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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by 2525, Oct 27, 2017.
THIS IS HARD.
Hecc, fighting urges is painful. I hope I can make it. 9 days so far...
Day 3. Was busy all day today and I'm gonna be busy for the rest of the day, and spent some time doing more reading about the whys and hows. Feeling good. We'll see where this goes.
88 days my brothers
here´s a great excerpt from "rebooting as the best remedy". have a nice day.
"For the brothers that repeatedly relapse, if you are familiar with Traditional Chinese Medicine you will notice that there is a pattern to the relapses. The pattern of the relapse and the “value of kidney qi” is intricately interconnected. When you feel that your body is weak you will instinctively want to reboot. Once you have been rebooting for a while and kidney qi will have started to recover somewhat, this is when it’s very easy to relapse. In the beginning of the reboot, we will experience a period of flatlining with regards to our desires, many people during this stage do not experience strong cravings and are able to control themselves. But during the flatlining period, it’s very easy to let our guard down and think that we have succeeded, in reality, our desires are only temporarily in dormant. Once our kidney qi has recovered to a certain degree that is when the desires are awakened. During this stage the relapse is often accompanied by vigorous masturbation, all our previous efforts have gone down the drain. The period of flatline varies from person to person, for some people that period is 3 days, for others, it can be 20 days or 60 days. According to my understanding, the average duration of the flatline period is around 3 weeks or 21 days. Following the flatlining period is the peak period for relapses after the relapse is the period of regret, the feeling of doubt and regret will be quite strong at this stage.
The purpose of this article is to let everyone become aware of the flatline period. During this period we need to increase our alertness and maintain our vigilance, we must not slack in our rebooting studies. Only through the unceasing study of rebooting material can we increase our understanding and our level of determination. The level of determination is comparable to when we grind for levels in an internet game, in the beginning, our level is low and succumbs to the temptations of the heart, once we have continuously studied rebooting material and our level of determination have risen, the heart can no longer tempt us. If you don’t study rebooting knowledge, no understanding will take place, the level of determination will forever remain at a low level. And when we encounter a temptation the result is obvious; every encounter will result in failure, when we see x-rated material we will not have any determination, once we see it our heart begins to flutter and we click on the material, without immunity and resistance we are finished.
[Vow to reboot] -> [flatline period] -> [kidney qi recovers somewhat] -> [peak period for relapse] -> [period for regret]
This is the process of relapse, also known as the vicious circle. Many people cannot escape from this circle for years or even decades. Once I was stuck in this vicious circle for well over a decade because at the time I didn’t reach understanding, I didn’t study rebooting material nor was I aware of how to maintain a healthy lifestyle. I only knew the brute force way and the blind way. With regards to the brute force way, I thought that I will be able to quit masturbation by relying on willpower. In reality, the brute force way will surely result in failure because we have not raised our state of awareness. The blind way is trying to reboot without the knowledge of rebooting, the blind way will also surely fail for the same reason."
Nice. Very noble decision you made there. You've put yourself first. Sex is a choice not a need. And what you need for now is to recover.
Keep it up.
12/90 not even wet dreams during this streak
No feeling is final, endure.
Day 61 !!! Yess
Day 4 of self love and learning.
Day 2 complete
Day 36 2nd wet dream in this streak, the first one was around day 20, I think on 21st day
Day 3 fine
Going smoothly to day 4
Day 3/90. Having a difficult time with, but hoping to grasp the concept of fooling yourself. I always fail, and I think I'm not the only one, with the "just one peek" thought. Thinking I can outsmart myself. Feeling clever about it. And by doing so sabotaging myself.
Telling myself my problem is orgasming while watching porn. But using porn as a (sexual) outlet is the problem. Needing a fix, if only peeking. It's about my whole relationship with porn.
Good luck everyone.
Yes, I know exactly how that goes. That's my trap as well.
Day 19 - almost 20.
We're getting there Not many cravings today. I'm not getting complacent and am not planning to. Instead I accept this new behaviour as a new way of life.
I had a sexual dream this morning, it really felt like a relapse. These dreams are damn scary. Like they really put you down emotionally whilst you're in it and when you wake up you're relieved. Your conscious mind kind of wakes up.
Also, I think when we are still in that sleepy Alpha wave state, that is one of the situations when we are more vulnerable to compulsive decisions. Our conscious mind goes partly dormant. So we need to be extra careful at those times.
And the same is for not having slept enough or having slept enough but stayed in bed while sleepy and then being in this hangover like state for having stayed in bed for too long (which in my experience, always felt worse than not having slept enough). It can compromise your mental stability throughout the day.
But that is all just part of the journey. Everything is.
I wish everybody a great weekend.
May it be good or bad, you know the drill.
I'll keep updating.
Yeah, I totally get it. ^^
I had that too. The way I see it, is that this happens, because there is a part of our conscious decision making, that still wants to do PMO and obviously it will try to create excuses.
Which are products of ignorance. Ignorance towards yourself and your health. And in the end of your whole life. In other words an act of self-deception, in its entirety.
I am just going to share what I did, and you can try and see if it works for you.
So, what I did, was training my mind and internalizing the truth about what PMO is, what are the advantages of abstinence and overcoming the addiction and what are the disadvantages of continuing down the path of compulsiveness/addiction.
Then at the end, what is my dream goal or goals.
Write as much as you can about the things I mentioned first and at the end, write down your truest hearts desires, the things that you want to have and or achieve in your life and the life that you want to live (it is also intended to not put any logical limitations to your long-term goals ). At the end your goals are supposed to give you an emotional feeling when you think about it.
This exercise is the key to organizing your thoughts and building your determination to quit the addiction.
I hope this helps.
Much blessings and keep going strong.
Day 21 today! Had a bit of a search on some chat apps stupidly, nothing happened but it was very risky!! Think it's just an unhealthy craving for attention which is so pointless. Anyway, locked down the app store and picking myself back up!
Let me ask. If I have a wet dream and I actually release sperms but it happened via the dream. Does it count as a relapse or I continue with my days.