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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by 2525, Oct 27, 2017.
Day 31 completed.
Day 17/No PO
Thank you @vicicool for encouraging words, by God's grace I will finish and strong.
Oh, how time passes...
Day 1 No M
Day 252 No P
Thanks @Timothy_James for the nice reply. What you say makes sense )
Yes, again this - GOOD
Day 0/90. I'm starting over.
I relapsed yesterday nigh
It was a kind of M with my GF, I will fight again, this is not something that can't do
Hi I hope you guys are all doing great!
I have some stuff to get off of my mind.
As you might know, I live with my family. Mother and brother. My brother is extremelly toxic, as he is very disrespectful and arrogant.
I had a fight with him yesterday and slapped him in the face, because of him not helping out with shopping and being arrogant and denying as usual. He got pissed off and slapped me back. My mother is not able to stand up for herself because of her personal mental issue so, when I stand up for myself, she turns against me.
I always have to carry 12liters in each hand from the store to home. I also help my mother financially and actually payed half of almost everything of my brothers stuff as well, which he takes COMPLETELY for granted. Sometimes I think he has a mental disorder, because he doesn't seem to have a self-awareness, as he lies with everything and never admits his faults by himself. Oh and he asks for money quite often because he is indebted to his friends or whatever. His friends are also suspected of having robbed us.
He is a spoiled brat that thinks that I am retarded and not worthy to being listened to.
My mother has some complex issues in her head, I don't even want to start with.
Basically this household is extremelly toxic, but I know that my PMO addiction plays a big part in why my brother turned out the way he is.
I am still not sure if I can thrive in this environment, as I know that this environment IS my old paradigm.
I was also thinking of leaving and living alone. (while mentioning, that my family will not help me, as I am the one who is actually helping my mother and my grandfather who is actually helping, thinks that I should live with them forever)
It's just that, the apartments here in Portugal are complete shit. Unless you pay above 800€ in rent.
And with shit I mean, apartments from the year 1755 or something and with weak wood doors, poor security, some on the ground floor, with the door leading directly to your bed.
No kitchen or one oven but no stove.
Maybe for some people that's alright, but I just probably couldn't sleep at night.
So I'm still planning. Maybe you guys can leave me some of your thoughts? I'd appreciate it.
71 days of 90 complete.
Ooh my brother,thank you for sharing. This may not be easy but I know you are stronger.
Personally I would not leave my mother if she has a mental issues Don't give up, with your support it will turn out to be better.
How old is your brother? Perhaps you may have to communicate boundaries and expectations. Refrain from turning disagreement physical, there are many ways you can send your message. Maybe you try to avoid him where possible as you are saying he is toxic.
May you have wisdom and peace. Just remember no circumstance is permanent.
Thank you for the reply man, I really appreciate it.
My mother is ok, she can take care of herself. There is no need for me to stay forever lol. I'm 24 and my brother is 18.
It's extremelly hard for me to get through to him by words. He turns every argument against you and he usually tries to lie and persuade as well.
His mere presence is offending and humiliating for me, because he literally believes that I am a retarded piece of shit that has no friends lol, and he thinks of himself as "better".
I think the best bet is to explain boundaries and rules and refrain from contact.
I honestly have to start thinking to live by myself, it's not going to happen anytime soon probably, because I need to be well prepared financially etc.
But I need to get away from them. I am very able to make friends that are caring and positive.
For now I also want to try quit the addiction, to attract more positive things to my life.
Maybe my life can still change while I am here. That is what I hope.
All the best to you and much success!
@RestartGame_ i dont have any suggestions, just wanted applaud you for being strong to deal with all thats happening to you.
Hope things get better.
The period during the third week of the reboot has been the most trickiest for me. I have relapsed during my previous attempts during this phase. Hope this time I will get through.
I would appreciate if you guys have any suggestions for how to pass through the coming week.
Thank you so much man, I appreciate it!
All the best to you!