Day 16. For the past days I have been feeling zero motivation I was expecting to be motivated or feel some drive to do any task. But I only want to do tasks that require almost no willpower power. Like watching movies or just sleeping.
That's great. At this time of our lives we ought to engage in things that will motivate us, and not discourage us. Success is awaiting us.
Good to know. The most important step is being willing to change. We are a group that is committed to overcome PMOing. Welcome to the family. If there is any challenge, you can share with us.
Day 7/90 CompletedToday is my 7th day of no PMO. I struggled yesternight, but here I am today victorious. I feel energetic for not falling to PMO. It is better to spend time with ourselves, and loved ones than watch people on screens doing things that are damaging to our overall wellbeing.
17 days complete Today is a tough day. My brain is really craving an instant high right now. I'm on my last 30mg caffeine pill. Moving down to 20mg tomorrow. For those of you who are considering quitting caffeine, I highly recommend finding a way to gradually reduce your intake. Quitting cold turkey can definitely work, but when you PAIR that with trying to stay PMO free it compounds the urges. In short, it's just too drastic of a chemical change for your brain to handle. The urge to have SOMETHING that makes you feel good can become so overwhelming you'll likely end up binging on one behavior or the other. At the same time, everyone is different. Not everyone's brain operates the same way and not everyone experiences chemical change the same way. So, cold turkey might work for you. Just something to be aware of. If you DO want an incredibly easy way to reduce your caffeine intake, try Wean Caffeine. I've been using these and it has helped tremendously! It's not magic, you'll still feel discomfort and tired on some days, but the withdrawal symptoms are much less severe. I've found that while I may be uncomfortable on some days, I can still function fairly well, so I've been able to continue doing my job and take care of responsibilities at home. More importantly, I'm still mentally present and clear enough to fight the PMO urges and make better choices!! For those of you that are noticing a connection between any kind of drug use (caffeine, alcohol, pot, etc.) I'm right there with you! I think a simple explanation is that while these are different behaviors and different chemical addictions, they all follow the same brain pathway of doing something that makes me feel good instantly without me having to do any real work (or be productive). In other words, they all follow the pattern of escape mentality. I believe that reinforcing one of these tends to reinforce the others. In the past I've observed that if I break my commitment to no caffeine, PMO will not be far behind. Again, this is how things have worked out FOR ME. I'm sure not everyone is the same, so don't hear me saying that you're wrong to drink coffee or alcohol if that's what you do. Those things are fine if you can maintain a healthy relationship with them and they don't affect your PMO goals. My only two goals in saying this are 1) to write out my thoughts on the subject and 2) encourage you to be mindful of these factors and how they MIGHT be affecting your progress. I hope at least some of this was helpful to some of you! I appreciate all of you going on this journey together!
Damn, my urges are crazy frequent today. Every 10 or 15 minutes a thought or a memory or a fantasy pops up. Staying strong...
Hey @Merry Terry the other day I watched a video of someone saying why urges are not bad, but good. Urges are necessary because we need to understand how to deal with them in order to reboot. It is what rebooting is about, you know.. I was thinking about it and I think the brain needs to change and dissociate urges from PM. Urges are normal because we are human beings, but PM is not necessary. Here is the video, hope it helps! I am reporting on day 80/90! Getting closer.
Alright then. Lets hope for the best cos I haven't lost hope at all and thanks for the reply. I really Appreciate it.
Day 7 successfully completed!! I cannot begin to thank God enough who has Sustained me. I'm so grateful for this part of my journey! It's teaching me self control, a renewed train of thought! It's teaching me Patience with myself, lol I've lost count of how much I 'slipped' after many times of starting over! For me, an ENTIRE week is a BIG deal! Granted, each time you become intentional about anything, your flesh has a tendency of trying to talk you out of your commitment and I had a few of those moments. But,I look forward to seven years free from PMO to a lifetime! I'm grateful. ❤️
On day 13. Last night I had a wet dream which is a recurring thing when I relapse and then reach about two weeks of no pmo. I've been doing this challenge long enough to know it's a sign of progress. My sexual thoughts are going back to reality rather than fantasy. Things are looking good
Day 10 Done! Getting ready for lift-off! I still could use recommendations for a good internet filter/blocker to complement my OpenDNS.
I used to drink 3-4 coffees per day for around 10 years. A couple of years ago I quit by weaning myself off. I went to 2 coffees for a week. Then 1 coffee and 1 black tea for a week. Then a week of 1 coffee and 1 green tea. Then 1 coffee and 1 herbal tea. Then 1 black tea and 1 herbal tea, then 1 green tea and 1 herbal tea, then finally 2 herbal teas. It was a couple of months but it worked. Even on the last step down (to no caffeine), it was a little painful for a few days. I just took tylenol. I stayed off caffeine for 2.5 years and started again this winter.
