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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by 2525, Oct 27, 2017.
Day 1. I joined this forum 253 days ago. Of those 253 days, I was 221 days without M’ing to P.
All my relapses fit in these two scenarios now:
1. frustration because I stumble upon a beautiful woman or a sexy story online and I want it to be real but it's not, and I don't want to accept that so I try to prolong the fantasy/frustration
2. sad and mostly unsuccessful attempts to get horny because I want to escape from something
There is 0 joy or actual excitement involved anymore, most of the time I'm not even hard. It's purely based on behavioral patterns now. Sadly, I'm a creature of habit and I always have a hard time ridding myself of bad behavior. But I'm getting there.
Well done, mate.
Yeah I've noticed habits in my experience.
I think anyone can overcome this addiction, but there are two ingredients that make it easy; staying busy, and being around other people. Unfortunately, most of us are often alone and we all have plenty of time on our hands, normally in the evening. So instead of having that support, it comes down to will power or self-discipline, which is the hardest form of discipline.
Being back alone in my flat, my mind keeps urging me to PMO, especially after a recent relapse. I'm so close to day 0, what's one more relapse for old times sake, ey?
Like you said, we're creatures of habit. My mind associates being alone here with PMO and it often says to me 'these are the conditions for PMO, what are you waiting for?!'. It's really difficult to break these habits that have been baked in over so many years, especially on our own.
Day 68 today. Crazy how good I'm feeling. So many urges have been prevented from adopting new habits and making those my standards for everything, but still always good to avoid triggers like being tired, hungry, or lonely.
checked into day 19 and really surviving in the method of tackling urges but one thing for sure that i will never give up , whatever it take i will complete my all targets . also i have completed my target of 18 days of nofap so my next target is to complete 21 days and also the 3rd week so really hoping for the best and all the best to myself
Very true. PMO for many of us isn’t only about sex but also about dealing with boredom, loneliness, frustration, anger, anxiety.. it’s basically a way to distract ourselves from any negative situation/emotion.
What this means is that we need to indentify these situations and emotions and find a way of dealing with them that doesn’t involve PMO or other forms of escapism.
Last night was the last night of my 90 day challenge. I called it complete at midnight but of course did not want to relapse. I only want sex with real women for the rest of my life.
I had a tough night though: thinking about a few girls a know made me very horny. I tried to hook up with one but she flaked on me.
This made me feel quite frustrated and for the first time in weeks the thought of looking at some P crept back into my mind. I couldn’t sleep.
The solution for me was to watch some Mark Queppet videos, to remind/reinforce why I’m doing this. Finally I was able to fall asleep..
That's amazing @discovery! you are almost there, I am so glad!
On day 91/90!
I am not taking this challenge again because I want to be able to be with women.. a lot!
No PM is the way forward for me though, I’m looking for the right thread to join to stay accountable on that front.
When I find the right thread/challenge I well post in this thread which one that is.
Yes, this is exactly how my brain works. And yes, like you said, the more often I do it, the more acceptable my brain thinks it is. Even though I take no more pleasure from it, it's just still up there as one of the go-to activities that my brain reaches for in times of stress. Which is every day now with working from home, for me.
For me, I would go further and say that at this point, PMO is not about sexual desires at all for me anymore. It has nothing to do with it. It's an entirely separate thing that I do to escape and distract myself.
Day 17 and moving.
Mark Queppet, I'll have to check him out.
Yeah, don't think it'll ever be gone. Like any addiction, it's always there. Just wish it wasn't so easily available in our moments of fragility.
Well done for the 90 day challenge, man. I hope to make it there myself, I really hope!
feeling really aggressive in a good way but i need to workout and study more
Day 536 at attempting this challenge
Day 185 weigh training (M, W, F)
Day 2 Jogging (Tues &Thurs)
Day 56 No caffeine and no alcohol
Lifestyle: reduced desserts
Thanks so much amigo! Hope all is going well with you!
Congrats hermit! Well done.
Day 88 of 90 complete! (No P)
Day 85 of 90 complete!
Total clean days - 23
Total PMO - 21
Total P - 2
Total hours remaining - 2105
1st Goal - 7 days
Days remaining - 5
Goal completed - 0
This time I will do it. My 7 day goal is to complete.