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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by 2525, Oct 27, 2017.
Had urges today like the last few days and withstood them successfully.
I talked with my psicologist today and noticed that I made a lot more eye contact without even trying, it was automatic and I could focus and think better while maintaining eye contact better than usually. So that was awesome, even though it's still a small thing.
I also noticed that my social anxiety decreased slightly. This one might be a placebo or whatever, but I am just stating what I noticed.
Anyways tomorrow there is more.
Let's keep at it!
Great to hear that you accomplished these streaks, they are a sign of your effort
About the thing you said regarding the 3 week hurdle and 2 month hurdle, I read a post from a guy who did a monitoring of his recovery. It showed the times where most cravings occured inside a 90 day span.
Check it out (Maybe it's best not to uncover words that might be triggering, they weren't for me but might be for others):
I hope this provides some insight and motivation.
Much strength and success!
Day 1. Feeling still pretty low self-esteem, but reminded myself why I'm on this journey, and I think I can handle it more this time.
Awesome mate keep going! It's that day 391 no PM or is that the amount of time you've been trying this challenge? I'm trying to think of how I can keep the motivation once I get past these 90 days
Day 13, feeling super horny but trying to divert that into positive energy and motivation!
I have a more concrete reason to continue nofap, relapsed after 35 days on 2nd of Jan, picked up myself again and went 25 days(offline).
Now I'm 20 days in again, so let's go
2 days in, the urges in the morning are a serious thing ,but i'll get through it !
Day 10. No morning urges. Of recent am having dreams involving a girl. but today I don't feel any PM urges. Even though I have noticed my desire to talk with girls has really increased. Am walking on campus and almost every girl is like a 6 and above
90 Days challenge - 21st May 2020
20 days... I understand why I gave up at this time in previous attempts. Pheeeeew! I will try to manage. I will manage.
Day 5. I tried to do M this morning, to see if it gets easier to stay away from P if I do M without P now and then - and also to keep my sperm at good quality for the IVF sessions with my girlfriend. I managed to do it with a fantasy, but afterwards I felt really sad. I had to do an extended meditation session to get over it. Weird.
Also, I still have urges to look at P and just now I took a very short peak, but I found that it still really doesn't interest me. It's like I'm confused about sexuality in my mind now, I've lost all interest in how I used to experience it - which was mostly by myself behind a computer or with a book - but there's also an unconscious sadness about losing that part of my life. I had no idea this was part of the unaddicting process as well: it's not so much of a fight at the moment, but a sense of missing something and of sadness in letting go - even though what I'm letting go just brought me misery and I really want to let go of it.
Day 1 - anxiety, feeling low, lazy, low energy
Day 2 - less anxiety, some improvement in mood, low energy
Day 3 - -do- , Involving myself in daily chores
Day o is going.....
Day 35. Feeling some urges today. I'm also travelling to my house to stay for a few days (holiday in my country), which makes me a little worried, cause I'll probably stand alone in the house and tou guys know the story. Hope to stay accountable, don't wanna stop before 90 days, gotta get my life back. Good luck to you all!
I feel you.
I think there will be a part of you, when having left behind a certain time of abstinence, that will see the PMO in a different way, because PMO in itself is an act of self-deception. We see this illusion of what sex is, however our brain has the ability to "reset to factory settings" so to speak. Which is amazing.
I had phases where I lost my "appetite" for P or MO for having done it a lot, however that would be a kind of fadigue, exhausted Sex Drive or exhausted neuro-chemicals.
Then I had the experience of abstaining for 30 days where PMO, when I unfortunately relapsed, actually felt different. I felt an actual distance between P and MO. They felt like separate things, out of harmony. (Harmony in the sense of being in unison)
The idea that these things belong together is something that only abstinence can cure. And the abstinence has to happen together with substitution.
Also I wanted to leave a personal opinion about Masturbation while in recovery. I think it is of advantage to abstain from P M and O while in recovery altogether, because either of those will always give you a taste of "PMO" in general (while still in recovery), because due to the addiction, P M and O are all connected in a certain dysfunctional way. And thus Masturbation might just lead to P as well.
There are the Easy Mode and Normal Mode, which are still considered to be softer transitions to soberness, which will probably take longer than a Hard Mode.
But some say that Hard Mode is actually the easier mode, because you cut out all sexual influences until a certain point, which will make it easier for you to abstain.
Our minds need to reset to do the normal sexual things normally again.
I hope this makes sense.
You might want to check out this video series, which I found very helpful:
God Bless You.
Keep going strong with this streak!