[90-CHALLENGE] THE NINETY DAYS CHALLENGE !

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  1. RiseToGreatness

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    checkin in 80/81/82 days my brothers.

    one of the good outcomes of nofap is that you really become a better person: you become smarter, faster, carismatic and that will improve life in lot´s of ways. i have a lot more work now and my incomes are going through the roof :). i feel abundance around me.

    however this abundance atraction has a problem to it, the day still has only 24 hours. and the last days i was so overwhelmed with work, that i barely could get home, have dinner and sleep. this create a lack in the reboot work, so in the last days i didn´t stay accountable, didn´t read reboot material and i slowly got into temptation.

    i peaked nudity a couple of seconds yesterday when i feel sluggish and some minutes at night when wife went to bed surprisingly early. well, minutes as you know is an eternity and last night was in fact the most dangerous moment i had in this streak. thank God i didn´t pmo. i try not to debate on "why i shouldn´t fap" since i know that arguing with the addiction is the last stage before the fall. so i just drag myself to bed. i pray that i could fall asleep and i did. Thank God. good sleep in fact :)

    so the paradox is that nofap improves life a lot, but we can´t stray away from the nofap work. it´s almost like a daily mind straighter that you need to keep feeding, in order to keep installing the new mindset and uninstall the old one. even when life improves, even when we feel amazing we still have to do the work!! so during working days even if i don´t have 1 hour or 30 minutes to stay here as long as i want, i will do what it takes to drop in, post, read my material and carry on. my life depends on it.

    I hope this testimony can help you brothers. Let´s go!!!
     
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  2. Mansfelder

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    Same with me... happened one day before the magic 22 (my peak). You're right disappointment doesn't help
     
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  3. Martin Martin

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    Hi I'm new to nofap I joined today. Tomorrow I'm going to attempt a 90 day reboot. I think it's going to be very difficult because the longest I have ever done is 10 days while in a silent meditation retreat with no phone and no laptop so no access to the internet. Outside of retreats in the real world where I have the temptation of technology and the internet I have only managed 5-6 days of no PMO I find that my sexual energy gets stronger and stronger and when I see hot girls on the street it really shakes up some strong energy inside and makes me want to release the energy. I'm 35 years old, I don't suffer from any type of sexual disfunction I still enjoy real sex over porn and can easily perform sex with a girl. I'm just not very lucky with girls and haven't really had many serious long term relationships. I have tried to stop porn because I don't like to contribute towards something similar to prostitution, I'm getting into more rough and taboo porn and when I have tried to stop I haven't succeeded. I have tried masturbating without porn but it's just not the same and the sensations and orgasm doesn't feel as good as when I'm watching porn. I want to stop so that I can try to meet a partner and not have a dirty secret that I have to hide from them.
     
  4. Martin Martin

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    I do also have other addictions: Weed, coffee, sugary foods like cake etc, internet and screens (phone, laptop)
     
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  5. Homo Deus

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  6. RestartGame_

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    Hi chiyu, I feel you.

    I had these situations at night and in the morning a lot. What helped me most in those situations was the self-talk technique.

    Remember, that a relapse is only as much of a growth opportunity as you make it.

    I might suggest to journal about this, and make sure to identify why you relapsed. Circumstances, Emotions and how you acted on the emotions.

    Do this and you will see that each time it is less likely, that you will repeat the same mistake again. In case you relapse again, repeat the process. Whatever you put energy into, grows and becomes stronger. So if you repeat this journaling process each time, your mind will grow stronger and your feelings as a result as well.

    That also means that journaling properly after a relapse is a rewiring process. Yes, that's right, you can make actual progress even after a relapse.

    Journaling is not only good for people with addictions but for people in general. It can be a life changer.

    There is a saying by Einstein: "insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results".

    Keep going strong!
     
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  7. RestartGame_

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    Congrats on the 14 days!

    I want to say that sexual dreams are a normal thing to happen, as our brain is processing the PMO.

    However there are a few things that I did to not let sexual dreams become WD's.

    One thing that helped me with WD's was when preparing myself for sleep, trying to avoid sexual thoughts as much as possible. However when they persist compulsively, just let them happen but don't focus on them. You can also try self-talk. When done right, they will fade instantly most of the times. If they don't fade right away, they will fade at some point. Have something else to think about.
    The WD's usually start with our thoughts and visualizations before going to sleep.

    Also be sure to feel confident and fearless and they are less likely to happen. The confidence and fearless thing was the biggest one for me.

    I had them in my initial attempts of abstinence when reaching around 10-14 days.
    However later on, I had another 30 day streak (That's already when I learned a lot more stuff) and I didn't have WD's, only very few sexual dreams.

    And the dreams were quite interesting, because when I understood the message, my brain was actually trying to tell me what is wrong with PMO.

    Keep going strong!
     
  8. RestartGame_

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    Hi there,

    I loved the insight into your life situation, it really makes me feel joy to see people succeed.

    And it is like you said. Even when we feel confident, we heal, see the benefits and reap the rewards from our efforts, we have to stay attentive to our recovery, at least until we cease to feel compulsions in times of hardship. And PMO becomes a choice rather than a compulsion.
    Because there is an actual science behind the time that it takes for us to recover and for the compulsions to settle down. It's different for each person, however 90 days among the recovery communities is said to be a bare minimum and the time it takes to build primary neural pathways.

    Keep going strong!
     
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  11. Mansfelder

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    The first day takes ages!

    Why did I relapse last night? I actually started of with no porn and no masturbation, but then changed to hard mode until I would have normal sex again. Three days ago, I talked with my wife about the challenge and confronted her about the fact, that we didn't have sex. She said, I push her too much and if I want to ejaculate, I could do it myself... Then, during work time. I looked at some of her pictures and my heart started beating like hell!
    Yesterday at work I took it further and read an article about brothels with some half-nude pics (I have safe-mode on on my browser) and my heart beat again. So, I went to work in the evening with no intention to work but to test out how far I could go, sat down at my desk, turned safe mode off and the MISERY GOT STARTED. I didn't care and after 5 hours of ... and looking at all my favourite stuff I went home as a complete wreck.

    Don't try to test yourself! Stay clean! Stay social! I want to be back
     
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  14. chiyu

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    This is great advice, friend. I never thought about doing that type of work in a more formal written style post-relapse. I have used such methods to help with anxiety issues and it's been very useful so I would expect it to help in this situation as well.

    I have noticed that there is a pattern which usually has to do with when my mood & outlook on life has soured, and especially if combined with having a few drinks that puts me in a state more likely to act out in a negative way.

    Thanks much for your suggestion, I will start using it now!
     
  15. chiyu

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    Yes my 'danger zone' is when I'm feeling that "What does it matter" kind of attitude, like after a series of setbacks in other areas of my life. It's hard to do, but even in these moments when we're feeling down we must keep perspective, and know that escaping out into PMO is only going to make us feel worse in the longer-term, and so we should choose a more positive way of coping. That can be anything from meditation, to doing something creative, to taking a walk, etc. We can use this opportunity to learn from our mistakes, and overcome this challenge next time we meet it. :)
     
  16. chiyu

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    Checking in on Day 1. Done feeling bad about my setback. Time to take some positive actions today. :emoji_sunny:
     
  17. Vendidad

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  18. RestartGame_

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    Day 13.

    It has been going great so far. I noticed that I feel like doing things a little more. Creative things.

    However I am on vacation right now and I haven't been doing anything outside the house, besides chores. So that might be a problem for the future days.

    The gym I signed up for is in construction until beginning of March. The problem is I am still a sick with sore throat (actually still pretty much inflamed) and doing higher intensity exercise is not a good idea until I am better.

    What I do:
    Play the guitar, programm a videogame, watch netflix, take walks and do chores whenever needed.

    So, to do something close to exercise and relaxation, I can try and do like full body stretches regularly and meditation.

    I also don't go out with friends, to be quite honest, that might be a problem too. I lost pretty much all relationships due to my addiction and regaining them is harder than making new ones. (Well that's one of the biggest problems with this addiction anyways)

    Currently it is not easy, because I know how to make friends, I did it once. I had to move around a little, however I need a smartphone to navigate otherwise it's probably not gonna work well. And my smartphone is broken and I have to wait to buy a new one, because currently I have to keep my saved up money, until I know that I am financially stable. Probably when I start working at the new job. A month from now.

    One thing at a time. I think I can handle a few more days inside the house.

    I have been able to sleep more or less. Sometimes less, somtimes more. And the tinnitus is still present but weaker, I think. It most likely is connected with my sore throat and the pressure it makes in my ears. (says the doctor as well, so I'm not worried that much, this is going to go away)

    Very well, I think I wrote enough for today. This pretty much sums it up.

    Will catch up with you tomorrow with 14 days. 2 weeks.

    God bless you all.

    Let's keep it up!
     
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  20. dannyboy91

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    Day 15! Starting to feel a bit less anxiety throughout the day which is nice, it's crazy how it just becomes normal to live with underlying anxiety.
     

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