reach for PMO as a "solution" or "quick fix".
    In fact, on my worst days, that's the least thing I should do, because in those days that's where I need the most fixing. And PMO is as you all know, the exact opposite of that.

    About my job.

    It's getting kinda hard for me to hold on to that job, because they are making it difficult for me to stay there.
    They moved to a location far away from transport, so they provided us with 3 shuttles for 3 different shifts. And I only do 1 of those shifts which means I have 1 shuttle. That means if I miss my shuttle, I'm f'ed and have to find another way there which is going to be highly inconvenient and probably cost me extra money :)

    Same thing when I want to do overtime, it's going to be a struggle with the transport.
    This week I still have the night shift (They didn't get my message yet when I said, I have sleeping problems but that's ok, still gotta wait for that confirmation)
    I gotta see if I straighten this situation out otherwise I might loose some money for this week.
    If I manage to straighten this out --> I have a safe and efficient public transport route and am free to do as much overtime as I want everyday.
    If I have to leave the company --> Gotta look for a job beforehand just in case. Just to have some backup. And start working somewhere else.

    How's it going to be for this week, only tomorrow will tell ;)

    I'll keep you updated.

    Let's keep on going!

    Fist bump!
     
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  2. Titu

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  3. Galaxy Hitchhiker

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    Day 30! A third of the challenge complete, finally feeling I'm getting somewhere. Lately I've been having some wet dreams, and waking up feeling some urges, which is a sign my libido is back. During weekdays I'm too busy to do anything about it and in the weekends, when I have a lot of free time and stay alone, have been using that energy going to the gym the earlier I can. It's working.
    I'm also trying to improve my social anxiety issue, nofap had not made more sociable, but I now feel that I have more energy to go talk to others and a little more confidence.
    That's it. May we all reach our goals and find hapiness in our lives!!
     
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  4. happy camper

    happy camper Fapstronaut

    Day 67/90

    23 days away from my goal!

    After 90 days, aiming for 95,100, 105 and so on. 94 days was my best streak.
     
  5. Phoenix1

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  6. My Best self

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  7. Pone

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    Sorry I didn't post on Saturday and Sunday. But completed day 5 now am on day 6.
     
  8. thefishman

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    Today I reached 90 days without watching porn (minus MO), the longest I've ever gone since I started. And then I watched porn and reset immediately. It felt awful and was not enjoyable at all. The desire to watch porn was lingering throughout the challenge and I was surprised that it was still there until day 90. Maybe it will always be there a little. But I really didn't enjoy it at all which gave me a lot of hope that my mind is successfully reprogramming. I'm disappointed in myself but proud of how much I've accomplished. I started this challenge to cure my ED and boost my confidence and it has done both. My ED isn't exactly cured but I'm able to have sex again, which has been a problem for many years. I'm hopping back on the challenge since this is a lifestyle, not just a 90 day journey. Feeling thankful for this challenge and community
     
  9. Pone

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    Hey I get that feeling. What happened has happened. Your gona feel regret for some days. Start by seting another resolve and find other ways you can add to the already existing strategies to prevent you from relapsing
    Hey your brave for adimiting that you have relapsed. We are a family, we support and help each. Today is you tomorrow might be me. But we have each other's backs.
    Keep pushing and finding better ways to keep yourself alert of the urges
     
  10. chiyu

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    Thanks buddy. The setbacks suck, but are just part of the journey towards recovery. I appreciate your understanding and support. I feel a little beaten up (by myself), but ready to take on the next challenge and proceed forward. Let's do this!
     
  11. chiyu

    chiyu Fapstronaut

    You're keeping the big picture in mind, which is essential, my friend. Ultimately this process is not about day counters, but about fundamental changes we want to make in our lives. Very good to hear you acknowledge your achievement and progress. Take measure of where you can improve, and continue on to the next step. :)
     
  12. Abc833

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    Hello fam. How is everyone doin? I’m just moving forward. I hope all is well. ✌.
     
  13. bromor

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    Day 50! Anniversary! :D Had one more dream of relapsing last night ... these are getting annoying ... I was staying in bed 10 mins trying to remember the whole previous day if I had actually done it in real life ... ofc I have not but the dream was stuck in my head :) At least I know my brain is working on the rewiring :p Happy Monday!
     
  14. Abc833

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    Day 0 folks. Damn no words no excuses just time to focus.
     
  15. Mansfelder

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    16 days. Monday starts with lots of work. Still on PMO since my love-life has also slowed down (it was not suppose to...), but well, If I only focus on myself it makes it easier in this context. Interesting thing again is to cope with all the time there is and how to fill it with work, sport and family if you always used that time to "recreate" from all that. Actually, the same challenge as with alcohol.
     
  16. Homo Deus

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  17. Merry Terry

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    Day 1 again. Last night in the middle of the night I couldn’t resist an urge to reread an erotic story I used to spend a lot of time with. Managed to snap out of it after 15 mins, but now it keeps popping up in my memory. Which is a good reminder of the way these things mess with your mind.

    I’ve been having mysteriously low iron levels and minor anemia for a month and a half now and feeling weak and tired, this week even more than before. And with all my recent small failures on top of that, I feel my resolve and discipline is wearing off. Which is not the direction I wanna keep going in. I’m going to see a specialist on the anemia thing, but I need to stay away from the internet as much as possible in the meantime.
     
  18. that_homie

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    I play a lot of music, and I have a fair amount of work. The biggest problem I think is that I have days where I'm at school all day and then days where the only thing I have to do is homework and I spend long stretches at home by myself. So I'm gonna start going to a cafe a few hours every morning I'm not at school; that should distract me enough.

    Day 1. I was extremely depressed over this past weekend, what with eating poorly because valentine's, and the last really difficult conversation I needed to have with my friend. I should be good now but I was so depressed I couldn't convince myself to fight and threw in the towel last night.
     
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  19. RestartGame_

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    Day 8.

    It's going great so far. Not many cravings. I think the initial shock with my health condition gave me kind of a jumpstart. My tinnitus is pretty loud at night and it is really like buzzing and vibrating, like I had high blood pressure or something. Made it more difficult for me to fall asleep. I slept though and it will probably disappear when I am around 30 days and have implemented a better lifestyle ;)
    I am going to definitely do some medical tests just to be sure and I am going to check my blood pressure as well.
    Also, I see forward to start doing some exercise.

    About my work.

    I already scheduled an interview this week for another job in a very convenient location for me, which pays me well, however I'll only know for sure after they send me the offer ;) \m/

    Some advise I'd like to share:
    Don't do anything crazy ambitious on your first days of recovery, that's when you are the most vulnerable.
    Fulfill your core responsibilities first. Move your body. Go to the gym, do stuff that is more enjoyable. And maybe do some small creative stuff.
    Do small steps and slowly start adding stuff.

    One big mistake I did, was like after countless relapses on like day 1 or 2, I was like OK I'm going to get myself a FULL-TIME job and go study in university at the same time while doing ALL the modules at once. This way I am always motivated and won't have time for PMO. Ohhh, believe me after 1 month of that insanity, I was completely broke, could not financially support my family and I thought I was literally going to become homeless and die. And I was not motivated. Thankfully it didn't come to that.

    I learned that for the big steps, I need to have mastered the small steps and thus be prepared and more secure for the next steps. You know those quotes where they say "you're never going to be ready, just do it". --> https://www.google.com/search?q=you're+never+going+to+be+ready+,+just+do+it&client=firefox-b-d&tbm=isch&source=iu&ictx=1&fir=H43ror-gfMo2RM%3A%2CmcswLS-3chH1QM%2C_&vet=1&usg=AI4_-kRHWTlhPpBxr_SzTFW7iZUqzRkjEw&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwj6_7KV8tjnAhVJ4OAKHZE8Cf8Q9QEwBXoECAoQCQ

    Trust me social media is full with those and they can be, in some cases, misleading, because they are always subjetive to the context, situation and circumstances.

    See it like this. Imagine a desk with 4 table legs. The table legs represent your aptitude and your health condition (Body, Mind, Spirit).
    Everything that gets on the desk are your goals. Now when the table legs are weak, they are most likely to break when the weight is too heavy. Well and then you're back to square one. Trust me, those analogies are usually very accurate.

    Be honest with yourself and listen to your body. What CAN you do? And what will likely not work well yet?.

    I also learned that motivation is not a constant and it is not a requirement to achieve my goals. I have to be able to do the things even without motivation, but based on discipline and principles. And I think, in my experience at least, when you're in abstinence based on that for a few days or weeks you're going to feel good about it and it is kinda like motivating. So, I think that motivation will come anyways at some point and it is always welcome, but we should not depend on it.

    Sorry for the long text.

    I'm going to keep charging forward and keep you updated.

    I hope everyone is doing great.

    Cheers!
     
    Last edited: Feb 17, 2020
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  20. vedbharadva0704

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    I am at day 5 but while watching a movie I got really aroused and was about to ejaculate but I controlled myself I wasn't fapping does it count? Please respond.
     
    Last edited: Feb 17, 2020

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