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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by 2525, Oct 27, 2017.
Day 2 feeling much better than yesterday. Let’s do this!
Love this. Thanks for sharing.
Day 43 Resisted some strong urges today
Starting to feel like it's not worth continuing guys.. Like I can't tell if I'm gaining something or losing something. I feel like when I don't release I start to be consumed with the idea of sex or having a significant other. Maybe its not the masturbation, but I do think it is a relief and reminder than I don't need someone to feel pleasure.
Urges happen but having been through this a few times before it's best to push through.
Do something to take your mind off PMO, go for a walk, call a friend or relative, just go and sit somewhere in public! Listen to a meditation or read an interesting book. There are lots of different options to get through these stages.
Day 3 ahead, woke up feeling puffy and a bit bloated. Not in the mood to do today's scheduled run but I'm going to get out there.
There's one girl I've been talking to recently and it usually ends in sexting/her sending naughty pics. Any advice on what to do? I want to pursue things with her but I also don't want to be triggered/tempted.
These are effects from the Recovery man, trust me. YOU ARE gaining something in a lot of areas - discipline, delaying gratification, sexual healing and so much more. It is natural to have all kinds of feelings in the beginning parts even some depression, but stick with it. Urges will happen at any time. This group is about recovery - no one says you should stop masturbating for life - that is for you to decide. Besides - there are many other things you can do to feel good or fullfilled than just have an orgasm.
Have a nice day everyone!
Somewhere along the way my days got mixed up. Today is Day 29/90.
Yesterday sucked. My sister-n-law visited us last week and tested positive for COVID after returning home Saturday so my whole family is now in quarantine. It’s going to be a long tough stretch at the house. Wish me luck.
Hey buddy! Please don't give up! I've totally experienced what you're talking about. Sometimes I get into a rut where if I don't have an orgasm for more than about 7 days my brain starts flooding with thoughts of sex. It can get so overwhelming that I start losing focus on everything and can't do anything until I jack off.
An important note on this: that is not a healthy brain talking!! A healthy person can go longer than a week without sex without becoming obsessed with it. I don't say this to shame you AT ALL. No shame brother. I deal with the same thing. If anything I'm encouraging you to dig deeper into WHY you feel that way. It will lead you to better understanding of yourself and your issues.
I've learned from enough experience that this obsession that overtakes me IS NOT my natural sex drive talking....it's my brain demanding pleasure. My brain might be demanding pleasure for many reasons, not the least of which is simply that my dopamine receptor system is way out of whack from using so much porn so my general craving for pleasure feelings is way stronger than it should be. It's very important for all of us to down-regulate that part of our brains to establish a healthier baseline.
On top of that, we tend to use porn to mitigate pain in our lives. The next big question I would be asking if I were you is: what pain am I trying to avoid using sexual pleasure? It could be lots of things like stress at work, hurt in relationships, failure in career or school, broken family dynamics from childhood, etc.
Let's keep going together and find better health!
New member, first challenge! It’s time to do this! Wish me luck...