[90-CHALLENGE] THE NINETY DAYS CHALLENGE !

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  1. RiseToGreatness

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    93 days my brothers.

    here´s an interesting article from JK Emezi, porn rebooter coach. have a nice day :)

    "Brother,
    I often get asked about the dangers of masturbating while rebooting.
    "Isn't it healthy?"
    "Does it affect my brain rewiring?"
    "Is it o.k as long as I do it without watching porn?"
    Before we dive into that, lets talk about whats WRONG with masturbation.
    Four Problems with Masturbation

    Firstly, masturbation desensitizes you to regular sex. Over time, you get to the point that you prefer your hand to the sensation of being with your partner. You may have had the experience of having sex, feeling the need to masturbate shortly after, masturbating shortly after and perhaps feeling bad that you preferred masturbating to actual sex.

    Next- masturbation is for the most part, driven by fantasy. While there is nothing wrong with that, more of the than not, that fantasy comes from pornography or porn induced sexual fetishes. This makes to challenging to reboot.

    Masturbation is also used to medicate many issues. Loneliness, problematic relationships, feeling better about yourself, and other dealing with strong emotions are some of the things masturbation can be used for.

    Finally masturbation is a solo act. This means that when done compulsively, you condition yourself to disconnect from emotions which require connection. The emotional component of sex with your partner reduces and sex becomes more of an extension of masturbation.

    Many of us grew up in cultures where masturbation was frowned upon, or in religious households which discouraged masturbation.

    On the other hand, there are recovery groups and individuals who have progressed in their recovery who discourage masturbation.
    Professionally, I am not a fan of absolutes. Not only must there be a reason for creating a boundary for a client, but the client should also experience the reason for themselves.

    For some porn addicts, masturbation is your only sexual outlet. In the porn reboot system, we teach you to control your behavior with masturbation, to the point where you have full confidence in your control or where you lose the urge to masturbate compulsively.

    After this period of time, clients who have no other sexual outlet may begin masturbating WITHOUT pornography -with certain guidelines.

    To make it absolutely clear- this is a professionally supervised process because, naturally we will underestimate the time and competency in coping skills required to get to this point. A good therapist or coach can work with you to determine the best time for this .

    If you don't have a therapist or coach, you must decide for yourself personally, as your progress in your reboot whether masturbation is a healthy behavior for you or not.
    After learning about the problems associated with masturbation, its ultimately up to you to decide where masturbation fits in your life.
    The biggest danger you face is understanding this information regarding masturbation, yet still choosing to live in denial of your problem.

    Your brother in this struggle,
    J.K Emezi"
     
  2. Merry Terry

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    I think you’re still seeing the urges too much as a struggle and something to fight. Try to just observe the urges, calmly, while at the same time being fully aware that giving in to the urges has absolutely nothing positive to bring you. You can just look at them and with a very clear mind and 100% determination - but calmly - tell yourself: yeah, I’m not gonna do it. And then just watch the urges go away, because nothing ever lasts, especially things that you are not giving energy.
     
  3. Merry Terry

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    Day 9 of this streak, in which my focus lies on increasing self-love and thus eliminating the need to do PM.
    I joined this forum 120 days ago. Of those 120 days, I was 111 days without PM.
     
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  4. Merry Terry

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    Yes, there are sooo many things that can trigger us these days, it’s depressing. I guess the trick is to learn not to be triggered. Because avoiding the triggers is ultimately impossible.
     
  5. Before self destruction

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    I'm starting 90days challenge I'm on day zero.
    I need your support to go through
     
  6. Pathofsuccess_1

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  7. Golden-Balls

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    Hope this will help. I noticed a pattern in my relapses. It took me two weeks then I would relapse. But after relapsing.. I had to relapse like five times or six before my sexual energy would settle and take two more weeks to fill up. So I used that as a headstart. I relapsed untill my sexual drives where back to normal. Then I started nofap. And from then I have never relapsed again. Am being constantly aware and
     
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  8. Golden-Balls

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    Day 23 about to end. I had some rear urges. I was pissed at someone which cause an emotional instability in the morning. During that moment I got urges to watch P and do M. But I noted it down and waited for the urges to fade away
     
  9. Golden-Balls

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    Love this. I actually also use that technique. I decided to be very mindful and aware of every emotion I feel. Always on the lookout for sexual urges and emotions. And I just observe untill it fades away
     
  10. Turner

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    Way to go terry !!!
     
  11. Turner

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    Reporting for duty. Day two almost done.
     
  12. benj

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    Day 1
    I'll get it right this time
     
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  13. sammyjiji

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    Finally its day 91 / 90 . I was too focused on my daily tasks I forgot I had passed the big 90. Hopefully also, im able to keep the momentum. Many thanks guys, see you @ the other side, moving to the next challenge
     
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  14. PowerfulSRE

    PowerfulSRE Distinguished Fapstronaut

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    Congratulations man, keep your journey! Good luck!
     
  15. Titu

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  16. Edmund ED

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    Day 1: I'm in! just came from a 30 day challenge.
     
  17. Jorge1

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  18. ANameThatStartsWithK

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    Day 4/90 check in
     

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