[90-CHALLENGE] THE NINETY DAYS CHALLENGE !

No PMO hard mode - Day 90+
No coffee Day 73
No smoking Day 11

Hi guys - Great to see so many of you making steady progress day by day!
Even for the guys that have relapses, stay strong and just keep getting back up one more time every time!
Let's keep supporting and encouraging each other and smash those streaks.

Benefits I've seen after 90 days
(You'll find a lot of the cliche benefits but this is real deal in terms of things I've experienced)
- Instinctive feel way way more manly.. can stand my ground but keep my cool
- Deep voice, way deeper than it used to be.. everyone loves it, guys/girls friends family etc
- Face glowing
- Eyes no longer blood shot, milk white
- Dark eye circles 80% gone
- Hair thicker and shinier
- Sleeping way earlier and waking up at 6am without alarm (stopping coffee helped a lot with this)
- Brain fog gone..
- Internally really happy... random people smile at me and i smile back
- 10x more interest from women... when I'm out in public I'm getting all the body language signs from 20 yr olds to 80 yr olds
- no longer putting up with crap from people... I'm still cool but if people dont show me enough respect I'll move on and not let them rattle me or waste my time
- really focussed on my personal life goals now
- I'm really keen on women but I'm in a flatline so I'm more focussed on the healing and re-wiring process... women will come in due course
- diet is so much better
- mainly walking for exercise - around 8-10km per day

Supplements I'm taking
- ashwaghanda
- mens multi vitamins
- zinc/magnesium
- some test boosters, but since not at gym at the moment i've paused those
- circumin
- vitamin c

in summary, since I'm not flooding my body with cheap dopamine through fapping, my brain is looking for other more productive ways to get dopamine and hence sorting my sh$t out and improving my life...

Lets keep doing this!!!

Test

 

I'll plan to stay on this forum for the foreseeable future.. Since its probably the most active one, I think we can all support more of each other here..
Though I'll only put 90+ as my streak....

 

Day 30
I have a couple sexual dreams (not wet dreams) almost every day. I can't understand why so often. Besides i can control my urges during the day. Is anyone in the same situation?? I hope this stop.
Stay strong guys!!

 

Day 55

 

Day 57 No M
Day 162 No P

A nice short from a speech from Jim Carrey! Really like this one -

Have a great week guys!

 

37/90

 

Thanks for all your inspiration!

 

Hello,
Checking in. I am finding that part of my whole problem is loneliness. It sounds so selfish to say that since I am married and we do have a great relationship. Especially since lockdowns started I have become increasingly lonely. I dunno....

Ok- on to the positive. I am on Day 26- no PM, Day 22- no alcohol. My confidence is way up! I have been running a lot (almost too much, so tired) but before when I would run I would be too ashamed to run without a shirt on. Now that I feel much more confident (and I have lost 2 inches off my waist because of not drinking beer) I go running without my shirt. I don't know if anyone else can relate to this and it sounds so stupid but it's a big step for me.

I want to thank all of you for your continued support, your posts, and your honesty. I appreciate you all. If I could meet you in person and give you a big bro hug I would.

 

Day 47! I run 30 mins this morning and had no stomach pain after breakfast. I even had a small cup of whole milk to test my tolerance of lactose and after an hour I was totally fine without any stomach upset. I used to have severe diarrhoea after drinking milk, but this past nofap experience seems making me more tolerant to lactose. This is really exciting! As for why I somtimes felt nausea and stomach pain in the past days, I found that the rice might be the reason. I am not sure though, since I used to eat rice a lot without any issues. Nofap is like rebuilding my digestive system in a positive way, since my ten years’ loose bowels was gone and become more shaped. I am so grateful that you guys in the nofap community provided a chance for me to find this place.

 

Relapse
I'll be back 61 days later precisely. when I can finish the previous 7-60-day challenges of this starter.

 

4/90

 

Correction: Day 0. Resetting again. I'm skirting the edges again, got triggered by a sexy album cover in Spotify (shit is everywhere), googled it, googled some related content, touched myself not even because I was turned on but just out of anxiety..

It feels like I'm just going back and forth: either I manage for some weeks to stay away from P but then I constantly go to Facebook and Instagram and reading the news; or I manage to not do that so much - like today - and then instead it eventually boils over to me drooling at every hint of sexiness that I see online.

I'm writing this with a LOT of frustration. I feel like you all have to think of me as a joke by now, watching me do reset after reset for over half a year.

But I keep telling myself that it doesn't matter and it's part of the journey. I'm writing down all the negative thinking that is behind my desire for distractions and boy, it's a lot. What a mess am I. But I have to face that mess and untangle all the lies I tell myself. See the pain and go through it. Learn to look at it and stay unfazed. And I'm getting there. But dammit, am I jealous now of all you 30+-day-people.

 

Checking in on day 55/90

Had some bad food and too many beers this weekend; detoxing today.

 

I don't think anyone on here thinks you're a joke. I certainly don't. I do not look down on someone who has a genuine desire to improve and is struggling with the process. Anyone who does, needs to take a look at themselves.

It's interesting you mention social media and the news. Even when they are not sources of sexy images, they are still feeding the dopamine craving/reward loop, just like gambling, videogames, etc. The PMO addiction is for most of us part of a bigger problem, meaning our brains are hooked on receiving stimuli all the time, sexual or non sexual.

This is easier said than done but have you ever tried going a day without news and social media? Or without internet at all? I know pretty much everyone is dependent on the internet for work, social contacts etc. so they can't just go offline for a day. Perhaps a more realistic option could be having set times for checking email, messages and social media; for example once in the morning, once in the afternoon and once in the evening.

 

Thank you for your encouraging words. I just keep being amazed by how fucking hard this is for me. I should be able to just do this - you know?

Yes, I see social media/news and PMO as two things that are definitely related in my brain, or serve the same function - PMO serves it more intensely and I feel the bad influence of it on my body and mind more clearly afterwards, but I realise apart from that relative difference, in essence they are the same.

I have tried several techniques to stay away from the internet, but none of them have been very successful. But then, at the same time, I do have days where I stay away from the internet without any effort; basically, those are the days where I'm so engaged in positive activities that keep my mind busy and leave me fulfilled. So, clearly the ultimate trick is to have my whole life be like that. But then things like work or relationships throw difficulties at me and each time I have to fight the urge to run away - which I guess now for each 2 or 3 times that I succeed, there's 1 time that I fail. Which is progress, but not enough.

I will try a quotum like that again, thank you. How is that going for you @hermitthefrog? What are your main tricks to keep yourself from dopamine-shots like that?

 

Totally relatable.
I think we must understand the real facts that porn is bad.
Subconsciously, our mind still thinks it is a reward, it is good, it is enjoyable.
And after relapse, all the rational, guilt, and shame came back and hit us so bad.
We need to rewire our brain until a point that when we see any sexy images, we can calmly say no to it, and not getting hock by it anymore. For me, I don't smoke, so there is no point for me to smoke. Same goes to this, we want to achieve that goal that there is no single feeling for porn, we can rationally say to ourselves: this is bad, I will not watch it.

Some suggestion: fight the new drug website
This website has a lot of insights into how porn harm us.
Eli Nash said to everyone that his 10 years goal is to get rid of porn.

 

Day 10/90 checking-in

 

Day 65 completed. Keep believing in yourself.

 

4/90.

 

17/90