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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by 2525, Oct 27, 2017.
Still 18 days. Some thoughts, which may not be relevant for everybody here in the first place...
I am married with kids, i live in a Northern country in Winter and i am over 50 - meaning, i don't go out to places to hit on girls.
Well, this sounds like a perfect basis for our challenge here, however it isn't because actually masturbating for hours in front of your screen to porn is the perfect anti-world to my life in different stages. During my more than 30 years of porn addiction (let's name it), I always had different motivations to hook myself on porn: As a teen i learned from my dad's Swedish magazines, as a student, I spent lots of money on Videos and DVDs to impress with sex-skills and overcome loneliness and as a family guy in my first marriage, I built myself a parallel world online, which ended this marriage by crossing over to the real world and cheating...
A lot of my personal and professional failures as well as too much drinking and depressions over the years are a consequence of being glued to PORN.
No, you’re not. You’re a flawed human being, just as every human being is flawed. It’s great that you’ve started to acknowledge your mistakes and have started to try and stop making those mistakes.
That sounds rough. And in a way it’s a good reminder to each of us of how porn addiction starts small but then slowly infects our whole life. But it’s never too late to stop it and grow.
Day 3 of attempt no. 3.
Day 50. I’m happy I joined this community.
Day 4. Even though I just reset, looking at the big picture, in the last 120 days or so I only PMO'd I think 2-3 times. And I want to acknowledge something positive I've noticed through this - maybe it will inspire some of you to keep going even after a few setbacks.
Many of the distortions in my 'sexual mind' which were caused by a flood of fetishistic P over the years, have largely self-corrected after this relatively long period of (near) abstinence . I'm finding myself having thoughts and feelings about females which are back in line with my true, normal self, and it's really nice to notice this.
What I'm saying is the dark and artificial influence of all that deviant P is starting to fade, and a healthy desire for a real romantic connection with an actual woman is returning. It's encouraging to me - I'm feeling grounded in myself again, and even a little bit hopeful about the future.
Don't give up, friends. If you stumble, just get back up and keep trying. Try to keep the big picture in mind of what we're really trying to accomplish here. In my opinion this process is not just about day counters or achieving some kind of nofap perfection - rather it's about recovering from PMO abuse/addiction and working towards long-lasting inner change, so that we can live fuller, happier, more meaningful lives.
Day 9/90 No PM (ends May 10)
Day 390 on this challenge
Day 136 weight training (M, W, F)
Lifestyle: reduced caffeine, desserts and alcohol
44/90. Just to remind about myself, friends. Still on my way. Started to attend self-defence trainings. My first engagement in sports in 15 years. Previously had no time for that: was preoccupied with well-known to you stuff and self-pity... Realized that I cannot train and ignore diet recommendations. Luckily, it turned out that internet offers not only porn content, but as well good articles on diet Good luck lads! Will come back soon.
Day 5: Been away for a bit but I am back now. Gave up for a little bit but no more. It is a struggle. Onwards and upwards and restored.
This is really encouraging. Thank you for posting it.
Day 0 again. Very depressed and lost track of my "why". And when you lose track of your "why", you just kind of throw in the towel. Hopefully I can find it but right now I don't see myself sustaining a streak for any significant amount of time.
Thank you for inspiring post.
19 days and still there!
Day 12, still going strong!