[90-CHALLENGE] THE NINETY DAYS CHALLENGE !

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  1. Puretim

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    So it's another day pmo free. Today I havent had the slightest interest in sex in any way. It's not what I would call a contented celibacy but more of an apathetic lack of interest. Not a plus , and maybe not a minus ,but a nothing. .....One day at a time.
     
  2. Bobske

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    Yup, not normal here in The Netherlands. But Go Dutch!

    42 days, 1.006 hours of the rest of my life
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    43 days, 1.030 hours of the rest of my life
     
  3. Bobske

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    see a doctor if it persists, might be something else. Take care, (and drinking lots of water helps my headaches)
     
  4. truehunter

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  5. Black jack

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    Completed 15 days of my streak don't know why this time the urges are coming constantly never experienced this but fighting constantly and i will win this fight
     
  6. testwarz

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    Yes buddy! Almost hard to believe, but you know, this time I'm gonna keep going after 90 - next goals are 100, 150, 180.
    Please keep going also and follow along with me!
     
  7. james0422

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    Thanks. It is probably related to nofap, as I never had that level of headache before in my memory. Maybe I am wrong. But I am much better today with just a little headache
     
  8. james0422

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    Day 38. Headache is still a little when I bend over, but it is definetely getting better.
     
  9. testwarz

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    Hey mate - I feel amaaazing! yet in some ways a bit regretful in what could have been many many years ago.. Never mind, we are here now!

    There are so many things to explain, which I will soon, but in short:

    - the big big key is that fapping screws your dopamine reward system - by hacking dopamine through fapping, your body doesnt need to find other productive ways to reward you through life goals.... hence all the issues with depression, brain fog, lack of motivation, finding a partner, financial goals, killer instinct etc etc

    - on a personal side, all the known things are really happening to me.. deep deep voice, hair much thicker, skin and face glowing, chicks turning around cause they smell my pheromones, its through the roof.
     
  10. bromor

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    Day 48 No M
    Day 153 No P

    This video for today!

    Have a nice weekend guys!
     
  11. Merry Terry

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    I agree with fantasies being something you just have and you have no control over. But in my experience there is a big difference with just thinking about something and then really expanding this fantasy and using it as something to M to. The first is normal and healthy, the second is in my case another way of running away from reality into the same make-believe world that P provides me with. So yes, fantasies are perfectly okay, as long as you don't indulge in them, just watch them arise and let them go again.
     
  12. Merry Terry

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    Day 4.
    I joined this forum 208 days ago. Of those 208 days, I was 186 days without M’ing to P.

    I'm feeling depressed seeing all the high numbers of you guys and knowing I would have been nearing 40 days now if my indulging in fantasies hadn't thrown me off last week. Thoughts like 'If I don't get to 90 days this time, that'll be the prove that I just can't do this and I might as well give up.' Just yesterday I also came across an old diary from 2014 where I talked about how I really have to stop PM once and for all, and well, here we are.

    I'm very aware of how dangerous these thoughts are, so I'm gonna ignore them and celebrate another day of making the right choices. Every good choice counts.
     
  13. testwarz

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    Day 86/90! - in 4 days i will light the warrior torch and hand it to the next person reaching 90... we have a strong group that are not too far away! meet me at the summit bros!!!
     
  14. hellofriend86

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    So close. You can do it! Proud of you and look up to you!
     
  15. hellofriend86

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    Hello,
    Checking in.
    Day 17/90- no PM
    Day 13/90- no alcohol.
    40 day streak learning French on Duolingo.

    Thank you all for your support. I log in here every day and read your posts and it makes me strong. Thank you. If I could meet you guys in person I would hug you all.
     
  16. Timothy_James

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    Good points, @hermitthefrog! I think I agree with the gist of what you're saying here and I think my statement "fantasizing is unacceptable" was way too vague.

    You're right that we cannot control which thoughts COME IN to our heads. So, in the case of erotic dreams and nocturnal emissions we have no control over that. I would definitely not consider that a relapse or even a failure of any kind. I ALSO agree that if you see an attractive person (or even for almost no reason at all) a fantasy could pop into your brain. I've definitely experienced this and, I agree, there's nothing you can do to stop this from happening. I wouldn't consider that a slip. You're right, that's normal, healthy, and part of having a sex drive.

    The point I'm making by saying "fantasizing is unacceptable" comes from my own experience and was really directed AT ME specifically (sometimes my writing on here is unclear because I'm sort of journaling at the same time....so sometimes my words are actually meant to be addressed to myself). The point I'm making to myself addresses 2 scenarios:

    1) The first case is where I see something/someone that turns me on OR my brain just decides to produce a fantasy because chemically I'm craving sex. In this case, while I didn't choose to produce the fantasy, I CAN choose where I give my ATTENTION and how I RESPOND to that fantasy. A healthy response (I believe) would be to appreciate the beauty, appreciate the sexual feelings and drive, remind myself that now is not the time for sex (that is, unless the person is my wife and we're at home! haha!), and choose to return my attention to my present moment and the responsibilities in front of me. The UNHEALTHY response (and again this is simply coming from my personal experience) is to set my attention on this fantasy, let it build sexual tension and feelings of discontent, let myself feel that I NEED a sexual experience right now, and leave the present moment with its responsibilities. I found this response (if it doesn't lead to complete relapse) will typically make nofap very difficult.

    2) The second case is when I'm struggling with urges and temptations to look at porn and I DECIDE to fabricate a sexual fantasy in my mind. Just creating imaginations in my mind can make me feel some level of dopamine rush and lightly "scratches the itch" for porn. It's kind of like edging but only in your mind. I used to excuse this because it wasn't technically looking at P or Ming. However, in practice I've found this only makes things worse. It's like being on a diet and choosing to think about cake and donuts all day. Not technically breaking the diet, but really not helping you achieve your goal. Furthermore, it continues to support the CRAVING for porn, even if you aren't acting on those fantasies.

    Those are my experiences anyway. I believe each person thinks and functions a bit different, so probably each of us has to decide what we will and won't tolerate.

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts! I really believe that discussing these particulars is really helpful for all of us. Life tends to be way more nuanced and complicated than we want it to be. These types of discussions really help bring clarity (or at least help us learn how to THINK in ways that bring clarity). I'm interested to hear any response you might have to my thoughts here!
     
  17. Timothy_James

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  18. hermitthefrog

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    Thank you for this response, it's a great clarification of what you wrote earlier and I really appreciate that we can have useful discussions like this on the forum! I agree with both your points 1 & 2.

    I have to admit that I occasionally fantasize as kind of a substitute for P, specifically to help me calm down and take my mind off things that bother me when I lay down to sleep. Even if this kind of thinking is not relapsing, it could be considered slipping/edging, because like you mention it does reinforce the craving for P. Furthermore it is an inappropriate/potentially damaging solution to a problem (not being able to sleep) that needs a better solution. For instance meditation would be a better alternative in those situations.
     
  19. hermitthefrog

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    On day 46/90

    I am quite sure I've never gone this long without PMO!
     

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