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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by 2525, Oct 27, 2017.
I usally addicted to hairjob, hair tie, and see beautiful hair in instragram for 6 hours maximum i can tie hair on my penis without ejaculate. But average 2 hour i took for ejaculatory process. May be edged. I escaped from that kind of masterbation and it’s 23rd day challenged. I wanna be escaping like i will tie hair on my Penis till morning without ejaculation. How should I practice it ? From when? I am not like porn so much. But generally i am too horny , even i do exercise walking everyday two hours. Tell me a way of being a pro of semen retention or building a healthy penis. Should i tie hair on penis without ejaculatory practice or see Hair play, Hairgoal type video and erect as much as can the no touch? Beautiful girls who are my enemies. I fighting with their beauty always.
Relapsed on binge.Back to Day 1
Day 62!!! Keep rolling baby! You know what time it is
Day 87/90... coasting home on this... My thoughts are clearer than ever.
Day 22. Feeling a lot better today and ready to continue this!
It is not a relapse. That is just the way that the body releases some extra sperm that is in your body so the body can produce a new one. It is a natural and healthy process. More healthy than masturbation in my opinion.
After wet dream, a day or two, there is a possibility that you will feel a little different, maybe you can feel like you relapsed or little more angry, depressed... but that is just your mind trying to trick you to get back to PMO.
One advice from fellow fapstronaut.
Using Porn to Stop Feeling Bad
People who are unaware of this mistake are going to have a very difficult time quitting porn.
This is what usually happens:
You’re very stressed about work or school. You spent all your day working your ass under pressure and you know that the upcoming days are going to be the same. There’s pain in your body. You’re mentally exhausted. You want to relax and feel good. So what do you do? Watch porn.
You go out to have fun one night. There’s one girl you really like, so you try to talk to her, but she keeps ignoring you. One of your more outgoing friends keeps making her laugh with his jokes. You’re jealous. You say to yourself “Fuck this shit” and start approaching other women right there. They all reject you. Even one of them said to you “Get away from me!”. You go back home feeling incredibly frustrated. Your mood is very down. You start to wonder if you’ll ever be able to get a beautiful girlfriend. You get temporarily depressed. It’s painful. You want to escape these feelings. So what do you do? Watch porn.
You went out drinking last night. You had a lot of fun, but now you’re left with a terrible hangover. You have a headache, nausea, stomach pain. You can’t concentrate or do anything. You’re just lying there drinking some Gatorade. Obviously, being hungover sucks. You want to stop feeling bad, at least for a few moments. So what do you do? Watch porn.
You’re bored as fuck in your house. You and laziness become one. You’re not in the mood for anything, not even watching a movie. Boredom, boredom, and more boredom. Who wants to feel bored? Nobody. Time runs slowly. Nothing is fun. You go to Facebook and there are no interesting updates. You refresh your favorite forums and there are no new replies to your posts. There’s nothing to do. You start becoming anxious and restless. So what do you do? Watch porn.
Please, stop this.
You need to stop medicating yourself with porn every time you feel pain and discomfort.
This is ignorance to the reality of life.
Stress, depression, frustration, hangovers, boredom, injuries, physical pain, anxiety, embarrassment. You know what they are? You know what they’re called?
They’re called LIFE.
Do not run away from life. Do not run away from reality.
We will never become happy if we keep doing this.
In Buddhism this is called aversion. Running away from pain. Running away from discomfort.
All these bad feelings are temporary. Boredom, stress, hangovers, feeling down. They will all pass.
If we keep taking refuge in porn and running away from pain and discomfort then we will never be able to grow as persons and become real men.
We need to break out of this cycle. Or at the very least try to.
Otherwise, what are you going to do when things get tough in life? Hide in your room? Become depressed?
What are you going to do when you realize that hitting on girls brings up a lot of anxiety and nervousness? Run away? Make excuses?
What are you going to do when you’re stuck in a traffic jam for 2 hours and you’re hungry as fuck? Complain? Hit the horn endlessly?
What are you going to do when you realize that losing weight isn’t as easy as you thought it would be? Give up? Binge on junk food?
We need to stop using porn as a pain reliever.
We need to face reality, not run from it.
Please understand what I’m talking about here. If you do then you will be able to identify every time you’re using porn as an escape.
Infact back before I start NoFap. After I had a wet dream near day 30. I would relapse on the next day after the wet dream. Cause I would feel like I actually did M.
After reading. I remember a series of events the happened to me and caused me to relapse. Because I was to stress of everything not working out for me. Infact up untill I start the challenge porn was a remedy for stress. It always happened every after two weeks or a month when I was horny and stressed. Most tyms I would try to pick up girls but I was never successfully. I was always frustrated and for some reason doing M gave M a piece of mind. Untill I started losing control over my habit and it become an addiction.
Today is day 19.
I got a scary dream which I thought was actually real untill I woke up. In the dream I accidentally opened an Indian P site and the videos on it arouse larges urges in me and was doing M but in the dreams I was aware about Nofap and said to myself I don't want to continue doing this anymore. But I couldn't stop because the urges where strong. So in the dream I decided to just edge. Then my kid brother entered my room and distracted me before I actually did M. Thats when I woke up to realize it a dream...
I think am now entering a phrase for more similar dreams to happen but am gona be strong.
Infact I was really happy when I noticed that in the dream I thought of NoFap and the challenge. How I didn't want to start over again after all the days I had done.
And due to that thought I instead decided to edge.
Am really happy that nofap is helping me alot even when am unconscious I was able to think about how I want to recover from the PMO.
Day 3 the urge and fantasy is creeping on me, I know if I do it I will be broken and depressed again.
Entering day 2/90.
I have to say: at age 46, life goes very, very fast.
Now that I look forward to the 90-day span to be over, my days suddenly slowed to a crawl.
Like I'm living longer.
I have been shifting some cravings and thought processes last night. Nothing major. Actually I am a little confused about "rating" the cravings, because sometimes a minor thought can just escalate and become a intense craving that might be harder to shift than when done from the beginning. I am not sure, if it is all the same.
I always write about the cravings, but honestly I don't waste much time thinking about them.
I have a lot of fun doing things I love lately, and I have those euphoric phases, where I just play a song on my electric guitar and get into it like dancing and banging my head (I haven't enjoyed it like this before though). I've been playing some Megadeth and Dream Theater lately. Learning and re-learning songs. It's really fun.
Then programming my game, is also a source of joy. Sometimes a source of frustration lol, but then I usually take a break.
I feel like a part of me is kind of dying as well. (which is a good sign)
I feel a little stressed out as well. Maybe tomorrow or monday I will start going to the gym, not sure if it is open tomorrow I have to check. And I'll do some light stuff, starting with cardio and full-body workout and things like that. Yeah.
Not expecting to make many friends or attract girls and have superpowers, yet. haha
but, honestly I ready myself to be able to be this person, who just keeps living this life, WITHOUT PMO, even when my life and relationships stay mundane for a while.
It's just a mindset. The benefits will surely come. Well, they are appearing already, but there will be way more.
And for me, this will take some serious commitment. I have been making up my mind repeatedly about this.
I am still alive and while I breathe. I keep going.
Much blessings and hugs.
Stay strong and keep up the good fight.
I feel you. You probably felt disappointed when your plans fell through :/
And then not having anything else to do instead, gave you a reason to go back to the old behaviour, because your new behaviour didn't work.
I get it.
Be sure that you strengthen and enrich your knowledge to know how to deal with the urges. Mostly they are emotions disguised as cravings and just need to be addressed.
Be sure you know how to address them. I sent you a link below to a video that explains how to do self-talk (If you have seen it already, see it again).
Also I am not sure what your plans were for today, even when they didn't work out, we need to know how to let go and surely they were not the only plans that you had and the plans that you still have right now.
For me for example I have long-term goals, that stay in my mind, reminding me of where I am going, because otherwise if my smaller goals fail, I have no destination. I have to know where I am going.
We have to train ourselves to remain centered and continue taking the right choices, even when facing hardship. Be it of any kind.
Especially when you are in your worst state, that's where you should take the right path.
So make up your mind. And really make sure you understand 100% what this recovery is all about.
This is about changing who you are, and what you do as a person and what you do when things get rough.
Here is the video about self-talk:
I hope this helps
Start this streak with new knowledge and strength!
After more than a month i needed to release!