[90-CHALLENGE] THE NINETY DAYS CHALLENGE !

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  1. That's how many days I've been attempting 90 days but haven't made it yet. I think once I do, the motivation to keep going will come from the positive feelings about myself and boost in self confidence.
     
  2. Sounds like you are in flatline land bro. Keep going, you'll get over it.
     
  3. Day 11/90 No PM (ends May 10)
    Day 392 attempting this challenge
    Day 137 weight training (M, W, F)
    Lifestyle: reduced caffeine, desserts and alcohol
     
  4. hindiguy29

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  6. Mansfelder

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    at 21 days I relapsed and went home. Start again tomorrow
     
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  7. dannyboy91

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    That's great you're still going for it, you can do this!
     
  8. dannyboy91

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    Day 14, longest steak in a while! The WD's have picked up in frequency which are annoying but it has got to come out somehow!
     
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  9. Day 6 fine
    Having power surges.
     
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  10. Abc833

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    Hello fam. Just stopping by. I hope all is well. Stay strong and stay focused.
     
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  11. Guys I have to be honest and do another reset. Chaser effect plus feeling sorry for myself the other night got to me. This is what happened last time I relapsed, I had a pretty tough time for the first week or two until I got my momentum going.

    Feel like I let myself down but I can't afford to get too disappointed, since that just leads to negative thinking which leads to more negative actions. So, just picking up from here, moving forward, and trying again. Day 0.
     
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  12. bromor

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    Day 55 guys! Lets do this!
     
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  13. RiseToGreatness

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    checkin in 80/81/82 days my brothers.

    one of the good outcomes of nofap is that you really become a better person: you become smarter, faster, carismatic and that will improve life in lot´s of ways. i have a lot more work now and my incomes are going through the roof :). i feel abundance around me.

    however this abundance atraction has a problem to it, the day still has only 24 hours. and the last days i was so overwhelmed with work, that i barely could get home, have dinner and sleep. this create a lack in the reboot work, so in the last days i didn´t stay accountable, didn´t read reboot material and i slowly got into temptation.

    i peaked nudity a couple of seconds yesterday when i feel sluggish and some minutes at night when wife went to bed surprisingly early. well, minutes as you know is an eternity and last night was in fact the most dangerous moment i had in this streak. thank God i didn´t pmo. i try not to debate on "why i shouldn´t fap" since i know that arguing with the addiction is the last stage before the fall. so i just drag myself to bed. i pray that i could fall asleep and i did. Thank God. good sleep in fact :)

    so the paradox is that nofap improves life a lot, but we can´t stray away from the nofap work. it´s almost like a daily mind straighter that you need to keep feeding, in order to keep installing the new mindset and uninstall the old one. even when life improves, even when we feel amazing we still have to do the work!! so during working days even if i don´t have 1 hour or 30 minutes to stay here as long as i want, i will do what it takes to drop in, post, read my material and carry on. my life depends on it.

    I hope this testimony can help you brothers. Let´s go!!!
     
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  14. Mansfelder

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    Same with me... happened one day before the magic 22 (my peak). You're right disappointment doesn't help
     
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  15. Martin Martin

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    Hi I'm new to nofap I joined today. Tomorrow I'm going to attempt a 90 day reboot. I think it's going to be very difficult because the longest I have ever done is 10 days while in a silent meditation retreat with no phone and no laptop so no access to the internet. Outside of retreats in the real world where I have the temptation of technology and the internet I have only managed 5-6 days of no PMO I find that my sexual energy gets stronger and stronger and when I see hot girls on the street it really shakes up some strong energy inside and makes me want to release the energy. I'm 35 years old, I don't suffer from any type of sexual disfunction I still enjoy real sex over porn and can easily perform sex with a girl. I'm just not very lucky with girls and haven't really had many serious long term relationships. I have tried to stop porn because I don't like to contribute towards something similar to prostitution, I'm getting into more rough and taboo porn and when I have tried to stop I haven't succeeded. I have tried masturbating without porn but it's just not the same and the sensations and orgasm doesn't feel as good as when I'm watching porn. I want to stop so that I can try to meet a partner and not have a dirty secret that I have to hide from them.
     
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    I do also have other addictions: Weed, coffee, sugary foods like cake etc, internet and screens (phone, laptop)
     
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  18. RestartGame_

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    Hi chiyu, I feel you.

    I had these situations at night and in the morning a lot. What helped me most in those situations was the self-talk technique.

    Remember, that a relapse is only as much of a growth opportunity as you make it.

    I might suggest to journal about this, and make sure to identify why you relapsed. Circumstances, Emotions and how you acted on the emotions.

    Do this and you will see that each time it is less likely, that you will repeat the same mistake again. In case you relapse again, repeat the process. Whatever you put energy into, grows and becomes stronger. So if you repeat this journaling process each time, your mind will grow stronger and your feelings as a result as well.

    That also means that journaling properly after a relapse is a rewiring process. Yes, that's right, you can make actual progress even after a relapse.

    Journaling is not only good for people with addictions but for people in general. It can be a life changer.

    There is a saying by Einstein: "insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results".

    Keep going strong!
     
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  19. RestartGame_

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    Congrats on the 14 days!

    I want to say that sexual dreams are a normal thing to happen, as our brain is processing the PMO.

    However there are a few things that I did to not let sexual dreams become WD's.

    One thing that helped me with WD's was when preparing myself for sleep, trying to avoid sexual thoughts as much as possible. However when they persist compulsively, just let them happen but don't focus on them. You can also try self-talk. When done right, they will fade instantly most of the times. If they don't fade right away, they will fade at some point. Have something else to think about.
    The WD's usually start with our thoughts and visualizations before going to sleep.

    Also be sure to feel confident and fearless and they are less likely to happen. The confidence and fearless thing was the biggest one for me.

    I had them in my initial attempts of abstinence when reaching around 10-14 days.
    However later on, I had another 30 day streak (That's already when I learned a lot more stuff) and I didn't have WD's, only very few sexual dreams.

    And the dreams were quite interesting, because when I understood the message, my brain was actually trying to tell me what is wrong with PMO.

    Keep going strong!
     

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